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Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by amyb1(f): 11:26pm On Aug 18, 2009 |
C2H5OH: i have a child the bf knew tht and i cant uproot my childs no matter how much i want the guy my daughter my 1st priority |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by C2H5OH(f): 11:30pm On Aug 18, 2009 |
compromises! if you can't bend the rules a bit for yourself, why should he? did you tell him you weren't willing to negotiate on traveling arrangements? was he living in nigeria? if he was, i don't see why he would have passed up a chance to fly to the uk to see you |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by adex4all: 10:06am On Aug 19, 2009 |
wow, really interesting but hard 2 endure,as 4 me longdistance relationship is not Good"cos atimes dis romantic feeling 4 eachother comes up.which will be hand to hold up!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Nonnyl(m): 10:12am On Aug 19, 2009 |
I prefer long distant relationship thing cos it maintains my dignity and rep. Besides, too much close in relationship makes the two less worth. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by omotf: 12:33pm On Aug 19, 2009 |
if both of you are committed to the relationship it will work out i have experience it before and it work out for me. commitment and trust is just what you need. shalom. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by prosperup(m): 12:50pm On Aug 19, 2009 |
@ poster,when you are in a relationship it isn't advisable to start asking for advise from people you hardly know. You are the person in the relationship and most of the respondents to your topic hardly know you or your boyfriend or even the extent to which you guys are committed. It is easy to dismiss your relationship not knowing how much emotions or commitment you have invested. Take a look at how some are even insisting that he's cheating on you without even knowing him. Most will just be judgmental based on just one side of the story. This isn't fair. Long distance relationships do work and that is a reality. However, like any other relationship it requires patience and perseverance. If you listen to too much advise on your own relationship then you might end up being in a relationship that other people recommend for you rather than the relationship that you want. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by ariblaze(m): 3:19pm On Aug 19, 2009 |
i think the one big problem of long distance relationships is complacency setting in,its not being in contact with the person really cos odds are y'll will be in touch virtually everyday. the problem is when you people finally get to be in the same geographical location you might find it difficult changing gears to suit the present happened to a friend he was in a relationship with her for a while she came into the country , and he only had time to see her once in all 5months she was around suffice to say she left his sorry ass he did call her everyday though. . . .guess he got too comfortable in that role . . . |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Hairat007(f): 3:59pm On Aug 19, 2009 |
prosperup: Tanx a million i understand where u re coming 4rm. but u knw as a very "wise" saying goes, wen opinions re dis much, u sieve dem, remove d shaft, i.e d bad ones nd make good use of d good one. That is exactly wat i am doing. Tanx once more. lol |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by menek(m): 5:56pm On Aug 19, 2009 |
Waoh, |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Hairat007(f): 6:37pm On Aug 19, 2009 |
menek: Guy, coming just have faith. I am glad i brought dis topic here because dey all taught me something FAITH so join me have faith and u'll see we're gonna sail thru its just 4 little while good luck bro. lol |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by pinkstar(f): 2:32pm On Aug 20, 2009 |
GOOD Cos it will give the lovers sense of maturity & discipline,knowing they are far from themselves. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by girllygal(f): 8:58pm On Aug 20, 2009 |
its really nerve racking. U have to be patient |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by vikiviko(m): 11:09pm On Aug 20, 2009 |
Pretty difficult i must confess from experience. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by 190: 12:16am On Aug 21, 2009 |
never works if u doubt this ask my stupid based abuja EX gf the babes always end up cheatin! they all are! |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by C2H5OH(f): 12:32am On Aug 21, 2009 |
190:lol kukute, you too? alabajo that the kokoro wey dey your head dey traumatize u small small. ur ex girlfriend don scatter your brain. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Nobody: 12:41am On Aug 21, 2009 |
@topic Fustrating |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Nobody: 12:46am On Aug 21, 2009 |
Good & Bad Not easy thou but I believe LDR can work out |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by mendax: 1:11pm On Aug 21, 2009 |
@topic, yeah, i agree. i culd b frustratin. in my own case, while i was datin my luv, i saw her only once in a mth. initially there was no luxury of gsm, later wit gsm there wer no free calls at nite. funny though we'v now been married for over 5 yrs & we still see averagely ONCE A MTH. fortunately though, we get either holidays or sum special cases were we actually get 2 live 2gether as a couple for a few wks or days. long & short, u could jump into marrying d person to bridge d long distance thingy. its d surest way, even though marriage doesnt alwys bring d person home completely |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by eazybuzy(m): 3:09pm On Aug 21, 2009 |
if there is love and you can feel it, then it is worth waiting for. one day you will settle down and sure you will live together till death do you part. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by mntpaul(m): 5:34pm On Aug 21, 2009 |
LD's are very hard. I am in one and we are making it. It takes a huge commitment, it is the greatest emotional and spiritual commitment that I have ever had. I konw if we survive this we can survive anything. I think it is well worth it if your looking for a life mate. One thing I like about it is that in our letters and phone conversations, your more free to express how you really feel, because it seems that social barriers are let go. So LD allows for more openness, so you can really let the person know how you feel about things. Seems to be less reservations. I believe it also builds a better foundation for a relationship. I believe, if you guys make it your will be strong. One of the greatest values I learned of LD is you learn not take the simple things for granted. For me even to hold my partners hand or a kiss has great relevance. LD tempers the heart. We both have learned how to really appreciate the other. We are not in an open relationship. We are committed. Sometimes I think how easy it would be to walk away. But my partner's strength and commitment feeds you and your strong again. We have invested a lot of energy into our relationship. It is well worth it and is greater value than anything in the world. When things get tough, we return to our relationship to draw on its strength. Sometimes you have to fight for you relationship. Like some post here are discouraging or worldly. But love is beyond the grasp of the world, so find the strength to live beyond worldly worries or fears. Eventually, you will discover the whole world will revolve around your relationship. Just think about it, think about how society and the world is set up. Everything is made more for pairs. You will begin to see life as it accommodates the two of you. So I am cheering for you. If you and your partner believe, I will believe also. Assume you will make it and it will happen. Good luck |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Samkunle(m): 7:15pm On Aug 23, 2009 |
mntpaul:You couldn't have spoken any better than this. And I can't agree more with you because I share the same shoes with you. Best wishes to you in your relationship. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Hairat007(f): 10:45pm On Aug 23, 2009 |
mntpaul: Hey TANX a million. God i'm short of words but i do appreciate dis i really do if dere re jst 5 of u out dere, i wnder if dere wld be problems tinking positively @ all i hope u get d joy u deserve too and i wish u all d best. Tanx bro. lol |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by C2H5OH(f): 10:59pm On Aug 23, 2009 |
mntpaul:nice |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Fiona0007: 11:30pm On Aug 23, 2009 |
mntpaul:I can't agree more. i have friends who have been through LD r/s and finally settled down with their chosen ones. So if this LDrelationship is with your chosen one for your life it's worthwhile. I wish you all the very best. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by uglyBetty1(f): 6:17pm On Aug 24, 2009 |
please encourage us that are in LDR, it is not an easy thing. You miss the person every time. There are certain things presence will solve that phone cant do. All in all, the best thing is try your best to be constantly communicate, and what will be will be. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by ninagood(f): 4:39am On Aug 25, 2009 |
am also in a LDR and its not easy ooo and u know why? the human mind is so unpredictable but my will is so strong and i believe it ends up positively. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Hairat007(f): 11:59pm On Aug 28, 2009 |
Guys u all re wnderfl. i am glad i am not alone on dis and it seems all those in d same boat wit me re determined 2 survive. I see no reason y i shld let go @ least u hv given me d strength. I am very grateful 2 u all tanx. lol |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Amaka1725(f): 12:04am On Aug 29, 2009 |
This is a rhetorical question right? |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Nobody: 11:53pm On Aug 29, 2009 |
can be good. can be bad. but i think it is those individuals involved that will determine how they want to play it. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by olovezej(f): 2:33pm On Aug 31, 2009 |
It really aint easy. But if he's committed n there r plans to stitch d gap often, it makes it bearable. I love him n can't give him up cos of distance, he's worth d trouble. |
Re: Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad by Hairat007(f): 4:12pm On Aug 31, 2009 |
olovezej: I admire ur strong will nd i pray ur dreams come true. Good luck girl |
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