Hello NLanders. I have being pondering over a question for a while now, I just feel I should get ur views on it.

Personally, am not a fan of relationships. Am just the kind of guy that likes to develop himself and get established before considering relationships. But then in the contemporary society, it has become almost a ritual for guys to date several girls before finally settling down with one( a majority of the time, these guys are not even established yet). This has left me with the question: Do relationships form a criteria for a successful marriage in the future?

That's it. ur inputs will be highly appreciated. Tnx.

yes

No.

Variety brings competition and confusion, so NO

kateskitty:
Variety brings competition and confusion, so NO

what are you really saying

Na wa oh, this simple sentence you don't understand

kateskitty:
Na wa oh, this simple sentence you don't understand

I guess ur marrying the first guy u see in your office

EnigmaticEnigma:


I guess ur marrying the first guy u see in your office

Call me old fashioned but back in the days of our parents when there was less bullsh!t and unnecessary background noise involved, they lasted longer in marriage. Today there's so much do this, must have that and yet what happens. Divorce rates are going through the roof.
My point, look for the basic. But nothing I say will help you, we live in a selfish world where everyone else is out for what they want.

kateskitty:

Call me old fashioned but back in the days of our parents when there was less bullsh!t and unnecessary background noise involved, they lasted longer in marriage. Today there's so much do this, must have that and yet what happens. Divorce rates are going through the roof.
My point, look for the basic. But nothing I say will help you, we live in a selfish world where everyone else is out for what they want.

Don't you think this is overly simplified?

I really believe that our parents were only scared of divorce, not that they were exceptionally faithful, while couples of today don't fear the stigma that comes with being divorced.

Yes people are selfish, hence all the more reason why one must date until a great match is found, with both parties equally willing to sacrifice and compromise. of course sex doesn't have to be involved in this process if one was really serious about the goal.

so please bae, take ur time to find the right one, not just anyone.

Kateskitty, enigmaticenigma........ I think both of you are right, you guys just have different views about it

EnigmaticEnigma:


Don't you think this is overly simplified?

I really believe that our parents were only scared of divorce, not that they were exceptionally faithful, while couples of today don't fear the stigma that comes with being divorced.

Yes people are selfish, hence all the more reason why one must date until a great match is found, with both parties equally willing to sacrifice and compromise. of course sex doesn't have to be involved in this process if one was really serious about the goal.

so please bae, take ur time to find the right one, not just anyone.

I already have, that's why I'm confident about what I'm saying

yes!....dere are need for a relationship before marriage!....u ought to know if u are compatible wif ur partner,if not,den u keep on searching!


buh I don't support wen u are nt yet established but dating,wat if somfine unexpected happens,like impregnating d lady,.....

Nonsense.


To me, I really think having too many relationships don't guarantee u a blissful marriage.
And yes, it's possible to love one woman up till marriage!

Well, marriage itself is a relationship.one of d reasons marriages crash dis days is because people stop working hard to make it work
...it has got nothing to do with d number of prior relationships one has had b4 marriage....