Dear Bunmi,

When I first met my current boyfriend, I knew he was untrustworthy. We met at a party he attended with his girlfriend and he hit on me. When I went to the toilet, he followed and virtually arm-twisted me into having a quickie with him. We then started seeing each other on and off. He is a charming rogue and sex with him is addictive.

At first, it was a bit of fun. After close to a year, I still feel fantastic when were together, but I am unsure about us when were apart. I know the affair is becoming unhealthy for me but I cant bear to end it. And because Im always at his beck and call, I know he never will. Help!

Anjola, By e-mail.

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Dear Anjola,

You are at the mercy of the age old conflict of head and heart. Your head must be winning for you to realize there is no future or long-term happiness with this adventurer. But how do you get him out of your life? The less you see of him, the easier it will be. Hes an addiction, so getting rid of him will be painful in spite of the fact you know hes not good for you.

You could try what experts recommend as aversion therapy. Such men are free with their affections. Consider the huge infection risk you run. How many girls has he had this month? Ten, twenty, 100? Think of all the things about him that turn you on, and imagine those things being switched on for every girl he meets.

Put one of your low moods to good use. Scrub his name out of your diary and delete details about him from your mobile. Avoid places where you will meet, and dont answer the phone if you know its him. Find something to replace him, a new pastime to give your confidence a boost. And if you do run into him, remain cool and impervious to his charms. Sooner or later, youll meet someone else youll be comfortable with.

Bunmi

Addictive you said? Women, women, women. Ok, next!

Can we skip sex and delve into something constructive on Romanceland today, sex talk is absolutely overrated and overflogged, its becoming boring....Lemme run to mamagees thread joor

Useless girl.


What serious thing were you expecting from an affair that started with a guy meeting you in a party and doing quickie with you in a Toilet ?

The guy must have done that countless times to know that is very possible.


Take what is remaining and run.

Na person go marry this kain lady now? Na wa oh. These are the things that discourages me from being a virgin. I wanna fvck.

You deliberately went towards the toilet so that the guy can follow you, seduction style

It's a tale tale thursday

This is when the devil is at work
you said is unhealthy then why not quit cos it landing to death
Heart break, HIV, STDs loading.........