richyblink1:


Oga, you make it seem like marrying an Igbo man is world war 3. The point you listed there are all meaningless if the man have balls and stand his grounds.

I am igbo while my better half is Akwa Ibom. Yet the sky isn't cracking . The man in question should be able to talk to this parents and make them understand where his happiness lies.

Let's stop encouraging tribalism and encourage one another to resist it gently till it's corrected

richyblink1:


Oga, you make it seem like marrying an Igbo man is world war 3. The point you listed there are all meaningless if the man have balls and stand his grounds.

I am igbo while my better half is Akwa Ibom. Yet the sky isn't cracking . The man in question should be able to talk to this parents and make them understand where his happiness lies.

Let's stop encouraging tribalism and encourage one another to resist it gently till it's corrected

dandollaz:
If u can speak igbo u can fly.if not na serious issue oo as nwafor igbo .we have witness many men marrying yoruba and end up forgetting his family to take care of the wife family and because the wife might be having issue wit the husband family nobody dere come close ooo else oyo.igbos marry family but not so many tribe.my advice learn hu to speak igbo else ready for long battle expecially the mum not the sis.no mother will like loose her son.if na hausa they can be accepted easily than yoruba

IkpuMmadu:




Akwa Ibom and Igbo has been marrying ages so why the big deal ....almost the same culture

fireforfire:


D man has valid points.

I think ur own case is different in d sense dat ur wife is from a kwa ibom . Most igbos r ok with spouses from calabar ,rivers , akwaibom ,edo , u know most southern states.
Dey feel it's not too far from d east n share some similarities in terms of culture.

But mentioning yoruba to some igbo parents is a no no . Due to d vast cultural differences.

My 2 dollars tho

kaziblake:
My dear this is tough o..i will advice you to seek God face,if it doesn't work out then find your way.
My cousin is married to an Igbo guy and they are doing fine.
His parent approved the marriage cos they are well learned and aren't tribalistic likewise her parent too...Tribalism is mostly common among the illiterates.
My yoruba friend is facing the same the same issue from her father cos of her igbo boo,her boyfriend parent accepted her wholeheartedly but her own father is the main issue..She took in and she is currently 8month gone but her father is still adamant.
May God help you and morenike

legalspices:

Amen my sister... my father is cool with us..just his parents and I don't have a mum to come for my omugwo...the dudes parent threatened to disown his sis if she marries outside Igbo...who does that?

fireforfire:


Exactly. Dat was my response to him too.

legalspices:

He is being a committed,obedient first son and first born of the FAM, laying good examples

Beremx:
you should just remain in politics section. you're not good in giving marital advice.

sammied:





you see.... other tribes are not as myopic as igbos...tribalism is the reason igbo have produced no quality leaders in Nigeria, the world is a global village, when you cannot easily relate and accept others, you automatically lose out... all the shout about been segregated in Nigeria by igbos... what has it produced? nothing!

most of this tribalistic igbos does not even know their village, if not for the open minded nature of other tribes accepting them into their lands they wouldn't have amount to anything....

the earlier igbos wake up from their tribalistic snoring sleep... the better for them....

Kingnonny:
My friend's sister Nikky just wedded last Saturday to a handsome dude from Osun while she's Anambra, my point is that you guys need both parents consent, approval and blessings. Since the marriage seems more important to you. Look your assignment is your man he needs to man up, I wish I know you personally. But all the same you must talk sense into your man's head, if truly he loves you then you must make him understand that his sources of happiness(you) needs a strong support cos I believe all they want for him is just the best . See let me tell you the family is trying to be over protective over their son, if you can make them understand you know what they are doing and that you must not let them have any regret for marrying you. You have a duty to make him talk sense into his people they must not really like you over night but just get that little approval from them and be a good woman to them. I have seen lots of Yoruba-Igbo marriages that more harmonious & successful. But in everything there is a hand that controls the heart of men, I'll advice you move that hand to favor you.

TheArchangel:
You will make a bad in law. No wonder your intending in laws are refusing vehemently to accept you.
Imagine the venom you are spewing to a tribe your supposed "sweetheart" came out from. I sincerely pray they will refuse to give out their daughter to a bitterly bigoted tribalist like you to save their daughter of impending heart attack.
I am Igbo so bring it on.

Kobicove:


What makes her a tribalist?

Love alone is not enough to sustain a marriage, period!

Don't marry someone from a different tribe if you can avoid it ...the headaches you will face in future are just too many.

Marrying someone from the same tribe but from a different background and upbringing is challenging enough, so why would you want to complicate things by throwing tribal difference in the 'mix'?

I'm from the south east and I almost made that mistake by marrying a lady from the Niger Delta area.

Trust me, it's not worth it!!!

IkpuMmadu:


Oga what is meaningless


Let us start encouraging people marrying their likes ...it's not a nive thing disobeying parents just to marry

We will all be parents someday so why will you advise somebody to disobey

And why should a lady throw herself on a man that his family doesn't want her...there should be dignity

Why can't the lady simply walk away and let the man sort this thing out of he really wants


This is shameful a lady comes to public forum to lament about Igbo man not marrying her...for Christ sake sue can find men in her tribe or is her tribal men not marriage material


This is shameful ..and for a lady for that matter ...we know husbands are scarce but there should be dignity NAA


A man should be the one doing the chasing .....

IkpuMmadu:



Hmmmm that lady has ended having kids out of wedlock

kaziblake:
The boy parent accepted, it's the girl father that is the main issue now

IkpuMmadu:




Akwa Ibom and Igbo has been marrying ages so why the big deal ....almost the same culture

Princess91:
I am a fulani babe and my man is a yoruba man,we are engaged,his parents love me and also my parents love him...I think the key here is love,understanding from both parties.

IkpuMmadu:


Then why don't the girl respect herself ..instead of throwing himself at the man...is the Girl ugly? Now she has had birth out of marriage ..an illegitimate child

fireforfire:


.....****** herdsmen. .lol

Sorry na play I dey play o

IGLE25:
I don't see why parents of this generation still back on tribal differences in marriage matters. I was in your shoe some years back but I have to let go of the relationship. I dated this Ibo girl for 12 years and was thinking of proposing to her on our 12th year of courtship when she broke the news of her dad not in support of the relationship and she was asking what is my take on it. I told her bluntly to go with whatever her mind chooses and she went with her father's mandate. As I am writing to you now she will be 31 this year and not in any serious relationship, I am not making gest of her but her father brought this into her life. By the grace of God I will be settling down with my Oyinbo Canada in July. I don't really know what to advise you but do what you know is best for you and the most important thing seek the face of God in this situation and all will be well with you. Goodluck in making your choice.

ajimega:
[s]If truly u love one another then it is reasonable to get married, the said parents can not stay away for long when they see their grandchild for the first time even if it five to ten years time the hate will disappear but it takes a lot of corage my dear. my parents too where not in support when my eldest brother brought an igbo lady home but when he impregnated her and she starts to show they had no chioce and my immediate brother also got a Delta lady home and they just accepted their fate. Now i am bringing a Muslim home. All will be well dearest[/s]

kaziblake:
when true love is involved nobody can separate them...

waternogetemeny:


Are u allergic to ur Yoruba? This trash u wrote, did u think u made any sense?


Begging mixing, people would think maybe u were talking of another race but it is black people like you.


Maybe yorubas see other linguistic group as white, Chinese, latino and they want to mix so they can have mix race.


Anybody that have a better explanation for their obsession with igbos pls share.