I've been married going on 14 years, my husband and I are in our mid and late forties and we are no longer having any intimacy, there is no intimacy at all, it feels robotic and forced when anything does happen in our
room. I feel like a helpless prisoner since I lost my banking job. He needs me to leave the room when he uses the bathroom like seriously? Sometimes I want to be stubborn and go nowhere but he is very controlling and I don't want neigbours to hear that roaring voice of his, so I leave and return when he is done if I like. Aunty Eya you won't believe my own husband that begged me to marry him is now the one that says to me "I'll get back to fucking you soon, just be patient with me.

Honestly, I don't know how to reply to that. I don't even touch him on impulse anymore because i'm afaid of rejection. But it's ok to massage him though and he won't say he's tired when it's a massage. Anything other than that or a little bit more and he starts complaining of tiredness. I used to at least give him oral everyday but then I got discouraged and tired of being the one on the giving end all the time, it became once in a blue month and eventually I stopped completely. If he cannot quench my desires, why would I bother satisfying him? So it has been that way since. He has alot on his mind he says. But that doesnt stop him from looking at porn. He cheated on me last year, and maybe about a month ago when he stayed out till 5 in the morning and didnt answer my call.

When I used my FBI skills to find out who the lady is, called her and he got to find out what I did, he cursed me out all the way, told me she was an option and he would leave her if i just didn't call her. When we fight he'll tell me if i had a "fatter backside, maybe that would help", Just Imagine my husband saying that kind of stuff to me. But then again he always doubles back to say he didn't mean any of what he said and he loves me. I feel like a roommate, invisible and terribly insecure all the time. I'm just going crazy, he used to be so attentive so its hard not to notice so much has changed in this period of our marriage. There are days when all I have to do is wake up to be on his wrong side, I'm greeted with, "you just have to get you a hobby or something, I can't be around you all day. I used to do so much, now I'm just
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