Will try 2 b brief. Plz ur advice will b of grate help. I met ma bf last year while serving, his being a loving, understanding, encouraging guy though nat rili buoyant financially buf d truth is I dnt care. I dnt get into any relationship because of money. am mostly interested in d heart of d guy and Wat his future will b. And I no by d grace of God and his efforts he will b a rich man in future. He said he wants 2 settle down wif me by Dec and his making preparation towards dat. am glad abt it not only because I lov him buf also because i understand him and we hardly argue. Buf d problem is, there is a particular topic we argue abt and dat is d issue of church 2 attend and our religious differences. We are both Christians wif different views abt things. He is of d opinion dat u pray for ur enemies even wen u no dat dai av sworn dat over their dead bodies will u survive n make it in life. and d church he attends is of d same notion. And am of d opinion dat "if u want me dead u will die in ma place". because u can't kill me or make things difficult for me, den u leta repent and fulfil ur aim in diz world while I die without achieving ma aim. I believe in returning Wat ever u wish me back to d sender. And i attend a church dat blives dat. Am from a royal family n we av a lot of bad people dat are ready 2 wipe out ur family 2 take away d throne from ur family since d stool/ crown rotates in 5 different families and they are all fighting for it. Secondly, There are other external factors dat arises from officers, once environment etc. and even ma family experiences dat is making me hav dat notion. because I no dat, it's not everything dat happens 2 a person is ordinary, some are spiritual. Our different view is d major problem. Coupled wif d fact dat he does not bliv dat my church is doing d right thing. And wen ever I talk abt diz church stuff it poses a serious misunderstanding b/w us which makes both of us 2 b sad. We are currently not talking to each oda right now due 2 d same matter and am already having serious doubts abt him. I love him buf d truth is I dnt no if I should continue or give him time or even quit. Becos It hurts me dat we hardly argue buf we are now arguing on a particular issue Which is d church issue as I cnt tell if I can go 2 his church or even hav his notion. Should I just quit or giv him time? And if I may ask is ma own notion a bad one? Am rili sorry for any mistake in ma post.

You guys must be using different bible too

I love relationships even when there is no problem one of them will create one.

yes notion is not wrong, there is a better way you can handle it

If u love him that much,plz swallow ur pride...even Christians married the Muslims or Muslims married the Buddhist...this shud not be abt whose better but about how open u are when it comes to discussion...besides religion shudnt be part of arguments since both of u are Christians...

Juz saying

Plz giv examples of oda ways.@ zyzxx

KashyBaby:
If u love him that much,plz swallow ur pride...even Christians married the Muslims or Muslims married the Buddhist...this shud not be abt whose better but about how open u are when it comes to discussion...besides religion shudnt be part of arguments since both of u are Christians...

Juz saying

. Dear am nat a proud person.[quote][/quote] . Just dat it's becoming a serious issue and his not talking 2 me.

chericleo:
Will try 2 b brief. Plz ur advice will b of grate help. I met ma bf last year while serving, his being a loving, understanding, encouraging guy though nat rili buoyant financially buf d truth is I dnt care. I dnt get into any relationship because of money. am mostly interested in d heart of d guy and Wat his future will b. And I no by d grace of God and his efforts he will b a rich man in future. He said he wants 2 settle down wif me by Dec and his making preparation towards dat. am glad abt it not only because I lov him buf also because i understand him and we hardly argue. Buf d problem is, there is a particular topic we argue abt and dat is d issue of church 2 attend and our religious differences. We are both Christians wif different views abt things. He is of d opinion dat u pray for ur enemies even wen u no dat dai av sworn dat over their dead bodies will u survive n make it in life. and d church he attends is of d same notion. And am of d opinion dat "if u want me dead u will die in ma place". because u can't kill me or make things difficult for me, den u leta repent and fulfil ur aim in diz world while I die without achieving ma aim. I believe in returning Wat ever u wish me back to d sender. And i attend a church dat blives dat. Am from a royal family n we av a lot of bad people dat are ready 2 wipe out ur family 2 take away d throne from ur family since d stool/ crown rotates in 5 different families and they are all fighting for it. Secondly, There are other external factors dat arises from officers, once environment etc. and even ma family experiences dat is making me hav dat notion. because I no dat, it's not everything dat happens 2 a person is ordinary, some are spiritual. Our different view is d major problem. Coupled wif d fact dat he does not bliv dat my church is doing d right thing. And wen ever I talk abt diz church stuff it poses a serious misunderstanding b/w us which makes both of us 2 b sad. We are currently not talking to each oda right now due 2 d same matter and am already having serious doubts abt him. I love him buf d truth is I dnt no if I should continue or give him time or even quit. Becos It hurts me dat we hardly argue buf we are now arguing on a particular issue Which is d church issue as I cnt tell if I can go 2 his church or even hav his notion. Should I just quit or giv him time? And if I may ask is ma own notion a bad one? Am rili sorry for any mistake in ma post.

Your notion is not bad based on your denomination but will advice you be open to learning others opinion about the said issue!

Consider Christ whom we claim to follow, He had many enemies while here on earth but how many did He pray for their death? Instead, He commanded us to love our enemies!

REMEMBER: The builder labours in vain except God builds and the watchman also except Baba God is involved!!

Personally, I hate it when Christians try usind God as IED!
I will definitely keep mute when such prayer points are given in church

because, He(God) need my enemies when decorating that high table for me!!


My view though!!!

let me guess,..
He is a member of christ embassy and u are a member of mountain on fire
My dear even the great master Jesus said love and pray for your enemies.
So i think he is right.
I beleive in Jesus.

RELIGION! RELIGION!

See how it wants to ruin this lovely relationship.

You better not let this problem ruin the love you two have for each other.

Okay. If he wants you to conform to his practice, fine! Follow him to his church, when his pastors raises a prayer point on the 'enemy shyt', don't pray it. Pray your own kinda prayer in your mind. Your business is in what you believe in, and not anyone's.

You can kill your enemies all you want during your quiet times.

To find husband materials these days hard. If you know your guy loves you, you gotta use wisdom.

chericleo:
Plz giv examples of oda ways.@ zyzxx

well to me it require wisdom, since he is born again, did he compulsory it to you that you guys must attend the same church? if not, you don't have to argue with him with your believe, leave him, pray your own prayer, when prayer join you together pray to please him, with time his eyes will open and he will understand you.

zyzxx:
well to me it require wisdom, since he is born again, did he compulsory it to you that you guys must attend the same church? if not, you don't have to argue with him with your believe, leave him, pray your own prayer, when prayer join you together pray to please him, with time his eyes will open and he will understand you.

he said he will wed me in his church. And his being too strict abt d church thing because he wants d whole family 2 attend 1 church. Am ok wif dat part buf I told him dat, for peace 2 prevail we should both compromise by leaving our both churches. Buf dear it's being difficult for him 2 accept.

Aviero:
RELIGION! RELIGION!

See how it wants to ruin this lovely relationship.

You better not let this problem ruin the love you two have for each other.

Okay. If he wants you to conform to his practice, fine! Follow him to his church, when his pastors raises a prayer point on the 'enemy shyt', don't pray it. Pray your own kinda prayer in your mind. Your business is in what you believe in, and not anyone's.

You can kill your enemies all you want during your quiet times.

To find husband materials these days hard. If you know your guy loves you, you gotta use wisdom.

thanks dear

skywalker240:
let me guess,..

He is a member of christ embassy and u are a member of mountain on fire

My dear even the great master Jesus said love and pray for your enemies.

So i think he is right.

I beleive in Jesus.

ur guess is wrong. Buf u made me smile wif dat guess. Thanks for dat

zyzxx:
well to me it require wisdom, since he is born again, did he compulsory it to you that you guys must attend the same church? if not, you don't have to argue with him with your believe, leave him, pray your own prayer, when prayer join you together pray to please him, with time his eyes will open and he will understand you.

. Ok. Thanks a lot

lecturerdabo:


Your notion is not bad based on your denomination but will advice you be open to learning others opinion about the said issue!

Consider Christ whom we claim to follow, He had many enemies while here on earth but how many did He pray for their death? Instead, He commanded us to love our enemies!

REMEMBER: The builder labours in vain except God builds and the watchman also except Baba God is involved!!

Personally, I hate it when Christians try usind God as IED!
I will definitely keep mute when such prayer points are given in church

because, He(God) need my enemies when decorating that high table for me!!


My view though!!!

ok it's a gud idea. Thanks

chericleo:
ur guess is wrong. Buf u made me smile wif dat guess. Thanks for dat

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chericleo:
he said he will wed me in his church. And his being too strict abt d church thing because he wants d whole family 2 attend 1 church. Am ok wif dat part buf I told him dat, for peace 2 prevail we should both compromise by leaving our both churches. Buf dear it's being difficult for him 2 accept.

it a normal thing that wedding is to be conducted a d bride church, but pls don't be to carried away all in d name of Christianity, u deserve to be respected in some of ur opinion u both need a counsellor to make things work between you and him to clarify somethings for you both, pls thinks twice ur husband to be is a kind of person that will hardly change anything he stand on. My opinion thou I pray God grant u wisdom to make d right decision amen.

zyzxx:
it a normal thing that wedding is to be conducted a d bride church, but pls don't be to carried away all in d name of Christianity, u deserve to be respected in some of ur opinion u both need a counsellor to make things work between you and him to clarify somethings for you both, pls thinks twice ur husband to be is a kind of person that will hardly change anything he stand on. My opinion thou I pray God grant u wisdom to make d right decision amen.

ur saying d truth dear. And dat is d major challenge. Thank u so much.

chericleo:
he said he will wed me in his church. And his being too strict abt d church thing because he wants d whole family 2 attend 1 church. Am ok wif dat part buf I told him dat, for peace 2 prevail we should both compromise by leaving our both churches. Buf dear it's being difficult for him 2 accept.

It's written in the Bible that a wife should be submissive to the husband, how can you be telling your husband to be to leave his church for peace to reign. Are u marrying his church or him?. Young lady, God gave us all brains, kindly use urs. He's the one marrying u nd not the other way round, so I see no reason y u should be telling him to leave his church. U're entitled to ur belief but dnt let it get in the way of ur relationship. Am a roman catholic, my fiance is Anglican but we're still happy together. Apply wisdom here

mizzkweenbee:

It's written in the Bible that a wife should be submissive to the husband, how can you be telling your husband to be to leave his church for peace to reign. Are u marrying his church or him?. Young lady, God gave us all brains, kindly use urs. He's the one marrying u nd not the other way round, so I see no reason y u should be telling him to leave his church. U're entitled to ur belief but dnt let it get in the way of ur relationship. Am a roman catholic, my fiance is Anglican but we're still happy together. Apply wisdom here

. Thanks for ur advice buf plz dear dnt jump into conclusions. Wen 2 people are not in agreement dere is bound 2 b compromise from both side for peace 2 prevail. Ur a roman catholic and ur hubby is Anglican at least Anglican is not dat different from catholic. Ur lucky. Wat about som1 dat her parents are pastors from deeper life or assemblies of God church wanting 2 marry a man from catholic do u no how different d churches are In their beliefs? And d gal is ready 2 make compromises 2 liv her church even against her parents wish buf begging d guy 2 liv catholic and for both of dem 2 settle in Anglican church. So parents from both side will b pleased and d guy refused. How do u fink her own people will feel abt it because his after satisfying his own side. I no ur entitled 2 ur opinion and it matters 2 me buf dear d guy in question does nat change his decisions no matter whom is involved is dat how marriage should be?

Honestly as a christian,his notion is better. Jesus said to love your enemies and pray for them and this is very hard and also one reason we try everyday to look at the bright side of things and people.

This is not enough reason to break your relationship. you guys can do better. First,learn to accept this notion of his as a humble person that I trust you to be. See reasons with him,find some other solutions together and be considerate with each other in this view and most importantly please keep your relationship.

chericleo:
. Thanks for ur advice buf plz dear dnt jump into conclusions. Wen 2 people are not in agreement dere is bound 2 b compromise from both side for peace 2 prevail. Ur a roman catholic and ur hubby is Anglican at least Anglican is not dat different from catholic. Ur lucky. Wat about som1 dat her parents are pastors from deeper life or assemblies of God church wanting 2 marry a man from catholic do u no how different d churches are In their beliefs? And d gal is ready 2 make compromises 2 liv her church even against her parents wish buf begging d guy 2 liv catholic and for both of dem 2 settle in Anglican church. So parents from both side will b pleased and d guy refused. How do u fink her own people will feel abt it because his after satisfying his own side. I no ur entitled 2 ur opinion and it matters 2 me buf dear d guy in question does nat change his decisions no matter whom is involved is dat how marriage should be?

I understand what u're saying dear, but since u've decided to leave ur church for peace to reign, dnt insist on him leaving his as well. U've decided to compromise so do it to the fullest since u know he doesn't easily change his mind. If u really love this guy, please dnt let religion come bwtn wat u guys share

Thanks dear. Will try ma best