Dear romancelanders,

I just started dating this girl about three weeks ago though we've been friends for about two years before we became lovers. But the problem is that i find the whole thing very boring.

The calls, our chats on social media, everthing!. There's just nothing exciting between us and she's nothing even helping matters when i try to making things interesting, this irritates me alot. I'm thinking of ending it because I'm seriously unhappy.

OP, you are boring and She's boring, why won't the relationship be boring?

Eiyya

RexKexMilann:
OP, you are boring and She's boring, why won't the relationship be boring?

I'm not boring, this isn't the 1st relationship I've been in.
She just too rigid and bottled up.

No chemistry?

Try spice am up.....take away de boringness in de relationship.

Sinaj

Nova15:
Dear romancelanders,

I just started dating this girl about three weeks ago though we've been friends for about two years before we became lovers. But the problem is that i find the whole thing very boring.

The calls, our chats on social media, everthing!. There's just nothing exciting between us and she's nothing even helping matters when i try to making things interesting, this irritates me alot. I'm thinking of ending it because I'm seriously unhappy.

YOU MUST BE VERY YOUNG AND NOT MATURE YET FOR A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP..... ITS A FLING YOU SEEK. PLS DUMP THE GIRL AND LET A BETTER GUY WHO CAN TEACH HER WHAT YOU DO NOT YET KNOW TO DO HANDLE HER...... THIS IS HOW YOU MAY ALSO QUIT ON YOUR MARRIAGE IN FUTURE COS YOU THINK ITS ALL ABOUT HAPPINESS AND YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW TO GROW TOGETHER AND HANDLE SUCH MATTERS MATURELY.... LADIES ARE NOT THERE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY INFACT ITS THE OTHER WAY AROUND. YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE ASKED HER OUT IF YOU COULD NOT BEAR WITH HER TO SACRIFICE O. GUY WAKE UP FRO DAY DREAMING COS RELATIONSHIP IS HARD WORK

she doesn't want sex nd u label her boring....God is watching you o

greatnaija01:



YOU MUST BE VERY YOUNG AND NOT MATURE YET FOR A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP..... ITS A FLING YOU SEEK. PLS DUMP THE GIRL AND LET A BETTER GUY WHO CAN TEACH HER WHAT YOU DO NOT YET KNOW TO DO HANDLE HER...... THIS IS HOW YOU MAY ALSO QUIT ON YOUR MARRIAGE IN FUTURE COS YOU THINK ITS ALL ABOUT HAPPINESS AND YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW TO GROW TOGETHER AND HANDLE SUCH MATTERS MATURELY.... LADIES ARE NOT THERE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY INFACT ITS THE OTHER WAY AROUND. YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE ASKED HER OUT IF YOU COULD NOT BEAR WITH HER TO SACRIFICE O. GUY WAKE UP FRO DAY DREAMING COS RELATIONSHIP IS HARD WORK

GOD! how can someone be this dumb?

sinaj:
No chemistry?

Exactly,we have nothing in common

Nova15:


I'm not boring, this isn't the 1st relationship I've been in.
She just too rigid and bottled up.

I don't think anybody could be COMPLETELY boring. They lie that talkative side within everybody. If you want to be with her, try and dig up the talkative side in her.

There's another possibility. Maybe She's not really into You… Just maybe.

The guy that typed in upper case might also have a point.

Op you don't have to end it yet...too early.Look for ways to spice it up. Ask her what she wants to talk about if she's not responding to your chats, search the internet for answers(i do this alot), give her little space to miss you...maybe u call and text her too often (i hate this). If you've tried everything and it fails, maybe she has her heart else where.

N.B
Its normal for a relationship to become boring at a point but yours is too early.

greatnaija01:

YOU MUST BE VERY YOUNG AND NOT MATURE YET FOR A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP..... ITS A FLING YOU SEEK. PLS DUMP THE GIRL AND LET A BETTER GUY WHO CAN TEACH HER WHAT YOU DO NOT YET KNOW TO DO HANDLE HER...... THIS IS HOW YOU MAY ALSO QUIT ON YOUR MARRIAGE IN FUTURE COS YOU THINK ITS ALL ABOUT HAPPINESS AND YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW TO GROW TOGETHER AND HANDLE SUCH MATTERS MATURELY.... LADIES ARE NOT THERE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY INFACT ITS THE OTHER WAY AROUND. YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE ASKED HER OUT IF YOU COULD NOT BEAR WITH HER TO SACRIFICE O. GUY WAKE UP FRO DAY DREAMING COS RELATIONSHIP IS HARD WORK

Take my atm


He's just looking for fun. Relationship burdens are on men.

ehix89:
she doesn't want sex nd u label her boring....God is watching you o

That's not the case. Its not abt sex, we just don't relate the way we should be be relating.

Op you don't have to end it yet...too early.Look for ways to spice it up. Ask her what she wants to talk about if she's not responding to your chats, search the internet for answers(i do this alot), give her little space to miss you...maybe u call and text her too often (i hate this), Try to get yourself occupied with something else. She'll crawl back if she's yours.
If you've tried everything and it fails, maybe she has her heart else where.

N.B
Its normal for a relationship to become boring at a point but yours is too early.

my brother well, I don't know how old you are. But if she's a good girl, I'll tell you what I'd do. Keep her because they are hard to find.

But then:

If you're bored, move on or at least interview some other candidates while you're with this girl. If you're out there looking and you find that none of the girls stack up to the one you're with then it means you need to put in some extra effort trying to make things work with her. If you click big time with somebody else then that means it's time to give her the BYE sign.

Nova15:


GOD! how can someone be this dumb?

LOLSSS GUY U R D DUMB ONE O..... two years and you were still blind to enter relationship with her..... WHAT WERE YOU SEEING ALL THOSE TWO YEARS...... slowpoke.....you were simply looking at the wrong thing. YOUR CHILDISHNESS WAS REVEALED WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN DATING HER SHORTER THAN YOU WERE HER FRIEND AND NOW YOU ALREADY TIRED.... YOU ARE MERELY A WASTE OF HER TIME. YOU ARE NOT INVOLVED IN CONTRIBUTING POSITIVELY TO IMPROVE HER LIFE BUT RATHER SEEKING WHAT YOU CAN GAIN. hhahahahahahahaha....... HYPOTHETICAL FOOL

Nova15:


GOD! how can someone be this dumb?

Actually he has a point. You already expressed how unhappy you are and quite frankly it has come to a point I'll assume where it's irritating you. Leave her. You two aren't compatible. It's as simple as that

Nova15:


That's not the case. Its not abt sex, we just don't relate the way we should be be relating.

then up your game brov, I know some girls could be very very boring,its on you to bring the fun side of her....

Naija relationships bore pass borehole,
Here is a typical boyfriend/girlfriend whatsapp chat.
Boyfriend:hello Baby
Girlfriend:hi darling,
Boyfriend:how was your day?
Girlfriend:it was okay, your's?
Boyfriend:it was fine, but i missed you,
Girlfriend:i missed you too
Boyfriend:so, when can we see?
Girlfriend:i'm kind of busy this week, but i might be free on Sunday
Boyfriend:ok sunday then, i love you,
Girlfriend: love you too.
*THE END*.
and the circle will repeat itself, throughout the relationship, na only when dem wan break up, were chat go change

layla129:
Op you don't have to end it yet...too early.Look for ways to spice it up. Ask her what she wants to talk about if she's not responding to your chats, search the internet for answers(i do this alot), give her little space to miss you...maybe u call and text her too often (i hate this), Try to get yourself occupied with something else. She'll crawl back if she's yours.
If you've tried everything and it fails, maybe she has her heart else where.

N.B
Its normal for a relationship to become boring at a point but yours is too early.

Its not as if i don't knw ways to spice it up. The problems is that she doesn't respond to them. She's extremely rigid. I thought it's something i can change but now I'm thinking that the kind of person she is and I'm not cool with that.

ehix89:
then up your game brov, I know some girls could be very very boring,its on you to bring the fun side of her....

Trust me,this one has no fun side

Nova15:


Its not as if i don't knw ways to spice it up. The problems is that she doesn't respond to them. She's extremely rigid. I thought it's something i can change but now I'm thinking that the kind of person she is and I'm not cool with that.

The only way a girl can be that rigid is if she's not into you. What kind of rigidity is that towards a bf? Abi is she shy?

greatnaija01:



LOLSSS GUY U R D DUMB ONE O..... two years and you were still blind to enter relationship with her..... WHAT WERE YOU SEEING ALL THOSE TWO YEARS...... slowpoke.....you were simply looking at the wrong thing. YOUR CHILDISHNESS WAS REVEALED WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN DATING HER SHORTER THAN YOU WERE HER FRIEND AND NOW YOU ALREADY TIRED.... YOU ARE MERELY A WASTE OF HER TIME. YOU ARE NOT INVOLVED IN CONTRIBUTING POSITIVELY TO IMPROVE HER LIFE BUT RATHER SEEKING WHAT YOU CAN GAIN. hhahahahahahahaha....... HYPOTHETICAL FOOL

Please go to any beer parlor close to u request for a hot plate of pepper soup and very cold drink of ur choice ( I will suggest cold chilled malt) u hands are bless with wise word, no mind the guy. A child trying to play old mens game. Read book u no gree na woman u wan follow, e never boring reach

layla129:

The only way a girl can be that rigid is if she's not into you. What kind of rigidity is that towards a bf? Abi is she shy?

I can't explain what it is. But its not working for me at all.

Nova15:


Exactly,we have nothing in common

eh u can't date her na.

Ow una take meet sef

Nova15:


I can't explain what it is. But its not working for me at all.

Maybe something is bothering her. If not, just give her little time to come around or just take the bull by the horn and u guys shld talk it over.
If these doesn't still work, guy move on

sinaj:
eh u can't date her na.

Ow una take meet sef

We've been friends. We just sort of migrated into lovers.

layla129:

Maybe something is bothering her. If not, just give her little time to come around or just take the bull by the horn and u guys shld talk it over.
If these doesn't still work, guy move on

I think I'm ending it tomorrow. We are two different type of persons.

You sure she's not being boring cause she isn't feeling you anymore? She might have lost interest. "I've gotten this guy joor, the mystery is over...he's now tiny down there again, mchewww! Next please. Hmmm, maybe that rich, buff guy that just moved in next door...and he looks like he's packing. Just need to bore this one off ". Lol.

It might be something else tho. My point is, you need to find out if she's intentionally being boring cause I know females; they talk too damn much...and they have fun doing it. Get inside her head first before jumping into conclusions.

sinaj:
No chemistry?

no physics