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| 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:39pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
1. You don’t trust each other any more.
Trust is one of the most important parts of
any relationship and when you lose that, it’s
almost certainly time to end the relationship.
The signs your relationship has gone through
this is simple – you find yourself questioning
the other person’s motives, abilities and
reasons all the time. Everything from why
she’s acting so nice to you, to how much you
trust her to take something that is important to
you and respect it.
If there’s mutual distrust on either side, it can
lead to absolute crumbling of the relationship
and the foundations it was built on, causing
jealousy, anger, possessiveness and other
negative feelings to leak free and poison the
already tenuous relationship. Hitting this point
is very hard to come back from and one of the
reasons it might be right to end the
relationship. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:40pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
2. You realize you have different values.
We all have our own values that are
important to us – security, freedom, a
conservative family, a liberal family, an open
marriage. Whatever your values are, that’s
fine, but when they begin to rub
uncomfortably against your significant other,
it might be an early warning sign all is not
right in paradise and it might be time to end
the relationship.
Every relationship has a process of
compromise, negotiation and assimilation of
your partner’s values into your life, but
sometimes values are too distinct and different
to ever be reconciled without a drastic
compromise that will likely cause a rift as one
of you struggles against what you really want
and what you’ve decided you must become in
order to fulfill the other person’s needs. If this
is a serious problem in your relationship, it’s
best for both parties to end the relationship
and move on. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:41pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
3. You no longer make plans with him or
her in mind.
This one ties deeply into the idea if you’ve
slowly been pushing your significant other out
of your life psychologically, it’s time to
actually remove them. We all make plans for
the future, even if they only go so far as the
next few weeks or month or so, and your
significant other should always be considered
as a part of them, even if the plans don’t
directly involve him or her.
No longer making plans with your partner in
mind is one of the major signs it’s time to end
the relationship – if you’re not making plans
with your significant other in mind, he’s no
longer a big part of what you hold dear. If
you’re subconsciously seeing him in a
transient way, i.e. as if he’s not a permanent
fixture or a solid part of your life, then you’ve
already psychologically let go and are just
treading water. End the relationship so both
of you can move on. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:42pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
4. You no longer have any fun.
Relationships are supposed to be fun, and
joyous, and if you’ve lost that from the
relationship, it might be time to end the
relationship if you find yourself unable to
retrieve and reawaken the sense of fun you no
doubt once shared with your significant other.
Days have become dull, every attempt at
excitement or some happiness-inducing
activity is met with malaise or a general
distaste for something that breaks you out of
your routine. Nothing kills so much as endless,
anodyne routine, and that’s the same with
relationships.
A relationship should be responsible and
grown up as well as fun, so there should
always be a balancing of both sides. Being
responsible and able to cut loose means you
have the best of both worlds. If you’ve grown
tired of the relationship, you’ve got to realize
life is way too short to be with someone who
doesn’t appreciate the same sort of fun you
have, and if you’ve had this discussion more
than enough times without gaining any
compromise or leeway, it might be right to
end the relationship. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:44pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
5. You fantasize about life with someone
else.
Everyone fantasizes – it’s a part of human
nature, the ability to dream and creatively
envision that which may or may not have
been, or all that could have been, in either a
positive or negative way. However, it begins to
negatively affect your relationship when you
cannot channel your energies into being in a
relationship with your current significant
other, instead choosing to daydream about a
life with someone else – or, more honestly,
anyone else .
This isn’t the same as having a little pleasant
daydream about Liam Hemsworth or Kate
Upton or Laverne Cox, and then going on in
your daily life. The kind of fantasizing we’re
talking about here is the persistent, half-
serious daydreaming about someone who’s
caught your eye and whom you could
seriously see yourself sharing a life with.
Maybe it’s the cute co-worker who always sits
next to you and shares snacks with you, or the
barista at the coffee shop who knows you by
name and gives you a special smile. If you’re
going down this route, then perhaps you’ve
already given up on your relationship
psychologically and emotionally, and it might
be time to end the relationship you’re
currently in. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:45pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
6. You can’t see a future with him or her.
The most important point of being in a
relationship is the idea of creating a future
together, shaping and designing your life you
are actively choosing to share with your
significant other. If you cannot imagine a
future with this person, then it brings about
the question about why you are in the
relationship to begin with and why you’re
choosing to remain in a situation with which
you have little emotional investment.
That isn’t to say having casual relationships
are stupid or pointless – they can be fun and
an enjoyable experience – but if you’re in a
full-on, long-term relationship with someone,
the idea of spending the rest of your life with
this person has to be a large contributing
factor to the relationship. If you’re not seeing
or wanting to envision a future with this
person, then it’s time to end the relationship
and move on. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:47pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
7. You can’t get excited about the idea of
marrying this person.
Marriage isn’t for everyone and that’s okay,
but a way to assess whether or not it might be
time to end the relationship, is to look to a
possible future and imagine yourself getting
married to your current partner. Not just the
idea of marriage, but the whole shindig. The
physical act of marriage. Chances are if you’re
at the end of your relationship’s path, the idea
of marrying this person and consigning
yourself to potentially years of marriage with
him or her sends a cold shiver down your
spine and makes you feel absolutely terrified.
Getting married is a bit of an extreme
circumstance, perhaps, but the idea of any
form of strong, serious commitment with a
person can induce feelings of panic and fear,
and might be a strong indicator and sign it’s
time to end the relationship. Things have run
their course, maybe, and while it’s nice to
cling to the idea of changing and getting over
it, it’s not fair to the other person who might
be more committed and ready to take that step
where you cannot just yet. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 6:48pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
8. You realize he or she has become a
stranger.
The final nail in any relationship’s coffin is
the realization the person you thought you
were going to spend the rest of your life with
is a stranger to you. Sure, you might have the
memories and feelings you still do for this
person – the weekend away, how you told him
you loved him – but who he fundamentally is
to you has drastically and perhaps irrevocably
shifted and transformed.
You don’t have the same ideals, the same
dreams, the same supportive bond to each
other you used to have. He is not the person
you fell in love with, the person you shared a
relationship with, and can you really continue
a relationship on that? It’s impossible, untrue,
and unfair, both to yourself and to the other
person involved. Finding yourself lying next to
a stranger who you used to call your one true
love means you have to end the relationship,
or spend years in regret and lying to him and
yourself about what you really want. Life’s too
short, after all. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by BiafraBushBoy(m): 7:45pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Banana and Cucumber becomes her Best Fruit!!! Niggur just Quit and Rum |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 8:04pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
BiafraBushBoy: Bad experiences with ladies abi? |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by BiafraBushBoy(m): 8:14pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius: Nooo... Am a Lover dude with outside this forum ooo... But I just wana deal with em Nairaland ladies!!  |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 8:17pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
BiafraBushBoy: Troublemaker  More grease to your elbow |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by Nobody: 8:21pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
all
at last. a sensible thread devoid of lies from op
all hope isn't lost. |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by Nobody: 8:42pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
I think these facts are very valid... |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by donsteady(m): 8:50pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Op instead of ending the relationships why not advice on how to make it work |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 8:57pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
donsteady: Somethings are not meant to work out. Your efforts to might not be appreciated. Somethings are not worth the headache |
| Re: 8 Signs It's Time To End The Relationship by AccidentalGenius: 8:58pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
alexistaiwo: You have problems deciding who u want to be |
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