Hello Nairalands

Am Chinyere, am a native of Anambra State, I stay in Abuja, am a business woman. I tried as a young lady to build house for my parents in the village, and I have a car as well.

I met this guy, he is a graduate, but as for me I wasn't opportuned to go to school, but I finished my secondary school. We liked each other,we dated for like 6 months. And finally we did traditional marriage.

After that he left to Lagos where he stays, and I was in Abuja, I was waiting for our wedding date to be fixed. Anytime I visit him in Lagos. He don't normally  talk about our wedding.

One day, he called me that, he heard that I was the one that built house for my parents, that I should bring money for our wedding. I was shocked,wondering why he will say such a thing to a woman he wants to marry.

What should I do?

Should I bring my money out, or is it not the duty of a man to bring out money and marry a wife. Will my own be different.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/is-it-right-for-girl-to-bring-out-money.html?m=1

Laughing.

It is totally wrong for him to do that.

But if you are

(A) Genevieve's age you can support him 50% for the marriage.

(B) Onyeka Onwenu's age then you can support him 75% for the marriage.

(C) Ita Giwa's age then you can support him 100% for the marriage.

(D) Ishilove's age, then he has to sponsor the wedding 100% .

Marriage is meant for a man and a woman ,not a baby boy and a girl

Una don start again o

just like that?that man is maddddddddd

The man should foot the bill. By the way, you are already his wife since the traditional rites has been done. Must you do another wedding?

am single we can hookup and trust it will be the best ever love .. NNE look well ooooo.. that guy is not smilling ooo.. the way that yahoo man will suck you dry in the next 6 months ehh kai I no go believe am.. u better stop that marriage ooo

His manner of approach or request is very bad, he is the man & should act responsibly but on your part u can decide to give your own contribution willingly & not forcefully, that should even be after u have seen his on contribution. Ma'am i fear ur relatnship oh, u really don't knw dat man enough as u should b4 evn accepting for any introduction.

Its sole duty of a man to bring money for the wedding but you can build houses for your parents. You forgot both of you have a lifetime together.

The guy is not thinking straight. He should never have said that. Even if he does not have enough, he can lovingly seek for support from you. I hope he is not an opportunist.

Be careful with him. I wish you all the best

gennypearl:
Hello Nairalands

Am Chinyere, am a native of Anambra State, I stay in Abuja, am a business woman. I tried as a young lady to build house for my parents in the village, and I have a car as well.

I met this guy, he is a graduate, but as for me I wasn't opportuned to go to school, but I finished my secondary school. We liked each other,we dated for like 6 months. And finally we did traditional marriage.

After that he left to Lagos where he stays, and I was in Abuja, I was waiting for our wedding date to be fixed. Anytime I visit him in Lagos. He don't normally  talk about our wedding.

One day, he called me that, he heard that I was the one that built house for my parents, that I should bring money for our wedding. I was shocked,wondering why he will say such a thing to a woman he wants to marry.

What should I do?

Should I bring my money out, or is it not the duty of a man to bring out money and marry a wife. Will my own be different.


Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/is-it-right-for-girl-to-bring-out-money.html?m=1

sister if ur sure he loves u... bring it out

u never can tell!

In my opinion it's nt a man duty to sponsor wedding alone. Marriage is done for the both of yo. It's not like he benefits alone from it. You both benefit. So why is it his duty?

I have a question, do you love him? Do you really wish to make him your life partner ? If yes then I see no reason why you cannot contribute funds to your wedding. Unless you are getting married by force maybe he forced you are gun point or you just don't have sense. Then he can foot it alone.

Alot of people are still in 1200 BC

She built house for her parents so she MUST sponsor their wedding?
Dude lack manners

HungerBAD:
Laughing.

It is totally wrong for him to do that.

But if you are

(A) Genevieve's age you can support him 50% for the marriage.

(B) Onyeka Onwenu's age then you can support him 75% for the marriage.

(C) Ita Giwa's age then you can support him 100% for the marriage.

(D) Ishilove's age, then he has to sponsor the wedding 100% .

And what is Ishilove's age?

Ishilove:

And what is Ishilove's age?

20.

HungerBAD:


20.

O really? How very flattering

I weep another man intimidated by a woman's success. But then, I believe the wedding can be sponsored by both of you if he can't handle it alone. It's only unfortunate that he's making it a compulsion because of your achievements.

You really need to think about this thoroughly in a futuristic manner, don't start what you can't keep up with. You will end up being the single financial wheel of that marriage instead of a supporting arrangement.

- You will sponsor honeymoon (if any)
- You will pay the house rents till you build for him in the city
- You will pay bills for childbirth and procure the baby items yourself
- Feeding will be on you
- As the kids grow you will fend for them in all areas
- At a point he will deliberately stop working to depend solely of you. Yes, you will start giving him husband allowance.

I can go on...

My comment may seem like one from sleepy eyes but I can tell you that you have enough warning signal for a jerk of a husband. With all these achievements I know you're quite advanced age wise, but please any marriage that doesn't make you better in almost every aspect of your life is a sham.

"the bring money out" is it that the total bill falls on you,or to assist in the expenses?

If the total bill is on you,then its wrong,if to support,no big deal.

The manner he asked too is totally wrong.

Well, he made a right request in a wrong manner.
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@op.. First n foremost, wat state is he from? Cos in ur own point of view, its only normal a man foot d bill, n dat only apply in d eastern part. In south south, its 50:50, y in south west, d majority part goes 2 d brides family y d groom n his family only assist. So all bend dwn 2 tribe. N according to you, u guys av done d traditional rites, so y waste more money all in d name of "white weddin"? Such money can b channel 2 beta tins.. Bt if u insist on goin on wit it, u can as well assist him wit d bills, dere is notin wrong in sponsorin ur own wedding if u r capable