Don’t be afraid to be
alone.
“Single is not a status. it is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on other”… Anonymous

It is fact that most people go into relationship as a form of escape from loneliness. They are scared of being alone and the thought of not being into any relationship scares them that they open their heart into anyone that comes their way.
We fear being without a partner. We fear taking on life without help. We fear travelling in strange places. We fear choosing our own path when it means we walk alone. The thought of being alone scares us so much that we sometimes find ourselves in relationship that are not defining, not fulfilling… and we settle for it.

Being alone is empowering. Being alone gives you time to discover yourself. An opportunity of growth, a time to get to know yourself better. You develop strength that you need, things you never thought yourself capable of. You see a new beauty in yourself as you learn something new.
Learning to be okay without someone does not mean you can’t be in any relationship. But if you are not okay being alone, if you cannot find joy and happiness in your space, then being in a relationship is going to be fundamentally flawed. Why? Because you become so dependent, you will need the other person to do provide virtually everything for you. He attends to your emotional need, you need the other person to pay attention and give you the love and comfort that you need, you crave validation every now and then.

Now, needing these things are nice but being in a relationship, needing someone for them means you become needy, desperate and it will wear out the other person in the long run. Learn to be okay being alone. Learn to enjoy the beauty of life being alone. Find yourself, discover your inherent abilities. Learn that you are okay without anyone coming to “complete” you. Once you have got that down, you are in a much better place to be in a relationship.

Solitude can be a scary thing but it can also be a joyful thing. Get to know yourself. Do things. Explore life. Discover hidden parts of yourself and the world around you.
Be at peace with yourself first, then you can bring peace to others. It is better you learn to stand on your own legs than having someone carry you around your whole life. Once you are self sufficient, relying on someone would be an act of strength and not of weakness.
You have to be happy being alone FIRST!!

Ka Odinu!!