CFCman:
Well, I believe a no-quarrel relationship is a fallacy. There is no way siblings, let alone couples will live on Earth and not have quarreled at one time or the other.

Teespice:
I have read half of a yellow sun and americanah.
unbroken happiness is futile in my opinion. though as humans we do not pray for bad things to happen so that the chain of happiness be broken, but then something has to happen for it to be broken even though that event or causative agent/factor may or may not be planned.
I don't know if I made sense.

Sleekyshuga:

In essence, unbroken happiness is a fact ?

Sleekyshuga:

In essence, unbroken happiness is a fact ?


You made sense .. Well, I think we don't plan for a broken happiness.. If that attack do not come, how then can you cherish the other person/what you share?

So, you stand with unbroken happiness being bore ?

Omavik:
Unbroken happiness is not a bore(I really do not want to agree with that word in this case) cos sincerely,, I believe nobody wants to experience sadness...
Nobody gets bored by being happy at all time..

But its just a fact,,its not possible to experience unbroken happiness in life..


Unbroken relationship?? can be pretty boring..
Also, it can only happen in a relationship where one party is not being sincere with the other...


Its also a fact....

Teespice:


I don't stand with unbroken happiness being a bore.

I will gladly welcome anything and anybody that makes me happy 365 days a year and beyond.

but I know it is not possible going with events that might happen most especially, the unplanned ones.

this is where expectations come in. one has to have at the back of their mind that one day something unexpected will happen as as such prepare for that day.

I might be called a pessimist, but abeg, na reality dey ground.

Sleekyshuga:

OK!! Relationships aside, how then do you excel in other spheres of life when there are no challenges?

Don't you ever feel everyone around you is pretending to be happy; your colleagues? boss? classmates? etc..

Sleekyshuga:

Hahahhahaha.. Now, you got me confused..

Then what is the essence of happiness if it cannot be broken? Where is the challenge? Where is the 'I can do it' attitude?

You have to be unhappy to appreciate happiness ..

Suigeneris93:
Unbroken happiness in the sense that the relationship never witnesses ups or downs is actually a fallacy. Problems are bound to crop up every now and then cos this is life; a mixture of 'yin' and 'yang' makes for balance. So whether its a bore or not, unbroken happiness is almost impossible to achieve



But if all things were equal, I'd rather have my happiness unbroken than the other way, who no like better thing

Teespice:


babes

happiness can be broken. which is why I said it all boils down to expectations.

iAmCharis:
Does challenges equate broken happiness?

joseph1832:
I'll say it all depend on the individual. What applies to you, doesn't necessarily apply to me or someone else.

Happiness, as I've come to know it, doesn't have the same interpretation for many people. Some people might quarrel everyday, and yet, they're happy, while some don't quarrel at all and yet, they're still happy.

So, like I said above, its purely relative.

Cc: postmann, lezz, ishilove, mindfulness.

Ishilove:
You've essentially said all that needs to be said

joseph1832:
I'll say it all depend on the individual. What applies to you, doesn't necessarily apply to me or someone else.

Happiness, as I've come to know it, doesn't have the same interpretation for many people. Some people might quarrel everyday, and yet, they're happy, while some don't quarrel at all and yet, they're still happy.

So, like I said above, its purely relative.

Sleekyshuga:

Reasons I used the Oxford Dictionary definition for us all to be on the same stance ..

Sleekyshuga:

Reasons it becomes boring when there are no challenges, little stress, fights etc to make us appreciate happiness..

Thanks for contributing .. I understand your stance..


Are challenges not a bridge to your happiness?

What then do you refer to a bridge in happiness?

Sleekyshuga:

OK!! Relationships aside, how then do you excel in other spheres of life when there are no challenges?

Don't you ever feel everyone around you is pretending to be happy; your colleagues? boss? classmates? etc..

iAmCharis:
ooking away from relationships, would you call the challenges that comes with academic success a bridge to happiness?

joseph1832:
I'll say it all depend on the individual. What applies to you, doesn't necessarily apply to me or someone else.

Happiness, as I've come to know it, doesn't have the same interpretation for many people. Some people might quarrel everyday, and yet, they're happy, while some don't quarrel at all and yet, they're still happy.

So, like I said above, its purely relative.

Cc: pos.tmann, lez.z, is.hilove, mind.fulness.

joseph1832:
I'll say it all depend on the individual. What applies to you, doesn't necessarily apply to me or someone else.

Happiness, as I've come to know it, doesn't have the same interpretation for many people. Some people might quarrel everyday, and yet, they're happy, while some don't quarrel at all and yet, they're still happy.

So, like I said above, its purely relative.

Cc: postm.ann, lez.z, ishi.love, m.indfulness.

Sleekyshuga:

To every success, there is a bridge..
To every course you are fighting for, something (a sacrifice) has to be paid..

• I applied for Medicine (unbroken happiness), and instead, I got a course I never knew existed. I had to adjust (it became a challenge/downs). My ability to sail in that course becomes my success story (ups).

• I had classmates who didn't bathe to school, wash their clothes, slept on benches, barely ate real food, had little or no social life all in a feat to achieve success.. I remember my c.rep telling me he never cooked from his year 1 till he graduated, all because he wanted to leave with a first class, and of course, he did it..

There are periods you just don't want to read but because of the goal(s) ahead, you brace up, leave your unbroken happiness/comfort zone to tackle the ups & downs in academics..

Whether you like it or not, that was a bridge to their happiness/normal lives..

• Why would I want to have a boss who will always pat me on my back when I do something wrong, come late to work, abuse and fight my colleagues all because he wants me happy ?

• Or a boyfriend/hubby who would want me happy always even at the detriment of my own mistakes/faults? Whatever happens to shaking that unbroken happiness?

Wouldn't I get bored? Of course, I will.

IAmCharis, wouldn't you get bored ? Where then is the chance to prove that you are ready to learn, and be better if things goes smoothly for you?

'Even the rich also cry.'

I wouldn't shove my opinions down your throat !! Each man to his own understanding..

I applied for Medicine (unbroken happiness), and instead, I got a course I never knew existed. I had to adjust (it became a challenge/downs). My ability to sail in that course becomes my success story (ups).

• I had classmates who didn't bathe to school, wash their clothes, slept on benches, barely ate real food, had little or no social life all in a feat to achieve success.. I remember my c.rep telling me he never cooked from his year 1 till he graduated, all because he wanted to leave with a first class, and of course, he did it..