bukatyne:

Lol!
Thank you
+1 E-friend
Hope say your blade no go cut me sha

no oo e nor go cut you

thorpido:
That's true but in this guy's situation,he does not.I don't blame him though because he is still dealing with the pressures of medical school.

True

Blade21:
no oo e nor go cut you

Mindfulness:

Is desperation / insecurity not one of the most off-putting traits?

For certain it is?

emmykingkong:
kk let me tink about it

you are now in her bf' shoes.

Myhonor:
6months

Good Lord. You want to make plans with a guy you met for six months? Pls Mbok the future is too bright, dont throw it away. If that guy gets you pregnant, sweetie, you are on your own. He has told you before hand. He pretends mood because he doesn't really want you around.

Do not commit.Give them hope, but never satisfaction-one of the 48 laws of power.

I think you aren't only desperate,you're also a child with too much fantasy away from reality.

You might as well have asked for future plans with a ring in your hands proposing to him like 'you the man'.

What ever happened to channelling that whole quest and energy to envisage the future of both of you in your character and behaviour to genuinely earn that spot in his heart. You think it's to just tie him down with a stamp of unchangeable and unconditional commitment so if paraventure you screw up in the nearest future he'd have to keep to his words nonetheless ?

Wisdom is a rarity in today's modern woman.

21 is not too young to think of marriage. By 21, I was in a full blown relationship with my husband and i knew then it was heading for marriage.

I have seen final year male medical students getting married. Some as residents, etc. If in his final year, he doesn't know what he wants, please move on.

Not saying he should marry immediately but have some sort of plan.

Thanks all for your advices... I guess I was just too scared of being dumped later dats y I asked him dat question... am still young and have other things to focus on.. So I'll just focus on my life and forget about this relationship stuff for now.. .. I really appreciate all ur advices

Myhonor:
Thanks all for your advices... I guess I was just too scared of being dumped later dats y I asked him dat question... am still young and have other things to focus on.. So I'll just focus on my life and forget about this relationship stuff for now.. .. I really appreciate all ur advices

That's the only sensible thing you can do for yourself.

kids.........u sha want to marry a Doctor, no?

WHY ARE YOU DATING A STUDENT? AT 21, ITS VERY MUCH OKAY TO THINK ABOUT MARRIAGE COS YOU HAVE REACH THE AGE OF MARRIAGE, THE GUY IN QUESTION CANNOT MARRY YOU BECAUSE HE IS STILL YOUNG AND HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO, MANY GIRLS GET MARRIED IN SCHOOL,SO IF YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE, TRY AND DATE MATURED GUYS THAT ARE READY TO SETTLE DOWN.
TIME WAIT FOR NO LADY, GUYS CAN MARRY ANYTIME THEY WANT, STOP WASTING YOUR TIME WITH HIM.

Myhonor:
Thanks all for your advices... I guess I was just too scared of being dumped later dats y I asked him dat question... am still young and have other things to focus on.. So I'll just focus on my life and forget about this relationship stuff for now.. .. I really appreciate all ur advices

BABE DONT FORGET ABOUT R/SHIP, YOU ARE A LADY AT 21,YOU SHOULD BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT WILL LEAD TO MARRIAGE, DATE MATURED GUYS THAT CAN MARRY YOU.

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Men don't like to be pressured into making commitments.
You were being hasty trying to cross the bridge before you got to it.

The guy was frank with you.
His future had not been sorted out.
He had his final exams to write, internship, work, further studies,etc.

Let him be the one to worry about how you would see after school.
Enjoy the relationship for now, be a good girl, aim to excel in whatever you do.
Chances are he will taste other relationships.
And if he really loves you the most, he will come to you in the end.

Background and upbringing forms a better part of one's maturity. Op's own may have not really helped.

blank:
21 is not too young to think of marriage. By 21, I was in a full blown relationship with my husband and i knew then it was heading for marriage.

I have seen final year male medical students getting married. Some as residents, etc. If in his final year, he doesn't know what he wants, please move on.

Not saying he should marry immediately but have some sort of plan.

That's the spirit dear. Go out there and be an achiever but keep ur senses alert for a good r/ship when it comes.

Myhonor:
Thanks all for your advices... I guess I was just too scared of being dumped later dats y I asked him dat question... am still young and have other things to focus on.. So I'll just focus on my life and forget about this relationship stuff for now.. .. I really appreciate all ur advices

You scared him. Nigga is just 24 and you're already bugging him about plans and marriage. Slow down, kiddo.

Vickyydera:
BABE DONT FORGET ABOUT R/SHIP, YOU ARE A LADY AT 21,YOU SHOULD BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT WILL LEAD TO MARRIAGE, DATE MATURED GUYS THAT CAN MARRY YOU.

Simple.

lezz:
@myhonor , you're feverishly desperate and lack focus.

That guy's life even hasn't begun!!!

As a final year student of medicine, he still have hurdles to climb in life and chosen career.

You're actually beclouding him!!! Apart from his life which hasn't yet formed, what you're actually doing is pacifying him to marriage (future).

And again, he's told you about denying you in pregnancy and have stated clearly that the relationship is dead once both of you are done schooling.

What do you want to hear next?

You girls always know the truth before seeking advice.

You just love seeing it in print?

Whenever I hear/see guys who say they will deny a woman in pregnancy, I just want to take a very hard wine bottle and smash it on their head!

Did the lady impregnate herself?

Can we see how the way we view marriage in this country is messing things up? How can a girl of 21 be in a relationship of 6 months are already talking about marriage? In Nigeria, Marriage is a big achievement. Rubbish!

Ishilove:

Whenever I hear/see guys who say they will deny a woman in pregnancy, I just want to take a very hard wine bottle and smash it on their head!

Did the lady impregnate herself?

The sheer monstrosity of denying a woman her honour and to a higher degree a child his heritage and parentage is shockingly unsettling.

It's the worst form of cowardice and irresponsibility for me.

If I could go skin to slippery skin with a girl, she could well take my last name

Lezzlie:
The sheer monstrosity of denying a woman her honour and to a higher degree a child his heritage and parentage is shockingly unsettling.

It's the worst form of cowardice and irresponsibility for me.

If I could go skin to slippery skin with a girl, she could well take my last name

That's because you're responsible. There are many out there who aren't

Ishilove:

That's because you're responsible. There are many out there who aren't

I am in no way responsible, not in the least, Ishioma (?)

The only thing I am is not-a-monster

There's nothing resembling responsible anytime I thing of you.

Lezzlie:


I am in no way responsible, not in the least, Ishioma (?)

The only thing I am is not-a-monster

There's nothing resembling responsible anytime I thing of you.

A man who is willing to man up to his responsibilities is a responsible person.

Is this lezz, btw? This kind of iranu talk is one of the attributes of the fellow

Ishilove:

A man who is willing to man up to his responsibilities is a responsible person.

Ok, so I'm somewhat responsible, because I always stay in the mess I make. For sure.

Ishilove:


Is this l.ezz, btw? This kind of iranu talk is one of the attributes of the fellow

If you can smell me out in the virtual world so easily, what are you still waiting for? Let's find out why your flame never really died.

Lezzlie:
Ok, so I'm somewhat responsible, because I always stay in the mess I make. For sure.

If you can smell me out in the virtual world so easily, what are you still waiting for? Let's find out why your flame never really died.

Chairman, Association of Nairaland Chronic Bachelors, go and marry and stop flirting with faceless usernames

Ishilove:

Chairman, Association of Nairaland Chronic Bachelors, go and marry and stop flirting with faceless usernames

And my flirting has only been one of the subtle means I employed to get you to notice me.

But are you faceless? Don't tell me those physical endowment aren't yours.

Lezzlie:
And my flirting has only been one of the subtle means I employed to get you to notice me.

But are you faceless? Don't tell me those physical endowment aren't yours.

What physical endowments?

Ishilove:

What physical endowments?

I wouldn't dare state it here. My prosodic abilities are of the graphic sort.

Get me a PM.

Lezzlie:
I wouldn't dare state it here. My prosodic abilities are of the graphic sort.

Get me a PM.

PM ko, AM ni.

Mr Man spit it here o jare

Ishilove:

PM ko, AM ni.

Mr Man spit it here o jare

I wouldn't go public with you in the decimation of your parts I hold dear in trembling reverence.