Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

hmmmm

I should prolly say some sh!t like "you're a disgrace to womanhood and diginity"

but what I'm gonna say is



you should have let him know you was playing

FIRST OF ALL, sorry, but u dnt know what you want yet. You like him a lot but you dnt love him? how do you think love starts

What sort of wickedness is this.

You should always let people who have no chance with you know immediately.

Why do you keep having dinner with him and telling him you think he is a play boy.

You keep encouraging him. The moment you noticed how he felt you should have withdrawn a little.

This is unfair, playing around with someone feeling as such. Tell him immediately how you feel. If he wants to remain friends it's his choice but stop giving him mixed signals

Baba has been zoned but why still show him love when you don't feel a thing for him . I think you should tell him bluntly you don't feel anything and stop all the boyfriend jokes shikena

Hmmmm. I cn see u're very jovial.



Anyway, tell him u were only joking. Lol

@nlfan, the last time I checked, people like marrying their friends. If he makes a good friend but no tizzling feelings generated now, then allow the relationship to tarry a bit. With time, love and feelings may genuinely develop by actions of both of u. Learn his personality well, come closer to him to see his attributes that may trigger any feelings too. Also, try to unwind urself from your workaholic disposition as to reduce stress from urself. Maturity in both mind and body is good for marriage- I think ur guy has got it. Above all, after all checks and balances, if you cannot progress further, kindly inform him.

I know your type very well. I used to have one like that in my school days who call me all sort of names : "my sweetheart, my love", etc., meanwhile, she sleeps with random guys even in the same hostel.

I had to confront her one day, and told her frankly to stop the name callings. Girls always want it all. They want the tough & iron hand engagement with the bad guy, but love the emotional fantasy and romantic cover of the easy-going man whom they hardly love truly.

I blame that guy for allowing a flirt play with his head like CHESS. A f00l at 40 who cannot differentiate between friend zone and LOVE may never find REAL love till death.

If you don't love him, leave him. If we search deeply, your heart is definitely with another guy who probably does not give a HOOT about you.

the fact that you had a girl that was sleeping around does not mean you should start talking to women anyhow, dont ever talk to me in that tune again, i beg of you

Acidosis:
I know your type very well. I used to have one like that in my school days who call me all sort of names : "my sweetheart, my love", etc., meanwhile, he would be sleeping with random guys even in the same hostel.

I had to confront her one day, and told her frankly to stop the name callings. Girls always want it all. They want the tough & iron hand engagement with the bad guy, but love the emotional fantasy and romantic cover of the easy-going man whom they hardly love truly.

I blame that guy for allowing a flirt play with his head like CHESS. A f00l at 40 who cannot differentiate between friend zone and LOVE may never find REAL love till death.

If you don't love him, leave him. If we search deeply, your heart is definitely with another guy who probably does not give a HOOT about you.

nlfan:
the fact that you had a girl that was sleeping around does not mean you should start talking to women anyhow, dont ever talk to me in that tune again, i beg of you

I will talk to you, and heaven will not fall because I want the best for you

You shouldn't have led him on for nothing. Now, you feel you don't love him because you have him in your palms but i can bet it with you that you will start getting jealous once he moves on with another lady and pay you less or no attention at all...then you'll want him.

Love doesn't just jump on people most of the time. It's a gradual process. You like him already, that is a good start if you ask me. Give him a trial

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

And you don't feel anything for him You probably don't understand what you want

nlfan:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

Free him if you don't love him. Don't waste his time any further.

So, u brought this to NL?

To

be honest, babe, u are wicked.

Girl you better love him .Don't allow your husband to marry someone else..Na wa for u o.. come and share your testimony later jor

@op, did you ever stop to think about the possibility that he's actually being a player and you are the game right now?

This The Kinda Shii I Always Talk About.Men Think Differently..So After All The Fun And Everything,you Expect Him Not To Fall In Love?Gedafuck Outta Here Mehn! Just Let Him Fvck Once At Least.

My sister, kuku finish what you 've started.

No offence... You well so?

I seriously do not get the idea of toying with people's emotions.
How would you feel if same was done to you?

Moral lesson: Say the L word only if u mean it. don't dalliance.

@op, how old are you?

Do what ever suite u,,,, but please don't come back here to say good guys are hard to fine...


#GotIt?

My people, this here is a "winsh".

How can someone be fantastically evil like this? You manipulated him and you want to escape now that your seeds have germinated.

Somebody was on his own jeje, enjoying his loneliness and you just had to come and sow confusion into his peaceful life. It's like dem send you.

What da hell! You don't have feelings for him and you want us to help you develop feelings for him

nlfan:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

I don't feel for him my foot or instead of you to say thar his love is driving you crazy. I beg just make sure say you invite me 4 una wedding and naming ceremony oo . Congratulations in advance

Just negodu.

Nlfan, I don't get it. You like him a lot and still don't feel anything for him?

I've heard my friends say that to me when I woo em and I've read you ladies say this one line when I read you but I can't just relate how you'll like someone so much and still wouldn't feel a thing for him when he's not your blood bro or one of your family members like that.

[quote author=AfroKnight post=45538170]My people, this here is a "winsh".

How can someone be fantastically evil like this? You manipulated him and you want to escape now that your seeds have germinated.

Somebody was on his own jeje, enjoying his loneliness and you just had to come and sow confusion into his peaceful life. It's like dem send you

Dis guy has gat no chill... Haba

You just a bloody time waster..
Want to be talking from morning to night about what

I have a sister who needs him.. P. M me

This is just crazy, there are some things I will never understand; the behavioral patterns of women is right on top of those things