How Do I Know I’m Not Marrying the Wrong Guy?

Reader Question: How do I know I'm not marrying the wrong guy?
When it comes to knowing if he’s the wrong guy, character trumps everything.
Sure there may be personality issues: what if he’s outgoing and you’re not? What if he’s adventurous and loves the outdoors, and you love nothing more than decorating your little nest and staying at home? What if he dreams of being a pastor and you always swore you’d never marry into the ministry?
But these things can easily be overcome with a change in attitude, perspective, or just a little compromise.

When it comes to knowing if he’s the wrong guy, character trumps everything.
Sure there may be personality issues: what if he’s outgoing and you’re not? What if he’s adventurous and loves the outdoors, and you love nothing more than decorating your little nest and staying at home? What if he dreams of being a pastor and you always swore you’d never marry into the ministry?
But these things can easily be overcome with a change in attitude, perspective, or just a little compromise.


When it comes to avoiding a marriage that could be abusive, or where affairs or porn or secrecy may be a part, character trumps everything else. If a guy has good character, he isn’t going to have an affair on you. He isn’t going to be emotionally abusive. He isn’t going to tell you you’re fat and demand that your body stay a certain size. Yes, some great marriages end up in affairs, but that really is the exception, not the rule. When I was dating my husband, I never worried that he would do any of these things. Never for one single moment. And he never has. He had great character, and I could see that right in the beginning.
Does that mean he was perfect? No, of course not. But if he ever did anything wrong, he was quick to own it; he was quick to apologize; and he was quick to show me that he didn’t want to do it again. He didn’t justify his behaviour, or try to blame it on someone else, or tell me that I was just misinterpreting the whole situation. And that’s the picture of a Christian: It isn’t someone who does absolutely everything right, but it’s someone who is honest about the state of their heart, and who is running after God and trying to look more and more like Jesus everyday.
Look at it this way: If you would never have an affair; if you would never wreck someone’s confidence; if you would never be emotionally abusive, then people like you exist (you’re living proof!). So don’t thing that you can’t find the male version of someone like you. In fact, the more you pursue great character in yourself, the more people with great character will be attracted to you, and the more likely they will show up in your social circle (because like tends to hang out with like). So remember Andy Stanley’s awesome dating advice:
Sure there may be personality issues: what if he’s outgoing and you’re not? What if he’s adventurous and loves the outdoors, and you love nothing more than decorating your little nest and staying at home? What if he dreams of being a pastor and you always swore you’d never marry into the ministry?
But these things can easily be overcome with a change in attitude, perspective, or just a little compromise.
When it comes to avoiding a marriage that could be abusive, or where affairs or porn or secrecy may be a part, character trumps everything else. If a guy has good character, he isn’t going to have an affair on you. He isn’t going to be emotionally abusive. He isn’t going to tell you you’re fat and demand that your body stay a certain size. Yes, some great marriages end up in affairs, but that really is the exception, not the rule. When I was dating my husband, I never worried that he would do any of these things. Never for one single moment. And he never has. He had great character, and I could see that right in the beginning.
Does that mean he was perfect? No, of course not. But if he ever did anything wrong, he was quick to own it; he was quick to apologize; and he was quick to show me that he didn’t want to do it again. He didn’t justify his behaviour, or try to blame it on someone else, or tell me that I was just misinterpreting the whole situation. And that’s the picture of a Christian: It isn’t someone who does absolutely everything right, but it’s someone who is honest about the state of their heart, and who is running after God and trying to look more and more like Jesus everyday.
Look at it this way: If you would never have an affair; if you would never wreck someone’s confidence; if you would never be emotionally abusive, then people like you exist (you’re living proof!). So don’t thing that you can’t find the male version of someone like you. In fact, the more you pursue great character in yourself, the more people with great character will be attracted to you, and the more likely they will show up in your social circle (because like tends to hang out with like). So remember Andy Stanley’s awesome dating advice:
Sure there may be personality issues: what if he’s outgoing and you’re not? What if he’s adventurous and loves the outdoors, and you love nothing more than decorating your little nest and staying at home? What if he dreams of being a pastor and you always swore you’d never marry into the ministry?
But these things can easily be overcome with a change in attitude, perspective, or just a little compromise.
When it comes to avoiding a marriage that could be abusive, or where affairs or porn or secrecy may be a part, character trumps everything else. If a guy has good character, he isn’t going to have an affair on you. He isn’t going to be emotionally abusive. He isn’t going to tell you you’re fat and demand that your body stay a certain size. Yes, some great marriages end up in affairs, but that really is the exception, not the rule. When I was dating my husband, I never worried that he would do any of these things. Never for one single moment. And he never has. He had great character, and I could see that right in the beginning.
Does that mean he was perfect? No, of course not. But if he ever did anything wrong, he...

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Even if I read this one you paste here,, am gonna fall asleep

BreadandBeans:

Even if I read this one you paste here,, am gonna fall asleep

Thanks for the psychological support bro I thought I was being lazy

BreadandBeans:


Even if I read this one you paste here,, am gonna fall asleep

wow so it is so cuing? Good to know it has sleeping tablet embeded in it. Pls encourage people having sleeping problem to come read and get their sleep issues sorted out

0ubenji:


Thanks for the psychological support bro
I thought I was being lazy

I didn't even read more than the first two paragraphs..

eitsei:
I didn't even read more than the first two paragraphs..

Mehn..u r a genius stil
D only tin I read is the thread's topic ..lol