Wassup everyone,

I met this white girl at where we work and liked her and in turn she felt the same way. One thing led to another and we ended up dating, come to find out she is 29 years old with two kids (MILF). I don't have any strong feelings for her but i know I have nothing to offer to her.

We have absolutely nothing in common which she agrees and thinks its best if we remained friends with benefits which i'm all for except i don't know if its such a good idea and if it'll end up backfiring on both of us since we work together.
i need some well meant advice

OMG , this is on the road to disaster for the mere fact that u guy work together, evry guy at some point crave an older woman, why? i dont know!, but i think its some kind of satisfaction they derive from it. so its ok if u do date an older woman, but it usually end up being jus a fling, so it wouldnt be right to date one that u work with!

you are playing with serious fire. Even Fire Fighters wil not be able to quench it if you no take your time

how??
we're jus friends that kiss thats all

"friends with benefit" thats not really a good idea I think
How much do you really like her?

you cant eat your cake and have it. If you kiss her then you guys are getting too close

Efani Take a note from your highness, its all good, but if you know how to put the mandingo down and make her shave like she is having a seizure, and she likes your company. That is a disaster waiting to happen, man we think with out dick and ladies after having sex with you are emotionally attached. we can be messing with a lady for a long time with no serious intentions, but ladies don't look at it that way. eventually she will tell you she hates you and pa-lava go explode, my best word for you is stay friends and don't even go there with her, pay for a hooker before you mess with her. save yourself the agony in the end.

As far as am concern,you are safe.the only thing,you two should know what you are going in to,friendship or dating.if you guys knows you are friends with benefit,it can work pretty fine.i'd experience it before and she doesn't bother her self whenever she sees me with any other girl,cos' our relationship is not pronouced.Just know what you want from the whole thing,the only problem is that you work together,it's either she's of advantage or disadvantage,but do u wanna risk it.
but if she's a nice person,you can enjoy yourself to the end.just be good

To the Person who started this thread,

Have all the fun you can but ,

NEVER COMMIT TO ANY BUSINESS YOU CANNOT ESCAPE FROM IN 5 MINUTES FLAT !!!

, if I may quote from Robert Deniro

Shine ya eye.

err, as long as she doesn't "catch feelings" you are fine. She's older, has been around the block, probably knows the deal better but then she's a woman. If emotions do get involved, work will become hell. Hope you guys are not in the same department at work?

Women possess a dormant jealous gene that can easily trigger to full blown hatred. Beware, especially since she is your co-worker.

Well, Efani i don't really know but she really won't feel good and if she decides to get you, she will because you both work together.
You just have to be careful now

from most of the comments above already. its obvious your playing with fire

ohhh thats a bad idea, sleeping with someone you work with is a really stupid thing to do, because when you guys start arguing and you bring it to the workplace trust me it can create a huge mess. that is why jobs create the no dating in the workplace rule. i have seen this happen first hand, there was this guy i was working with and he was dating almost every girl that was hired, this girls became friends and seeing the guy dump them for one of their friends created this huge fight which was sad, friendships were broken and it totally sucked, i was draged to the middle of the fight and forced to choose between friends just because of this guy, ohh i had to take myself out of the equation because i no get time for girl fight.

anyway you should end it immediately before it creates a huge mess and you end up being fired from your job

thats pretty tight, she's got two kids and 29yrs old. Efani, u nvr mentioned ur own age so i wudnt knw if u are older or not but i got it that u got no strong feelings 4 her. sure enuf, u will find a girl u av strong feelings for and then dump dis whity. so where do u leave her if dat happens? beware cos its faster to break a girl's heart dan to mend it. u guys should break up b4 dat happens and be friends so there wont be ill feelings. this white woman might think deeper of the relationship dan u do and probably thinks sum tin is gonna come out of it. y dont u just tell her, she should understand and u guys can call it quit b4 much damage is done.

well, its up to you. oh i 4got, wat benefits are involved?

personally, i dont think dating sum1 u work it is bad. if its got true basis and mutual true feelings, its allrite.

Yeeeeeeeeeah!!! I see all the females are getting emotional, lmao.

Listen playboy you tha luckiest man on earth: getting MATURED kitten with no string attached is EVERY man's dream. Any man who ain't cool with that is either a girl or homo. Look dawg, smash that kitten for as long both ya'll up for it. Most important thing is you both know you ain't a couple and ya'll got nuthing in common so it's strictly 'business': Bonin'

I must say though I wouldn't do it for too long cos it's inevitable to end up having feelings for someone after getting together for some time. So my advice: Get that kitten dawg but close up your emotions and do no more than 5 times!

Word up!

Efani, na you dey live for obodo oyibo, and you know which is which over there, as for me, I dont see anything wrong in that provided you are not cheating her. I mean as long as your friendship is benefiting both of you, so much that you are not the one that is taking much of the benefit to her detriment, I beg, go on soun! Na my own take be that sha!

rof-lmao:

Yeeeeeeeeeah!!! I see all the females are getting emotional, lmao.

Listen playboy you tha luckiest man on earth: getting MATURED kitten with no string attached is EVERY man's dream. Any man who ain't cool with that is either a girl or homo. Look dawg, smash that kitten for as long both ya'll up for it. Most important thing is you both know you ain't a couple and ya'll got nuthing in common so it's strictly 'business': Bonin'

I must say though I wouldn't do it for too long because it's inevitable to end up having feelings for someone after getting together for some time. So my advice: Get that kitten dawg but close up your emotions and do no more than 5 times!

Word up!

dude, tho its every guys fantasy to sleep with an older woman but definetly not a co-worker, thin line btw love n hate!

I don't understand what this is all about.
If someone don't date the babe he is working with
who do he date then? Why waste time going out
when you have them right there beside you? My friend Enjoy
her why it last. It is better you get hurt trying than forever
regret your not trying at all. Fire? where is it coming from?
Leave her and jump to the next available babe until you finish the
quota of white babes in the company where you work.
I wish you the best in your chosen endeavor and remember
you can always pass unto me that which you have already consumed after all
there is love in sharing.

Still me

@Efani
You said you and the lady are just friends.
i'll advise you to remain friends as you said don't and don't involve yourself sexually with her.
it's no crime having a friend.

it is not advisable dating a colleague in the office. it will affect work performance especially if she is your surbordinate.You wont be able to correct her or talk the right appraisal of her performance.Same too for u if she is the superior

i loooove friend with benefit i have a lot of them!!!!!!! don't listen to nairalanders its good!!!

What is the essence of having a female friend if not for sex?
You prepare pudding cos you want to eat it so also is woman.
you make friend with one, two or three depending on how
strong you are, in other to chop them. My friend, my lovely advice is
for you to enjoy her while she last last and don't even think of
consequence, there won't be any.

still me

datin someone in d same workplace is jst not advisable, especially wid a woman hu hs kids.
but if u re filin adventurous, njoy urself, let d woman kno there re no strings attached. kapish.

as far as i am concerned there is nothing there,, it al depends on you Efani,,
rule 1
never tell her i love you .
rule2
tell her from the beginning you have a girl-friend you really love
rule 3
just have it a maximum of 3 times, spaced 1week, at first instance, then 2weeks, then STOP!,
RULE 4
be a different person at work and out of work, be staught headed in the office,

guy no be today,!!!just stick to the rules

men watch ya bac,

yea,,,,,, ur playing with fire alright.
and guess what its gonna burn ya ass too

Y'all know wat? its a bleeping free world and he has da damn right to do wateva he pleases, Bleep da world!

How d'u mean: "friends with benefits"

I just envy you this golden opportunity. Just don't throw
it away, not for the world. There are people looking for
this this kind of opportunity

Still me

Efani,

have fun, use protection and don't fall in love. Believe me, opportunities like this don't come around very often.