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Stop portraying women as "objects of easy virtue".
Even that phrase, "spend on her"... is derogatory! Any woman worth her salt, aside the broke-azz, material-minded ones, know what l am talking about.

My junior sister had a boyfriend (which she later married) but she insists that he cannot give her gifts worth more than she can give him... till they are married. Material things was never a factor in deciding if they would get married or not.
Infact, my sister likes to spoil him and the guy sef dey do shakara as he would refuse anything worth more than 5K from her.
He once asked her to return a birthday Wrist Watch that cost about 10K back then in 2001 ...unless she would agree that he re-imburse her.
Eventually they shared the cost between themselves....... and he found a way to spend the other half on her later.
That is how to build healthy relationship were one party is not a slave to the other.

That way, even if they broke up, he can never boast of "spending my money on her" (which is what and where it ends most time with guys), he can never regret "wasting his money on her", he can never have any sort of "hold" on her, plus it makes her walk wit her head high (dignity) and the guy knows she is with her, not for his money.

No wonder Nigerian girls dont want to go out with a poor, struggling guy.
Reminds me of Monica (Money and Car! )

On the other hand, we all preach emancipation of women, equality, respect, bla-bla-bla. How owuld a man respect you, if he already 'bought" you like a slave?
Why not flip things around and say "You are not with a Man/He is not your Man, ..if you cant spend money on him"?
See how ridiculous that sounds?

Relationships that are based on "how much you have to spend on me" are bound to make the receiving party (the woman) have LESS VALUED in the eyes of the one doing the paying (the guy).

I would rather we emphasize "SHARING" between Lovers

Come and see how my sister's husband respects her so much, even till today!

Well, l can understand for women from extremely poor background who see a Boyfriend as a "Meal Ticket" and ladder to good things of life!
"Gold-Digger" is a very, very bad insult for a woman.
God punish Poverty and lack of Dignity.



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repogirl:
Tahh! Shattap dia osiso, how much kobo do you have in your acct. dat you are making a noise?

Big boys don't make noise! All they say is 'Bebe spend ma money!'

So shattap and go make ya money!

olac21:


Ahahah!see her!good defence anyway but you missed the point!however,the amount I have in my account is not meant for public consumption!yollo

Kay17:
Relationships are role plays like acting. The male and female play the respective dominant and sub roles. Each party even fabricate their emotions to play along these roles. The male ideally provides TO PROVE LOVE while the female proves the same love in a subservient manner by opening up.

The sad part is, it is all acting sometimes deserving a universally recognized Oscars. Neither does it worth living for or investing.

Now that females have equal opportunities in the workplace and bigger pockets that come with it, the subservient role isn't what they are comfortable with anymore. The male experiences an anxiety that his dominant role is at sake. He is not indispensable anymore, since a female can play the role conveniently. he finds himself subservient to women in his workplace. Eventually there is a role crisis..

That's why men are not comfortable with successful women. They are terrible with them.

So! Are You?

Uncomfortable with successful women, I mean?

Rexhenrex:
wow,so a guy should only give his girlfriend gift and money when she offers him sex? Am touched then there i no dichotomy between her and a call girl i must say.

repogirl:
I was just playing anyway but still shake body small for your girlfriend (s)

Arsenate:
broke asssss gold digger spotted here; whacked beggi beggi shameless way of life. We know your type and your psychological manipulation does not work on us

pcguru1:


Omo na to park for filling station buy Sunday morning

pcguru1:


Omo na to park for filling station buy Sunday morning

missyadorable:


It's a pity you can't read and understand simple English.Where in mu comment did I say a guy should only give his girlfriend gift and money when she offers him sex?

You must be mentally retarded

I repeat no sex,no spending = Fantastic relationship..Go and marry so you can have all the sex you want,obviously sex is your problem

missyadorable:
Ladies,Keep your legs closed

Guys,Keep your palms supertight fisted

No sex,No spending= Beautiful relationship

Everybody hold your side

Nobody is cheated

No heartbreaks!

kukl0:
ladies are sumtimes not content wt wat is given to dem. imagine taking a girl to eat n all she wants is a way to reck the guy either by making excess orders or inviting friends hu wer nt invited. ladies shud also len to assist their men in a relationship. it helps alot.

NewSheriff:
I repeat, a man is only obliged to provide for his family, he can only support his girlfriend when necessary. A man has no business been responsible for a girlfriend's basic and secondary needs. Except on few occasions where the lady in question is actually helpless. It's only right to come in and help in the best way you can.

Why should a lady make it mandatory to spend on her monthly like you said? To worsen it, doesn't appreciate your effort. Abeg dey date better people. There are many nice girls out there that'll make you think gold diggers exists only in the mouth of nairalanders.

NewSheriff:
I repeat, a man is only obliged to provide for his family, he can only support his girlfriend when necessary. A man has no business been responsible for a girlfriend's basic and secondary needs. Except on few occasions where the lady in question is actually helpless. It's only right to come in and help in the best way you can.

Why should a lady make it mandatory to spend on her monthly like you said? To worsen it, doesn't appreciate your effort. Abeg dey date better people. There are many nice girls out there that'll make you think gold diggers exists only in the mouth of nairalanders.

Suigeneris93:
Three ways a man shows he loves a woman: he provides, protects and professes- Steve Harvey


The bolded says it all


*modified*
I won't dignify your quoting me with a response especially if you don't have anything meaningful to say. I'm not dating you and I most likely never will, so save your breath or in this case your epistle

repogirl:
Tahh! Shattap dia osiso, how much kobo do you have in your acct. dat you are making a noise?

Big STEWPID boys don't make noise! All they say is 'Bebe spend ma money!'

So shattap and go make ya money!

RiffRaff:
In Nigeria, the defination of a relationship is:
"2 people coming together to make the GIRL happy"
To the Nigerian female, a relationship is the escape out of poverty.
You can see them coming out to support the assertation that a man should ne spending on his babe.

What happen to your own hands. Go work for your own money.
Any smart man that has common sense will rather save and invest in his future than let lazy, bleaching, gold digging, brazilian hair carrying empty brained Nigerian girls ruin his finances.

What do Nigerian girls have to offer or bring into the relationship? Nothing, except making stupid demands for things their father cannot buy for them.

Go get a job b!tch.

Guys keep up the good work of not spending your money on gold diggers and leeches. Brokeass that have no money to even recharge their fone will call u 'stingy'. Let them say what they like.

The only Nigerian girl u should ever spend on is the one you know can do the same for you.

******
If u can, stay off Nigerian girls in totality, they are toxic to your life and are of no benefit. Try out foreign babes abeg and see the difference.

Suigeneris93:
Three ways a man shows he loves a woman: he provides, protects and professes- Steve Harvey


The bolded says it all


*modified*
I won't dignify your quoting me with a response especially if you don't have anything meaningful to say. I'm not dating you and I most likely never will, so save your breath or in this case your epistle

Joy1706:

Why so bitter? Who is d girl that shattered ur heart? Hahahaha