Dear Bunmi,
Why are men so fixated on watching porn? In spite of the fact that my boyfriend of nine months knows how I feel about porn, he still insists its not as smutty as I said it was. He keeps begging me to watch before I make up my mind, but I still believe its disgusting and a pervert way of having fun. What do you think?
Love
Denike,
by e-mail.

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Dear Denike,

These days, young women may feel pressured to like porn, as if its a per-requisite for being sexually confident. But while some women find it arousing and educational, others think it is demeaning or just plain unsexy. More than one woman has written that when her partner looks at porn, it makes her feel like he’s not satisfied with their sex life. In the vast majority of cases, that’s not true for most men I’ve talked to, porn is just fantasy, not a reflection of how he feels about his partner. Whatever the reason for your dislike, you need to let your man know your fears. If after discussing it with him you want to experiment, start in mild way. If you’re still turned off by it, you have every right to ask him to watch it on his own and keep it out of sight.

Bunmi

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porn or poem??

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Trust me, girls watch porn a lot. But they don't like watching it with their boyfriends. And most times when they are invited by their BFs to watch porn, they act like they don't like it. Lol.

The thing is, the average girl favours being passive in bed. She prefers to just lie on the bed while her man pounds her and basically does all the work. This isn't the case in porn. In porn, the porn actresses participate actively in the sexual intercourse. They are energetic, adventurous, and they are open and ready to do lots of stuff to make the sex interesting, most of which the average girl isn't ready to do.
So, when the average girl watches porn with her boyfriend and she sees the porn actresses doing their thing, she begins to harness negative feelings that her boyfriend expects better of her and that she isn't performing her sexual duties. And this makes her really uncomfortable.

Also, pornstars tend to be more attractive than the average girl. They have better bodies, firmer breasts and bigger asses. And you will all agree with me that girls are naturally jealous creatures. They feel threatened when they see their man involved in a direct or indirect relationship with a more attractive female. And what other relationship could be more intimate and threatening than their man being sexually aroused by another woman who isn't them, of which porn produces. So when girls watch porn with their BFs and they see their BFs being sexually gratified by these more physically appealing women, they begin to breed insecurities.

Honestly I Don't Have Any Single Porn Film In My House, But I Fear The Rate Girls Use To Ask Me For It Anytime They Come To My Place, But I Keep Telling Them One Thing, AM BETTER THAN THOSE PEOPLE YOU WATCH ON SCREEN COS AM NOT ON DRUGS, AM NATURAL, And Few Minutes Later They Find Out I Didn't Lie To Them That I Don't Need Port To Be Good Sexually !!!