Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by delectablegyal(f): 10:00am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Did you fvck her? If you did, so why are you wailing like pdp apologist like when buhari won the elections? |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by 2undeee(m): 10:01am On Feb 13, 2016 |
My brother just let her be and face your work if she is truly yours den she will fine her way back but if do anything stuipd u will find urself in unredemabel conditon and she will still go 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Stylz69(m): 10:01am On Feb 13, 2016 |
I am not a relationship expert so I have no words of my own for you but I read this on someone's profile and I'm sharing it with you ...Live your life like no one is irreplaceable. Put the past behind you and focus on the future. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by AyamBlaze: 10:01am On Feb 13, 2016 |
I thought some compassionate Nairalander would have called him by now with a job offer worth 250K per month ![](/faces/huh.png) Still waiting for a post that'll say "a fellow nairalander offered me a job...* 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by anonimi: 10:02am On Feb 13, 2016 |
hurting:
She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant. Firstly, how do you know that she STILL loves you? If she moved on means she has a new man ready to marry her, right? You may need to re-devote yourself to your current hustle and grow it very well or get a good job while looking for a REPLACEMENT to the impatient ex. Statistically there are millions of ELIGIBLE females that you can hook up with when/if you so desire. The pains of loss you feel now will pass eventually. We came ALONE into this world and normally will leave ALONE. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by firstolalekan(m): 10:02am On Feb 13, 2016 |
hurting: Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.
I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.
After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.
Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.
This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.
She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.
Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit. Pls help a brother.
pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.
P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.
Both of you have a very low self esteem ![sad](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/sad.png) So because of white collar job, she's giving you conditions and you're devastated? ![shocked](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/shocked.gif) It's so annoying! How much salary can you earn? 100k? At most 300k? That's chicken to what you can make if you're hardworking with your present ict job. Facebook owner... BillGates, seun of nairaland, lindaikeji etc... You lady is just too selfish. I don't think she really loves you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by kunlesufyan(m): 10:03am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Choi!!! I'm not a pro in relationship issues, but you are well schooled. One funny thing about females is the way they play victim just so u think they are helpless in the matter ..it won't be a bad thing if she decides to foot some bills along with you just before you get a good paying job but she just wants you to be earning that big 6 figures first before you both cn get married .for me I think u have done what any guy in love would do,stick to her for 7 yrs ,promised to marry her and all..if there anything I'm sure of ehn...is that you will meet someone better and that's a fact..just give her that big space ..this could be a way for you to know she isn't the one for you " i know a story of a guy who passed thru the same thing ,the girl left the guy to go marry and engineer .years later the engineer husband wrote a proposal to a company .then he has to take his wife to meet the boss of the company. Unfortunately the boss was the guy she left years baq".....so brother you will be great in life ...don't call and don't beg,cos her mind is made up.. 5 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by midehi2(f): 10:03am On Feb 13, 2016 |
ecosanders: this bitches aint loyal at all, am currently in d same mess, though mine was just a year old before she start misbehaving, am seriously hurt right now, but i have to move on, i cant just imagine what i have not done for dis bitch, school fees, accommodation, laptops, phones family expenses etc..
its now she know her boyfriend in abroad have return.
dont kill urself o, she is not worth it. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) funny you 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by acevic: 10:04am On Feb 13, 2016 |
OP, painful experience indeed. 1. She's not faithful, at least to you. Geddit? She got another man while she was with you. 2. You make an average of 35-40k monthly as a self employed young man. Who says you need a job? You need to expand and increase your income bro. Don't soil your creative and biz spirit in the name of getting a job. You should be working on employing people. 3. You helped her secure a job. Now you are going to think about this for sometime but see it as a help you rendered for a distressed lady in need. 4. Do not try to win her back or impress her by looking for job. Do anything you want to do to make yourself happy. She has moved on to be happier. Work on yourself, go out with friends. Don't stay alone for long. 5. Stop trying to beg her. Believe me, even if she comes back. Things will never be the way they used to be. We humans move on. You are going to find it difficult to trust a woman again but don't let her actions steal away your happiness and you life. She has given you a wound that can be healed by love. The scar will be there for a lil while but will disappear when you find someone better. So stop crying. Few of us can relate to this. Maybbe not as hot as this sha 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by xxxtedyxxx(m): 10:04am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Pls kill yourself quick so the world can have one less timid guy who wants to die because of one yeye girl. 7 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by lordkay10(m): 10:05am On Feb 13, 2016 |
hurting: Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible......
Bros move on with you life, believe me there's nothing like true love, it's all make-believe. I wonder why people marry in the first place when the sole aim of marriage is to procreate, you can have children outside wedlock and live happily without the heartbreaks that we witness in most of today's marriages 5 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by rafcrown(m): 10:05am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Just try to be a man.If you die because of a lady,many ladies will pass through your tomb,piss there and call you names.If you miss a bus,another empty and well spacious bus will soon surface. We dont have knowledge of some issues-who is the right babe for us,when and how we will all die.Let God be in control.Be wise.Dont die young because you still have great things ahead of you. 4 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by hotswagg12: 10:06am On Feb 13, 2016 |
@op you need to man up. She is not destined to be your wife, that's why you have not been able to secure a better job. The job will come when you decides to let go of her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by dammytosh: 10:06am On Feb 13, 2016 |
She is gone.
She no longer love you. She is just hanging around because of fear of what people will say not for ur sake.
I won't advice you not to kill yourself but remember that they will have s3x the during or after your burial. (That is much more painful) 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Homguy(m): 10:06am On Feb 13, 2016 |
hurting:
Thanks bro! I fear she will get over me if I stay clear. I know her very well. And she is also heartbroken, she cries when I call her, as for d dressing, I have a very good dress sense, I kit well n dats one of d reason she loves me. bro, over the years i have learnt one important lesson never call an Ex. If you really want this lady back ignore her totally. Delete her off your bbm and whatsapp and ignore her on facebook.Ishock her with yiur aloofness. She will never come back or respect you if u go on calling her despite an6 cries she may givr u when you call. I have more than 3 ex girlfriends disturbing my phones right now, stalking my social media because immediately we broke up i simply treated them like they never existed though in each case it was extremely painfull but i had to so it. Please, forget about her abd make more money. If you keeep calling her and dont make some headway financially she'ld only be happy with her decision to leave you. P.s please stop giving her attention right now, as you are making the break up easier for her to get over. ...and even if she doesn't cone back, dont lose your respect as a man by begging. You are a Man, not a child. Learb to let things go. She would respect you more, and likely regret leavibg later on. Btw, i straff my Exs these days for the fun of it even though they did the breaking up. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 7 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by cedargroove: 10:07am On Feb 13, 2016 |
hurting: Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.
I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.
After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.
Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.
This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.
She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.
Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit. Pls help a brother.
pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.
P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.
Bro,congratulations. You dodged a massive bullet! This hoe ain't loyal! My story worst pass yours
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Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by freecocoa(f): 10:07am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Dreamflyin: OP, thanks a lot for being honest about her. Some dudes will start off by painting her up as unfaithful and all. Thanks Op. You're on the good path. Thanks again. She loves you, no doubt about that, but sometimes, life throws things in our path that even the strongest emotion can't withstand. She's gone, but she's still there. Don't hate her. She did her bit. Dust yourself up. It's hard, and I wouldn't claim to know how you feel, or understand your feelings. If you commits suicide, you lost. You lost her, and the world/life defeated you. She always loved you and will still do, but if she grew up in want, that phobia will always get her apprehensive of the future. She wants better for her kids. I'm not God to tell you that a job is on the way and make you feel good, but you'll be a better man if you pull through this. Best of luck, bro. I'm in deep sorrow with you. God keep you. You obviously don't know the first thing about love. 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nicepoker(m): 10:07am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Op. Send he to 9 months compulsory course. Na u dull ur self. 3 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Lexusgs430: 10:07am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Hurting - You want to kill yourself because of a woman? Many men would pass over her after your death, would you wake up from the dead and die again, when this happens? Dating and Marriage is not by fire or by force!!! If she wants to move on, let her. She probably was not yours, you were simply rocking her for somebody else. Imagine marrying her and you hit hard financial times after the marriage. Imagine the atrocities she would get herself involved in, right in front of you and behind your back. Count yourself lucky!!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Ataidara: 10:07am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Her unquestionable and loyal love for u is questionable. U are hardworking she got a good job via ur efforts and now she has moved on ![](/faces/huh.png) ? If she really wanted a future with u she would av stayed. If she wanted to build a home with u she would av stayed. She nor try. Bro take d time to allow ur heart to heal. It's only a matter of time. Pls don't come and go and time. Someone else deserves u. There is someone for everyone 2 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 10:08am On Feb 13, 2016 |
hurting: Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.
I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.
After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.
Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.
This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.
She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.
Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit. Pls help a brother.
pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.
P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.
She is wiser now. All you guys shared was at best puppy love. It fades with mental maturity. Stop sulking, her perception of life courtesy of a better job has done the usual transformation which everyone experiences each time grace takes us a step higher up the ladder of social class. You too could have done similarly if you got a better job before she did. 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by MoNickk(f): 10:09am On Feb 13, 2016 |
just move on. it's hurting now because its still recent. after some time,u may discover some things about her that love blinded you to. develop yourself for yourself n not for any girl. 3 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 10:11am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Decker: Look bro, first things first. I'll advise that you don't relent in your hard work and search for a job, but you shouldn't make the mistake of doing all this with the mindset of winning your girl back. To be honest with you, the girl made her decision and she chose someone else, someone more financially capable over you, despite the long way you the both of you had come. It's kind of sad, I know, but it's her choice and she has her reasons. She has told you she has moved on and I think you should too. Things like this happen at some point in our lives and when this kind of things happen, the best thing to do is to just wipe the dust of pain and regret off of you and move on with your life. That girl betrayed your love and friendship, all on the altar of having a better life. That tells a lot about her character and what exactly it is she wants from life. Even if you do win her back, which is highly improbable, what's your guarantee that she won't leave you for someone else in future when the going beings to get tough?
The thing about love is that it makes you think that person you are in love with is the best person out there, but that's not true. You might think that no one can be as pretty and fun and smart and all those good qualities you admire in her, all in one, but there are actually other girls like that out there, better girls. And out of them, there is one for you. But in other for you to see them, you first have to remove the scales of supposed love from your eyes. So, stop crying like a baby and get this girl off your mind, free yourself from all the negativity and keep looking for a job and I know you will find one. And when you do find one, work hard to be established in it, and along the line, you will find the right girl who really deserves you. that's why I ways said don't give a NAIJA WOMEN your heart no matter what. I learn my own lesson in the hands of NAIJA WOMEN and I know that they don't really want you to love them. enjoy your life as it is now! don't ever love a black women, there are the skin of the DEVIL! 3 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by IamOpemipo(m): 10:11am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Atlantian:
2sexy, dont even trust your wife, it is as bad as that. Dont even trust your own self when it comes to love. How many times do we make up our minds not to talk to a certain girl or have anything to do with her. Then the moment we set our eyes on that person, may be with a beautiful dress and you just change your mind instantly. You dont wanna leave her again, and the penury continues.
Again, let me add the issue of children. With his finances, he will be in penury if he dares to marry and have kids. He needs to make money first, before attempting marriage or even having a girl friend. After the illusion of love, what next happens even in marriage ? Even with your money, you can be irritating to her and she to you.
Our parents generation believed that kids will always come and take care of them at old age, it used to work but not anymore, the economic realities on ground keeps a man trying to make his wife and kids happy and hardly have enough to extend to aged parents. We put parents on monthly stipend, a stipend that our wife uses to shop at the stores and malls and let me be clear. The money our girls use for buy handbag these are like 3 months allowance we give our aged parents mostly. So, do not get married because you want to raise kids quick so you can see them grow.
Make love a zero-sum game. Do not demand for sex except it is the lady that presents it, cos they use our demand for sex to table their needs, in the end...our coins runs out while the cup runneth over. Go for excorts, very sexy ones when conji calls. Wise men know these to be true.
Men, be wise. When I grow up, I wana b like u ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by happney65: 10:11am On Feb 13, 2016 |
I can count the comments from the Ladies here..Very few..Yet they are viewing in mass.They can't comment cos that is what they do..Awon Oloshi people.. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 7 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by slinkman(m): 10:12am On Feb 13, 2016 |
first , start by deleting all her pictures from your phone and computer, all of them.. delete her off your social medias, look for female friends to console you till you get strong bro, online and offline... then go out more often with friends, i know how it feels, believe me in less than a month you will start forgeting what her face looked liked...... it hass happened to almost everybody bro.. so iknow how you feel... remember delete everything about her and go out alot this period.. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Btruth: 10:12am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Did you say you are considering suicide? |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by iyke649(m): 10:13am On Feb 13, 2016 |
As for me oo. May be u are not dat good in bed. Datz y she left u. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by freecocoa(f): 10:14am On Feb 13, 2016 |
And for the records Mr hurting, your ex was and is not faithful, a woman you are in a relationship with, tells you she's found someone else, someone she wants to marry o and you are still calling her faithful?
Dude, no matter how much in love you think you are, don't deceive yourself by living in denial. 5 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Vision4God: 10:15am On Feb 13, 2016 |
@hurting Don't hurt urself, u gat better life ahead. Tho painful but gradually let go. U will sure find ur helpmate. Take it dat God used u to bless her but surely u wud tel d story how u overcame.
U ar a success and u hv a bright future.
Do more of prayers, play games, read books.... God strengthen u |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 10:15am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Bros Bros Bros pesin when get hear na him dey hear. From experience> first delete all her contact from ur fone and unfriend her from all social network then see her as ur greatest enemy. Thirdly look for a girl more pretty than her. I tell you after all these you are good to go. Also on the social media especially on facebook post better things and check in better places. And lastly if she eventually called never sound like you miss her be bold and have confidence. If you can do all this things you will thank me leta. hurting: Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.
I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.
After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.
Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.
This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.
She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.
Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit. Pls help a brother.
pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.
P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.
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Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by ecosanders: 10:16am On Feb 13, 2016 |
midehi2:
funny you true, i understand how d OP feels right now, u feel like killing urself, imagine she have to tell me we can keep dating, but without d option of marriage, how am i suppose to leave with that? i will be right here, i know her a** will be kicked back here...... 1 Like |