@ Poster,

Co-cohabiting is not good in all facet. It is against God's wish. Aside from that, moraly, it is not an ideal thing to engage in. It deprives the parties especially the lady ur dignity.

But I noticed one thing from the responses of nlanders------we are all liars. People are speaking against premarital sex as if they are not engaging themselves in such act. Does it means all Nlanders are virgins? Stop deceiving urselves. 90% of nlanders engaged in pre-marital sex. I can boldly call them active fornicators------- may God have mercy on us

sir t:

@ Poster,

Co-cohabiting is not good in all facet. It is against God's wish. Aside from that, moraly, it is not an ideal thing to engage in. It deprives the parties especially the lady your dignity.

But I noticed one thing from the responses of nlanders------we are all liars. People are speaking against premarital sex as if they are not engaging themselves in such act. Does it means all Nlanders are virgins? Stop deceiving urselves. 90% of nlanders engaged in pre-marital sex. I can boldly call them active fornicators------- may God have mercy on us

trust nigerians to lie through their teeth

@ Poster

Don't allow any man to deceive you into going into cohabitation. If you fall in with that then it would lead to the eventual degradation, devaluation, and humiliation of you as a woman.

Most people have 'camped' babes at one time or the other.

But was fun then, part of growing up.

What is bad is bad, it is bad because it affords enuff ,

Co-Habi what

Ole aji bole, (thief)!!!!!

Co-habit and get dumped!!!

Check out the statistics of cohabitation turning into solemnization, 1 out of 1,000,000,000,0000,00000
ITS WRONG!!!

Gosh! Who gives a hoooot! The only reason I would not co-habit with any one is because I do not want any dude invading my precious space and all the things I have worked hard for to be tampered with. Its not WRONG and it's not RIGHT. It's up to you. People are talking on here as if GOD is gonna punish you and send you to hell if you do and im sure these very people have sexual relations even though they are not co-habiting. Or you think GOD can't see that? mscheewwww!

The main problem that women especially are likely to encounter with co-habiting is that the man is less likely to propose to you as if he would feel as though he is already married, so why bother.

^^Secretz long time o. How u dey

platinumnk:

^^Secretz long time o. How u dey

Hey sweety, I dey ohhh. I been in naija for 6 weeks. . . just got back some days ago . . . . Hope ur ok sha? (No mek us derail thread ohhh)
I hope you're not co-habiting?

^^ wow 6 weeks, I jealous u oh~!! I know u came home with fine husband for me o. No Co- Habitation for me, man must marry me abeg!!

If anything, the sex is good.

I don't even believe it's against the will of God. Maybe it's against ancient jewish history. Cohabitation is neither here nor there - it works for some people and it doesn't for others.

co-habitation is synonymous to fornication and God strictly warns us against it.

Bollocks. God warns against ADULTERY.

Cohabitation is not the best for me. Why i say so is because if eventually, it does not work out, there will too much bad blood between the two. If a man says he prefers to try things out first before marriage what if it does not end in marriage? will all the blame go to the woman? who decides if things are working or not? What is the scale for measurement? I think we should just go straight to courtship and decide after that without hurting someone's feelings or lowering one's self esteem.

Cant be that bad, i mean its bad if ur not married yet but it has some advantages too. Its good for getting rid of girls always calling u, just have her answer the land line at all times of the day and in weeks, you'll have some peace

co-habitation is very very very bad. its degrading and demeaning. and most times the woman is at the loosing end. 98% of times it doesnt lead to marriage. its alwasy better for a lady to have her dignity in place in a relationship.

For me case closed since it has been confirmed that "sleep overs" is different from cohabitation I hate cohabitation but I love sleep overs

If you can't handle it, don't do it. Simple.

You can co-habit o provided its purely with the same sex and just on friendly term like schooling etc,

But for BF/GF and intending couple,
make una go marry even if na court alone, Osho free no too good o,

Ever stayed in an area where u av people co habiting? What people say about them is enough to let u know the society does not accept it no matter how open minded u re and most parents dont even support it. Well personally I dont support it not even weekends. Sleep overs? Not in my own personal house where I live alone except it's inevitable and that means no hotels around. Yes that's me!

@Topic. Yes! very bad.

hmm. co-habitation!
what a nice biology sounding word,
On the other hand, why dont you use f*cking around like rabbits or fornicating,
thats closer.
Is fornication really that bad?

@ OP

christianity apart, the fact that a guy wants to price wahala b4 his time is a total no no, the girl monitors everything u do from hence forth, me i can't fit abeg, if i am want to be told what to do, i will go and get married. I can stand living with a female in the same house, separate rooms as roommate or relatives but in the same room not married, i am not ready to die

na2day?:

@ OP

christianity apart, the fact that a guy wants to price wahala b4 his time is a total no no, the girl monitors everything u do from hence forth, me i can't fit abeg, if i am want to be told what to do, i will go and get married. I can stand living with a female in the same house, separate rooms as roommate or relatives but in the same room not married, i am not ready to die

yoh I am smiling now

Myth #Three:
"Living Together Before Marriage Increases Your Chances of Having a Happy Marriage Later."
You "test drive a car" before you buy it, so why not do the same with your lifelong relationships. Another one that is heard often is "you try on a pair of shoes to see if they fit before you buy them, why not your spouse." Someone has said, when you test drive a car you don't pack your personal luggage in the trunk or when you try on a pair of new shoes you don't want everyone else's foot odor and fungus already in them. You can throw away shoes without hurting anyone, but you can't throw away a person without hurting them and possibly others. The great paradox is that research indicates just the opposite of this conventional 'wisdom'. Numerous studies (see "Reasons" below) have shown that couples who have lived together before marriage are more likely to disagree on things like recreation, household chores and finances and are more likely to seek counseling than couples who do not cohabit. The scriptures tell us to "flee fornication" (1 Cor. 6:18), and to "flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness" (2 Tim. 2:22). In other words, avoid all sexual looseness like the plague. The rate of divorce skyrocketing in the last three decades during the same period as the rise of "living together" is proof enough that "trial marriages" are a failure.

if you don't test drive, you might want a porsche and end up with a sharp 1975 beetle. There's people's private habits and personal hygene. There's also sexual compatibility to consider.

If you live in a culture where people don't divorce (because society frowns on it, not because they don't want to), then you're cool. I know many people in Naija who are locked in unhappy marriages, and so spend all their time at work, and at clubs and bars in order to avoid going home.

Here are the facts: Love doesn't last forever. Sex isn't always good. Some men/women are extremely untidy/dirty. And for my christian brothers/sisters, it IS possible to be unequaly yoked with a believer.

This lady keeps quoting the cohabitation opinions without doing her research. In the western world, people who cohabitate also share other things - expenses, and very often the mortgage for their house. That article explained that those people tended to get married more because they were tied together financially than because they were in love. Quoting an incomplete article is baseless. Reacting to a phenomenom without knowing the cause is unwise.

Banderas:

if you don't test drive, you might want a porsche and end up with a sharp 1975 beetle. There's people's private habits and personal hygene. There's also sexual compatibility to consider.

If you live in a culture where people don't divorce (because society frowns on it, not because they don't want to), then you're cool. I know many people in Naija who are locked in unhappy marriages, and so spend all their time at work, and at clubs and bars in order to avoid going home.

Here are the facts: Love doesn't last forever. Sex isn't always good. Some men/women are extremely untidy/dirty. And for my christian brothers/sisters, it IS possible to be unequaly yoked with a believer.

This lady keeps quoting the cohabitation opinions without doing her research. In the western world, people who cohabitate also share other things - expenses, and very often the mortgage for their house. That article explained that those people tended to get married more because they were tied together financially than because they were in love. Quoting an incomplete article is baseless. Reacting to a phenomenom without knowing the cause is unwise.

No mind all this people who live fairy tale lives, truth of the matter is that so many of these text book christian marriages are rarely ever happy. Even with secular couples you can rarely ever find those that are comfortable with fully expressing what they want sexually, so what is brother virgin has been dreaming of rough riding and doggying sister virgin and sister virgin thinks sex is for when dem want pikin only wetin go come happen?
Or what is sister virgin secretly likes to scream yes f**k me f**k me and brother virgin thinks that is whorish?

hahah. Thank you my man Chris. The bible knows what it's saying when it tells you "the children of this world are wiser than the children of the kingdom". People refuse to think, refuse to apply the spirit of the scripture.

ALL guys want a woman who is a lady outside, but a freak in bed. But they marry the lady without the freak and spend the rest of their lives frustrated. Or they leave madam (who has neglected her weight, and now appears to share genes with an elephant) and go and start "running things" outside the house.

Or even when they don't want to run things the young delectable girls in town quickly sense an opportunity and move in.
Then you go to church and complain about how "the devil stole your husband"

Banderas:

hahah. Thank you my man Chris. The bible knows what it's saying when it tells you "the children of this world are wiser than the children of the kingdom". People refuse to think, refuse to apply the spirit of the scripture.

ALL guys want a woman who is a lady outside, but a freak in bed. But they marry the lady without the freak and spend the rest of their lives frustrated. Or they leave madam (who has neglected her weight, and now appears to share genes with an elephant) and go and start "running things" outside the house.

Or even when they don't want to run things the young delectable girls in town quickly sense an opportunity and move in.
Then you go to church and complain about how "the devil stole your husband"

You sabi correct. No mind some of these hypocritical Idealists!

Banderas:

hahah. Thank you my man Chris. The bible knows what it's saying when it tells you "the children of this world are wiser than the children of the kingdom". People refuse to think, refuse to apply the spirit of the scripture.

ALL guys want a woman who is a lady outside, but a freak in bed. But they marry the lady without the freak and spend the rest of their lives frustrated. Or they leave madam (who has neglected her weight, and now appears to share genes with an elephant) and go and start "running things" outside the house.

Or even when they don't want to run things the young delectable girls in town quickly sense an opportunity and move in.
Then you go to church and complain about how "the devil stole your husband"

Abeg na you sabi pass