I am a married woman with a lovely kid , I love my husband but he is too selfish in bed , to him, lovemaking means" penetration" , no romance no fore play , all he is interested in is just to penetrate me ! he doent even care if I,m wet or not .this is really getting frustrating because it is painful and sometimes I end up having blisters.
Most tines I try to initiate pre-intimacy and make him slow down a bit he gets impatient and angry ,and I just let him have his way , and the worst part of it is that when he is done he will fall asleep immediately !
Pls matured minds how do I make him change without hurting his feelings , for over 5 years now i have not had a pinch of climax, I love him dearly but I also want a normal sex life in my marriage .

You will have to keep talking to him especially at other times of the day outside the bedroom.Be open about what you want and what satisfies you.
He has to learn the art of lovemaking.Most men that are inexperienced think it's all about penetration.
Make him read books that teach romance and sex and also watch movies.
The timing of sex coud be a factor too.If you have sex at night after a hard day's job,chances are that he wants to quickly get over it and sleep off.How about trying on a saturday morning for example.

If he is hurting you during sex, you have to stop and tell him that it hurts. You don't have to put up with that.

Then later sit him down and tell him to please do some pre-intimacy