Some say trust is for the weak, some say it is for the Strong. Sometimes, we need to trust. I have had this bae for 5 years, planning to do the introduction and the needful by November, by then she'd be serving. Hopefully, after her service, traditional and white wedding would take place. Today, i did what i don't normally do, i logged in to one of her social media platforms. Saw messages exchanged by my fiance and a certain man whom she promised to visit, and another who's telling her how he wants her to have his babies, she's happily dropping her contact. Dear Nairalanders, i just want to quit the whole thing, it's better to have a broken courtship than a broken marriage. Is there any reason why i should hang on?please help.

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You guys should talk about it. Hear what she has to say first...even if you're not going to believe eventually, just listen and see if its reasonanble or not.

You should not be surprised, ladies are bound to have admirers and toasters till they die. , that you discovered guys still come hunting for her is not enough reason for you to start considering a break up. You should only be worried when you have evidences, I mean concrete evidences to prove she's actually cheating on you. I advice you reconsider her if you truly Love ya woman.

otabuko:
Some say trust is for the weak, some say it is for the Strong. Sometimes, we need to trust. I have had this bae for 5 years, planning to do the introduction and the needful by November, by then she'd be serving. Hopefully, after her service, traditional and white wedding would take place. Today, i did what i don't normally do, i logged in to one of her social media platforms. Saw messages exchanged by my fiance and a certain man whom she promised to visit, and another who's telling her how he wants her to have his babies, she's happily dropping her contact. Dear Nairalanders, i just want to quit the whole thing, it's better to have a broken courtship than a broken marriage. Is there any reason why i should hang on?please help.

Your topic though. It doesn't look inviting at all. I think it should go like this: '' Could she be cheating on me?'' or '' See what my fiancee is doing. (please advise)'' or some other inviting titles to make it hit the front page for more advice.

Seriously, bro you need good advice on issues like this. Maybe consultant Lalasticlala can do it.

jen2me:
You should not be surprised, ladies are bound to have admirers and toasters till they die. , that you discovered guys still come hunting for her is not enough reason for you to start considering a break up. You should only be worried when you have evidences, I mean concrete evidences to prove she's actually cheating on you. I advice you reconsider her if you truly Love ya woman.

Seeing messages about visiting,i think is concrete...but i will reconsider,keeping my options open,thanks.

Lovelynature:
Your topic though. It doesn't look inviting at all. I think it should go like this: '' Could she be cheating on me?'' or '' See what my fiancee is doing. (please advise)'' or some other inviting titles to make it hit the front page for more advice.

Seriously, bro you need good advice on issues like this. Maybe consultant Lalasticlala can do it.

Abeg no mind me,i am not really good at picking headings...thnks though.

My opinion, don't drop her, she's just enjoying the attention she's getting from other guys. Sit her asss down, tell her everything you see and you guys should trash everything out! Let her know your mind. Don't mind using abusive words, just spill it all out and see her reaction. Her reaction will determine your next action.



Meanwhile, 5yrs relationship How have you been holding up? I mean have you been putting spices or is it just another boring relationship dat makes girls bored Spice it up, flirt with her and do fun things together. Don't get too comfortable! We get bored with the same routine everyday. Shallom

layla129:
You guys should talk about it. Hear what she has to say first...even if you're not going to believe eventually, just listen and see if its reasonanble or not.

thank u, the issue is,right now i am not close,would love to talk about it face to face...thanks,i appreciate. It pains me cos i don't know how to start all over again.

HateU2:
My opinion, don't drop her, she's just enjoying the attention she's getting from other guys. Sit her asss down, tell her everything you see and you guys should trash everything out! Let her know your mind. Don't mind using abusive words, just spill it all out and see her reaction. Her reaction will determine your next action.



Meanwhile, 5yrs relationship How have you been holding up? I mean have you been putting spices or is it just another boring relationship dat makes girls bored Spice it up, flirt with her and do fun things together. Don't get too comfortable! We get bored with the same routine everyday. Shallom

Lol...well said,we flirt, we do everything to keep ourselves happy. We go to video shops, we go to photo studios and snap, we go swimming...we go to eateries, we had our ups and downs, job and career kept me away, for 10 months now, we have been far apart, but we speak atleast 4 times in a week.. We do everything normal to do in relationships..

It surprises me too why are all girls fund of this behaviour they easily succumb to guys on social media. That's how I stumbled on the wats up chat of my bae who I thought luv me. And seeing how she was chatting wit several guys dicussing sex issues and places where they will meet. Mehn I don tire 4 these girls

Dnt dump her, maybe she was just enjoying their attention. But d aspect of her disclosing her contact to them sound some how though! Dat was how a Fb friend to my married female colleague, was busy calling her on d phone, promising how his coming from PH to Abj to pay her a visit! My question to her was, wat if she was together with her husband when d guy called? All dis social network guys that are ready to destroy people's relationship!

Dnt dump her, maybe she was just enjoying their attention. But d aspect of her disclosing her contact to them sound some how though! Dat was how a Fb friend to my married female colleague, was busy calling her on d phone, promising how his coming from PH to Abj to pay her a visit! My question to her was, wat if she was together with her husband when d guy called? All dis social network guys that are ready to destroy people's relationship!

Call her and open up to her, tell her how u feel!

[quote author=layla129 post=44942500]You guys should talk about it. Hear what she has to say first...even if you're not going to believe eventually, just listen and see if its reasonanble or not.[/quote


For a lady about to hit the alter, there is no excuse for dropping them numbers. If they were just dating, well, it's a different matter.

Ladies thrive on this act never minding whether they mean to cheat or not men see it as a cheating sign. Some do it to feel relevant while others need to be reassured of their ability to still catch the eyes of the men folk.

Either way, it is a deplorable act.

You have to talk to her about it....no be phone conversation ooo...na face to face..... same tin has happened to me b4 ....i don't go through her phone, she just handed it to me and the chat was open open I decided to go through.... they were planning to meet...d guy asked of her bf...she said don't worry I can take care of him....dats when I lost it....buh we talked about it, she said it didn't mean anytin, she was only yning the guy....i no believe fully bu wetin man go do...if she go cheat she go cheat

Because eru wa nile,

let her go. otherwise you might die of hypertension when you get married.

for a lady under courtship that's too bad...funny part is they use their own hands to invite the devil and when you confront them, they will say ''he is just a friend and nothing will happen''..mind you the person you are currently dating all started through friendship..op is you that is putting on the shoes n walking the miles as well..always remember this, do not to marry or love someone out of pity, if you feel leaving her will make you happy is all fine and good but if not then stay and warn her to detest from such attitude before it cost her the relationship you both have built over the years.

otabuko:
Seeing messages about visiting,i think is concrete...but i will reconsider,keeping my options open,thanks.

In my opinion, that she promised to visit still ain't concrete enough reason to quit because she may not really want to visit, just playing around.. you know those kinda thing. Call her for a tete-a-tete. Depending on what she has to say, everything may be much ado about nothing.

Maybe u r planning to marry her in your mind and she is also planning to move forward since u r not talking marriage after 5yrs, " in her own mind"
My opinion-
Be open with her and tell her wat u r planning so her mind can b at ease. No girl wants to clock 30 un her father's house.

Lack of communication might just be ur problem.

Be open to her and then watch her closely, dont mind all dis kids who will tell u to dump her.

Wanna thank everyone that made it to this thread even though it had a bad topic/heading, i appreciate your advises, especially from the ladies that suggested i hang on a bit....