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Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by Akfakorede(m): 5:38pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by deebrain(m): 5:43pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
There are so many advantages of this. Men really do need help, as long as you don't want to be the husband of the house. However, it is the women that need to talk to themselves. While some of you want to take responsibility, 80% of you want to "use your body to get what you want"-your own undoing!! Let women strive to put emphasis on their brain qualities off the bed and there will be no debate on this equality stuff. It will come naturally. Society does enjoy whores, but cannot risk giving them a recognized status. Selah 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by postmann: 6:10pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:29pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
tosyne2much: Men know what they are doing and we are still a mess? Anyway, being disrespectful is not a right, it is a character flaw of am INDIVIDUAL not the entire women in a country. The bill that FORMALLY allows women to own property, be equal in the eyes of the LAW is actually very necessary. It is by no means being equal in the sight of God because that has been made clear that we are anything but equal as per religion. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:33pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
deebrain:I like how you say "whores", I was actually referring to a different band of women who aim lead a different lifestyle. We will learn to TEACH our ladies to be better. That being successful is not bagging an "importer exporter" husband or having Brazilian hair. It's a process. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:39pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
Logicbwoy: An oppressed woman will lash out and an oppressed man will too. I am not making moral judgment or saying any is more evil than the other. If anything, I'm saying give both freedom to be evil as well a good. I am not a misandrist... I'm not saying "Men are evil", I'm saying "Women deserve more". |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:44pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
edoziebobbyyahoocom: It's the MEN and WOMEN alike...society in general. Most girls can relate to hearing their mother correct them by saying " Is that what you will do in your husband's house" or " No one will marry a woman who does not know 'her place'" like the end result of our ENTIRETY is to please some random man who happens to also be our husbands. Little things like this are reasons ladies think that way. We are a product of our environment....remember that. 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:49pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
AbrahamLincoln: I will submit to him and him alone. Not to the men in my community, my male co-workers, my brothers or uncles...just because they have "my type at home" or they have balls. Get your self a chill pill... Dawg. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:53pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
dickt: Quit being on the defensive...no body is dragging your so called rights with you. We just want ours. Change is inevitable. I may not be able to witness it but best believe I know I stood for something on the right side of history (in the making) and it is all that matters. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:58pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
kevinberry: So basically, make the lives of just men EASIER with the law. I think a lot of men get married on credit...impregnable the girl and watch her family reduce the "price". You don't need law for that. The law is a FORMAL step to make every doubting Thomas know that in FACT women are worth as much as men are. SIMPLE. The laws will make traditions that still oppress women die out eventually after a few lawsuits. Homosexuality is a different thing all together. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 7:03pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
mikolo80: We are not stupid. Maybe the females in your family is but best believe a good chunk of us are made of beauty and brains. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 7:19pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
Doubleagent008:Thanks for taking time to respond. Gender Favoritism is actually prevalent because we have been relegated to the background for years and unless certain policies are set to make more and more women have the right tools to speak for themselves or be independent, it will take longer for the equality to be achieved. Social trend is the same reason I have both faith in/fear for Nigeria, seeing that we are lovers of trends. Soon we will copy but if our leaders are forward thinkers these adjustments don't have to blatantly copy the west because let's face it, theirs is the pop culture we see every day. Customary privileges I would love to see us get rid off is "Don't hit a woman, even if she hits you". People should learn to keep their hands to themselves and use their words instead. No system is all perfect in all instances. Our present situation is far from perfect and we are all not dead...yet. What stops us from accepting a relatively better ideal that promotes better values. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by KingSango(m): 7:33pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
[b] The African Origin of the Queen Mother Role May 10, 2014 (C) 2013 AKERU MultiMedia ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Contemporary society is familiar with the term, "Queen Mother" because of the Royal Family of the United Kingdom. Historically, the tradition and title of Queen Mother originated in ancient Khamet (Egypt), when Black Africans ruled. In Khametic language, Queen Mother is Mwt Nswt. Traditionally in ancient Khamet (Egypt), the all powerful Queen Mother appointed the king, ruled beside him, and had a strong interest youth empowerment and community activism. Succinctly, the African Queen Mother is the Positive Pot Stirrer; the Keeper of the Culture, the Spiritual Warrior; the Nurturing Navigator to the Community's Future. Nubian born and famously known Queen Tiye was the Great Royal Wife of Amenhotep III, mother of Amenhotep IV (later known as Akenhaton), and mother-in-law of the also famously known Nefertiti. She was also the grandmother to King Tutankhamun. Queen Tiye was a Queen Mother who held influence over Khamet for a fifty year reign. She served as First Lady and the first female Secretary of State (long before Hillary Rodham Clinton) when her husband became physically and mentally incapacitated due to age, and when her son became known as a traitor to his people for employing monotheism, and the people ignored his authority. By the way, Queen Tiye was also influential as a fashionista! And she had the devotion of her husband, who created great outdoor shrines to his beloved. Other African cultures honor the Queen Mother tradition. The role has never been a dowager position, nor taken lightly. Queen Mothers have always been shown great respect from their communities because of their wisdom, power, and devotion to their people. In the U.S., Queen Mother Moore (1898-1996) was a modern day freedom fighter. Inspired by the Marcus Garvey United Negro Improvement Association (UNIA) Movement as a young woman, Queen Mother Audley Moore became a force to be reckoned with in Harlem, NYC, fearlessly speaking out for reparations, and all noteworthy civil rights causes for Black people. She also served as President-General of the World Federation of African People, and as President and founder of the Universal Association of Ethiopian Women and the founder of the Committee for Reparations for Descendants of U.S. Slaves. After Queen Mother Moore made her transition, her faithful aide, Queen Mother Delois Blakely, filled her role, taking it to a new height, now serving as Community Mayor of Harlem. She is highly regarded as a Stateswoman and Educator across Africa, the Caribbean, and the U.S., and works tirelessly with the United Nations. A longtime devoted community activist and educator, Elder High Priestess Imakhu Mwt Shekemet (now Queen Mother Imakhu Mu Nefer-t) was initiated into the Nubian Handmaiden's lineage in 2003, and as a Queen Mother in 2005 in through the Shrine of Khpra of Brooklyn, NY. Her last initiation was into the Bantu/Khametic water spiritual tradition in 2006. Queen Mother Imakhu heads her own global Khametic ministry, AKERU Temple of the True Living Waters. Through AKERU Ministries, Queen Mother Imakhu teaches students across the country in her Mystery School, the Wadjayt Women's Temple, privately coaches and counsels people. She coined the term, "Khametic Life Coach." Her contributions to the reclamatiob of Khametic art and culture include the Tep Ra Renu Oracle (where European Runes came from), research which produced the articles, "The Kemetic Origin of the Word 'Witch' " and "The African Origins of Global Fae Traditions." She has also created a wholly comprehensive, extensive Khametic Yoga program like no other. As a Street Minister, she counsels many in urban neighborhoods. After hearing the voices of so many in her travels, Queen Mother has created outreach programming to address the needs of the multigenerational populations who have sought her help. She currently is setting up classes across the U.S., Canada, and Africa teaching women and families the principles of education, community involvement, and family unity. Author, poet, storyteller, musician, and vocalist. Queen Mother Imakhu started a division of AKERU Temple devoted to teaching African Khametic culture through art. General Khametic Protocol Questions for Addressing an African Queen Mother Is it alright or appropriate to call a Queen Mother by her first name if I don't feel like calling her by her title? If it is not my belief system or culture, then why should I honor the title? No. Would you call the Queen Mother of England by her first name? Some people seem to think that a Queen Mother of African descent does not deserve the same respect. The Queen Mother system began in Africa. Also consider this: Would you call the Pope by his name just because you are not Catholic? Would Bishop Desmond Tutu just be Desmond to you? Would Mother Theresa just have been Theresa? Respect the title. Allow your mind to make the adjustment. The effects of slavery have diminished the power of the Motherland as the Cradle of Civilization in the minds of many. This is a time of healing and reclamation for us all. Is it appropriate to call a Queen Mother, "Sweetie, Hon, Dear," or "Darling" as casual terms of endearment? No. Highly inappropriate. Refer to the above response. Can a person declare herself to be a Queen Mother?No. It is an appointed or initiation title conferred in an official ceremony. It is not the same as the popular trend that many Black women have followed in calling themselves, "Queen," which started to reaffirm self respect and dignity. How should the community regard the Queen Mother? Queen Mothers are generally held in high regard. As such, the community should protective of her, and her well being. She is the Mother of the community; the wisdom keeper who has the welfare of the community at heart. Today's U.S. society, however, having lost touch with its African history, is not educated about the role of the Queen Mother. The Queen Mother within today's African Traditional Spiritual Societies is generally recognized and given her proper due. Unfortunately, some of our contemporary U.S. Queen Mothers have had to fend for themselves after a lifetime of community service, struggling alone financially, in public housing, yet paraded out during local African-centered ceremonies as status symbols, then quickly shuttled back home. This reflects the lingering affects of Western influence upon the African mind, in terms of forgetting to care for community Elders, Sages, and Queen Mothers. Also, many people in Black Consciousness circles simply are not aware of these protocols. It is imperative to pass this education on to the youth, for whom the Queen Mother has always had a protective interest.It is time for the community to reciprocate to ALL the activist Queen Mothers who are warriors, spiritual Keepers of the Culture, putting themselves on the line for the healing of their people.[/b][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by KingSango(m): 7:36pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
In Yoruba Culture the Queen Mother is Oya, The Queen of All Yoruba Women. Oya was a warrior and fighter for the rights of women, children and the Ibeji. The return of Oya is the return of the great power of Oyo/Oduduwa Nation. This isn't just characteristics given to an Orisha, this was an actual institution of Yorubaland, The Queen Mother System, as was most of the great empires of Africa. It must be restored now. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by KingSango(m): 7:38pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
In Yoruba Culture the Queen Mother is Oya, The Queen of All Yoruba Women. Oya was a warrior and fighter for the rights of women, children and the Ibeji. The return of Oya is the return of the great power of Oyo/Oduduwa Nation. This isn't just characteristics given to an Orisha, this was an actual institution of Yorubaland, The Queen Mother System, as was most of the great empires of Africa. It must be restored now. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by AbrahamLincoln(m): 8:24pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
DivaFiva: Ohh shoot, now you think you got balls like them too and they just tryna act? . oya dab 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 8:53pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
AbrahamLincoln:Actually, I've got bigger balls called boobs |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by AbrahamLincoln(m): 9:09pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
DivaFiva: Exactly my point, so you think genders must be equal cos we all got balls but you forgot we don't use balls but brains and y'all got fish brains. Go through all my posts here, it's all an advice, take it. Get a man before it's too late 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by mikolo80: 10:28pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
DivaFiva:case in point. you no even let am cold you don de display d exact fish brain I'm talking about. bravo, bravo 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by mikolo80: 10:46pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
DivaFiva: AbrahamLincoln:see your life. other ppl are telling you, you de do strong head @ divafiva 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by tosyne2much(m): 11:55pm On Apr 07, 2016 |
DivaFiva:Okay oooo |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by Logicbwoy: 3:13am On Apr 08, 2016 |
DivaFiva: I was not talking to you with that comment you just replied. I was addressing a silly misandrist with that comment I have already praised you for the op in another separate comment. Yes, women deserve more. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 5:37am On Apr 08, 2016 |
AbrahamLincoln: Fish brains? I'd like to know one thing you think a man can do that a woman can't. I do have a man thank you very much. And your "advice" is garbage so you can stick it up where the sun doesn't shine. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by troy20(m): 7:49am On Apr 08, 2016 |
DivaFiva:"...people should learn to keep their hands to themselves but use their words instead" words that are more even damaging and suited to your own strenght as a woman.how smart! Look here woman do you realise you are making a daclaration of war and seeking our support to win it aswell? its a matter of perspective no doubt but that's what it is to us.the eventual outcome of your intentions are doubtfull going by the situation of our phallus-dangling white brothers of the west and europe.let me give you a tip.you will have to raise your sons with the men bred out of them if you want to succeed. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by Nobody: 9:31am On Apr 08, 2016 |
DivaFiva:you have not answer my question,will you support the government should they decide to abolish bride price,will you condemn verbal abuse towards men as you do towards domestic and physical abuse towards women... Before the law can be passed the lawmakers will have to keep religion,culture and moral values aside,these were the things considered before they pass the homosexuality bill... To me the general HUMAN UNIVERSAL HUMAN right have given everybody the go ahead to be whatever they want to be.. There is a ministry for women affairs none for men isn't that injustice and partiality,there is worldwide outcry against violence towards women none against verbal violence and abuse towards men, you cannot support bride price and yet demand for quotas for women in politics,there is no law preventing women from being elected,you can't force the populace to vote for women through special laws it won't work,they all have freedom of thought and freedom to choose their own candidate... Should I become the president of nigeria some day,I will scrap the ministry of women affairs or I will create one for men too I want gender equity not equality Equity(an equal playing ground) equality(the same outcome even if you don't worth it) The universal human right is equity,that is enough... Lend your voice in supporting the abolishing of bride price and also in condemning verbal abuse towards men Good morning 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 5:42am On Apr 29, 2016 |
kevinberry:I have zero issues with abolishing bride price but a lot of people will support it cause it is tradition. A huge percentage of this price goes to the men in the family. Equity is an ideal in an already equal society. In this case, even if the opportunities do not explicitly segregate men from women, there are underlying religious and cultural values and rituals we have that often suggest that women are less deserving. All I'm saying the Law should overrule those and have the final say. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 5:45am On Apr 29, 2016 |
troy20:Okay, man, I hear you. "US" is who? Don't I have a perspective? Don't I matter in this "US" union? Declaration of war on one sided male domination and abuse, yes. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by Nobody: 9:06am On Apr 29, 2016 |
DivaFiva:equity and equality can't go together in a society,it either quotas(equality) or equal playing grounds(equity) the former is what is been preached and practice in our world today...you will hear women organizations requesting for slots in public offices instead of them fighting for it just like the men,they will asked to be vice president instead of forming their own party and running for president instead... The general human right promotes and encourage equity,women fighting for equality just want quotas But still I still want the world to recognize verbal abuse no matter the gender involved,I want both parents to take care of their child when divorce occurs,people can't be preaching gender equality and then turn the table around making men providers and women care givers when it comes to divorce that is not equality..we need to start telling ourselves the truth |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by olajigaolamide: 9:07am On Apr 29, 2016 |
I am not ready to share my responsibility with anyone. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by DivaFiva: 6:12am On Apr 30, 2016 |
kevinberry: You've got good points no doubt but let me tell you, things are not that easy. It's like saying northerners should have equal cut off points as the southern when we both know given their situation, the northerners will have no place with education. This is not because they are any less smart but it's not their cultural norm to engage actively in western education as other regions. Over time, when the gap is bridged then there can be equity i.e an equal playing field for all. Left to our devices, women can only do so much. We need policies to back us up so when it becomes the norm men don't need to be reminded women are just as deserving, then you can let go. Divorce laws in Nigeria is not as concrete so I dunno what to say about that but I do know that more often than not, a woman is thrown out of her matrimonial home not the other way round. |
Re: 6 Reasons Gender Equality is beneficial To Nigerian MEN And Society At Large by Nobody: 7:44pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
DivaFiva:that can not happen,unless of course you want all the laws that was made with reference to culture,religion and values,laws such as homosexuality and the likes,requesting for gender equality will only makes women looks weaker and below men,there is already equity which both genders need to be whatever they want to be,only an illiterate will need quotas to be something or somebody in the society,when you know your right,you won't be requesting for equality |
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