tiniyata:
don't marry her just cos she's beautiful.

singlessubway:
DayDream 1
We can live on love

Reality
Love will neither pay bills nor cover financial hardship. Research have shown that money to be a leading cause of marital dispute and eventual divorce. An unbalance view about money can lead to spiritual and emotional harm and can erode your relationship with your spouse. Don't wait until marriage to discuss money management.



Suggestion:
Talk over your future financial arrangement with your spouse now, before you are married. Consider such questions as these: How will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint or separate bank accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at Keeping financial records and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one spend on a purchase without consulting the other? Now is the time to start working as a team!


DayDream 2
We will be a perfect match as a married couple because we see eye to eye on everything, we never disagree!

Reality
if you never disagreed, its probably because you have carefully managed to avoid issues that might spark a conflict, but marriage will not afford you that luxury. The fact is, no two imperfect humans are perfectly matched, so a measure of disagreement is inevitable. You need to consider not only how well you disagree but also what happens when you disagree. A strong union is made up of two people who can openly acknowledge a difference and then work to settle the matter maturely and amicably.


Suggestion:
Reflect on how you have handled conflict with your parents, siblings and co-worker up to this point. Note specific event that have triggered a disagreement, how you responded and what respond might have been better. For Instance, if your impulsive response to conflict has been to storm off to your room and angrily slam the door or Bottle up the anger without responding, write down a better respond, that is, one that will work to resolve the problem rather than further entrench it. if you learn to respond better to conflict you will gain a skill that is crucial to a happy marriage.

DayDream 3
Once I get married, all my sexual desires will be satisfied.

Reality
Being married does not guarantee sex demand. Remember you spouse is a human being who has feelings that mist be considered. Frankly, there would be times your mate simply isn't in the mood for intimacy. Marriage does not give you the right to insist on having your needs fulfilled. The fact is self control is important in both singleness and marriage.


Suggestion:
Make a careful review of your sexual desires and tendencies, and think about how these might affect your marriage. For instance, are you enslaved to self-focused habit of masturbation? have you had a habit of viewing pornography? do you have a roving eye looking lustfully at members of the opposite sex?
Ask yourself, if I have trouble controlling my sexual desires before marriage, how will I be able to do so afterwards.
Another matter: Have you be prone to flirt and okay the field, earning a reputation as a play boy/runs girl among those of the opposite sex? if so, how do you plan to curtail that tendency after marriage, when your affection will need to be directed to one person?

To be continued
Cc: Toks2008
PresVa
Blessedtwins
Larry37
Go2success
Goldendr
Macjc

singlessubway:
DayDream 1
We can live on love

Reality
Love will neither pay bills nor cover financial hardship. Research have shown that money to be a leading cause of marital dispute and eventual divorce. An unbalance view about money can lead to spiritual and emotional harm and can erode your relationship with your spouse. Don't wait until marriage to discuss money management.



Suggestion:
Talk over your future financial arrangement with your spouse now, before you are married. Consider such questions as these: How will our income be budgeted? Will we have a joint or separate bank accounts? Which spouse will be more adept at Keeping financial records and seeing that bills are paid? How much money can one spend on a purchase without consulting the other? Now is the time to start working as a team!


DayDream 2
We will be a perfect match as a married couple because we see eye to eye on everything, we never disagree!

Reality
if you never disagreed, its probably because you have carefully managed to avoid issues that might spark a conflict, but marriage will not afford you that luxury. The fact is, no two imperfect humans are perfectly matched, so a measure of disagreement is inevitable. You need to consider not only how well you disagree but also what happens when you disagree. A strong union is made up of two people who can openly acknowledge a difference and then work to settle the matter maturely and amicably.


Suggestion:
Reflect on how you have handled conflict with your parents, siblings and co-worker up to this point. Note specific event that have triggered a disagreement, how you responded and what respond might have been better. For Instance, if your impulsive response to conflict has been to storm off to your room and angrily slam the door or Bottle up the anger without responding, write down a better respond, that is, one that will work to resolve the problem rather than further entrench it. if you learn to respond better to conflict you will gain a skill that is crucial to a happy marriage.

DayDream 3
Once I get married, all my sexual desires will be satisfied.

Reality
Being married does not guarantee sex demand. Remember you spouse is a human being who has feelings that mist be considered. Frankly, there would be times your mate simply isn't in the mood for intimacy. Marriage does not give you the right to insist on having your needs fulfilled. The fact is self control is important in both singleness and marriage.


Suggestion:
Make a careful review of your sexual desires and tendencies, and think about how these might affect your marriage. For instance, are you enslaved to self-focused habit of masturbation? have you had a habit of viewing pornography? do you have a roving eye looking lustfully at members of the opposite sex?
Ask yourself, if I have trouble controlling my sexual desires before marriage, how will I be able to do so afterwards.
Another matter: Have you be prone to flirt and okay the field, earning a reputation as a play boy/runs girl among those of the opposite sex? if so, how do you plan to curtail that tendency after marriage, when your affection will need to be directed to one person?

To be continued
Cc: Toks2008
PresVa
Blessedtwins
Larry37
Go2success
Goldendr
Macjc