HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
by Maryam Habu shinga
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.
Jazakallahu khairan

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Am tall, nd get alot of compliments nd am single nd searchn.. So ladies hook me up so you would be d lucky 1 of the 50 girls..

husbands are not scarce... Just build your personality and you ll see men cluster and fight for attention... Men are naturally Hunters... so make yourself a target, they ll come for u

Makanjuolaa:
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
by Maryam Habu shinga
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.
Jazakallahu khairan

Jazakallahu Khairan. Sounds Islamic. Do you muslims run prayer houses too? Hmm.
*sips cold coke*

OK, let me comment small. See enh, husband scares true true, but somethings cause am oo;

1. MONOGAMY. (for Christians only) when Christianity wasn't so strong in our societies, one man can marry Six to Seven wives. When that is done, every other thing is left for you the incoming wife. Your husband has a responsibility of giving you a piece of land to farm on. He will provide what you need to farm with that year you are coming in as a wife, after that, you are on your own. The feeding of your children is your responsibility. How many children you are able to have is your Luck, because that means more hands to work in the farm. No Education for all, no carrier.

Here in the riverine area, a man can marry Ten, all he needs do is provide them with Canoe and fishing Nets that's all. The women fight amongst themselves for his attention. They treat him well, feed him as well as their children and their husbands relatives who come to live with them.
So the number of women gets reduced.

2. I live in Port Harcourt and has lived here before kidnapping started. And since kidnapping started, I can't say I know how many men have been killed as a result. But, I know that so many youths, young husbands and bachelors who shd marry the ladies were killed and are still being killed on daily bases. Most of the crimes like, armed robbery, kidnapping are masterminded by men mostly young men. Right here, when caught, say good bye. Or, let me put it like this, right your Will before you go out, because if you are caught, your parents won't be contacted, you just vanish.
On Wednesday this week, there was a serious raid. Armed robbers raided a bank trying to steal from a Buller Van, it took them about an hour to succeed in carrying out that operation. At last they all were caught. Non of their family members will be contacted. They are all dead. Who marries their wives? If caught as a kidnapper, there's nothing like Court case, you are just dead. Who marries the women they should marry?
Each year men die of heart attacks, stroke high blood pressure far more than women. Who marries their wives?

3. CHRISTIANITY. Whether we are following Christ as we shd or not, Christianity is having an effect on us in this aspect. ONE MAN TO ONE WIFE.
you go gree make man marry you as second wife? Every woman want white wedding. West two Rings

4. Hash Economy. Plenty gals want ready made husband, But na so Bible talk am sha. Man suppose fit provide for him family.
Country hardddddddd. No man want marry sef.
The new trend in Town is, immediately you meet a guy, when he askes you your name, the next thing is, what do you do for a living? If you say you have a job, or do business, he gets very serious with telling you how much he loves and cherishes you. Somboory u just met oo.
Women are becoming more bread hardworking than men.
Young men go for sugar mummies more.

LAZINESS. I know a lady wey dey find husband by all means, come meet this loser. The house wey him dey live, na woman pay for am, wen him see this new one, him tell dat one say, him don wife wey him want marry. Dat one vexxx, go. This new one, think say she don see husband. Everyday as she dey go out for biz, she go drop 2k for up keep. Food dey house oo. She dey buy the guy clothes. Everyday, him dey talk about that big contract wey one director suppose sign for NDDC.
How Shell suppose pay their community some millions and him share inside big. She dey happy say she don see man. This guy go sleep till 10am, wake up baf, chop, call one small stupid girl for neighborhood take hold body. Till one day she come back house come jam them. We for compound know who the guy be, but you no go talk nah.

5. NOW WOMEN COMPETES FOR MEN'S ATTENTION WITH OTHER MEN.
women dey hustle men, dey try to marry, but other men too dey hustle the same men. E no easy Ooo.


All in All, it's a fulfilment of a Biblical prophecy.
Isa. 4:1. And in that day, seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, we will eat our own I food, and wear our own clothes, only let us be called by your name, to take away our reproach.
Every word from the Bible will be fulfilled, this one husband Scarcity prophecy is getting fulfilled right before our eyes.

analice107:


Jazakallahu Khairan. Sounds Islamic. Do you muslims run prayer houses too? Hmm.
*sips cold coke*

OK, let me comment small. See enh, husband scares true true, but somethings cause am oo;

1. MONOGAMY. (for Christians only) when Christianity wasn't so strong in our societies, one man can marry Six to Seven wives. When that is done, every other thing is left for you the incoming wife. Your husband has a responsibility of giving you a piece of land to farm on. He will provide what you need to farm with that year you are coming in as a wife, after that, you are on your own. The feeding of your children is your responsibility. How many children you are able to have is your Luck, because that means more hands to work in the farm. No Education for all, no carrier.

Here in the riverine area, a man can marry Ten, all he needs do is provide them with Canoe and fishing Nets that's all. The women fight amongst themselves for his attention. They treat him well, feed him as well as their children and their husbands relatives who come to live with them.
So the number of women gets reduced.

2. I live in Port Harcourt and has lived here before kidnapping started. And since kidnapping started, I can't say I know how many men have been killed as a result. But, I know that so many youths, young husbands and bachelors who shd marry the ladies were killed and are still being killed on daily bases. Most of the crimes like, armed robbery, kidnapping are masterminded by men mostly young men. Right here, when caught, say good bye. Or, let me put it like this, right your Will before you go out, because if you are caught, your parents won't be contacted, you just vanish.
On Wednesday this week, there was a serious raid. Armed robbers raided a bank trying to steal from a Buller Van, it took them about an hour to succeed in carrying out that operation. At last they all were caught. Non of their family members will be contacted. They are all dead. Who marries their wives? If caught as a kidnapper, there's nothing like Court case, you are just dead. Who marries the women they should marry?
Each year men die of heart attacks, stroke high blood pressure far more than women. Who marries their wives?

3. CHRISTIANITY. Whether we are following Christ as we shd or not, Christianity is having an effect on us in this aspect. ONE MAN TO ONE WIFE.
you go gree make man marry you as second wife? Every woman want white wedding. West two Rings

4. Hash Economy. Plenty gals want ready made husband, But na so Bible talk am sha. Man suppose fit provide for him family.
Country hardddddddd. No man want marry sef.
The new trend in Town is, immediately you meet a guy, when he askes you your name, the next thing is, what do you do for a living? If you say you have a job, or do business, he gets very serious with telling you how much he loves and cherishes you. Somboory u just met oo.
Women are becoming more bread hardworking than men.
Young men go for sugar mummies more.

LAZINESS. I know a lady wey dey find husband by all means, come meet this loser. The house wey him dey live, na woman pay for am, wen him see this new one, him tell dat one say, him don wife wey him want marry. Dat one vexxx, go. This new one, think say she don see husband. Everyday as she dey go out for biz, she go drop 2k for up keep. Food dey house oo. She dey buy the guy clothes. Everyday, him dey talk about that big contract wey one director suppose sign for NDDC.
How Shell suppose pay their community some millions and him share inside big. She dey happy say she don see man. This guy go sleep till 10am, wake up baf, chop, call one small stupid girl for neighborhood take hold body. Till one day she come back house come jam them. We for compound know who the guy be, but you no go talk nah.

5. NOW WOMEN COMPETES FOR MEN'S ATTENTION WITH OTHER MEN.
women dey hustle men, dey try to marry, but other men too dey hustle the same men. E no easy Ooo.


All in All, it's a fulfilment of a Biblical prophecy.
Isa. 4:1. And in that day, seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, we will eat our own I food, and wear our own clothes, only let us be called by your name, to take away our reproach.
Every word from the Bible will be fulfilled, this one husband Scarcity prophecy is getting fulfilled right before our eyes.

u are right if u are looking at it from that angle.. But i disagree my dear, there is no wife when u want to marry.... My mentor told me some salient truth when i was young(13years, my versatile curiosity didn't start today) about marriage, i will like to share it if u ladies permit me.

Blackfire:


u are right if u are looking at it from that angle.. But i disagree my dear, there is no wife when u want to marry.... My mentor told me some salient truth when i was young(13years, my versatile curiosity didn't start today) about marriage, i will like to share it if u ladies permit me.

Am not right what exactly?

Blackfire:


u are right if u are looking at it from that angle.. But i disagree my dear, there is no wife when u want to marry.... My mentor told me some salient truth when i was young(13years, my versatile curiosity didn't start today) about marriage, i will like to share it if u ladies permit me.

Pls share. From you, I will forget this cooking and listen.
*graps chair and a coke*
Fire away.