Woman A gets cancer.

She tells everyone, and I mean everyone...
All her friends and family. She tells everyone in her church, she tells her new neighbours who moved in, she tells literally everyone. Even when she was trying to sell her house, she told her estate agency.


Is it the best?

I can come across as stubborn as I always think I know best, but is this (my) viewpoint not better?
In a situation like this, you only tell your true family members e.g. siblings and very close friends.

You don't know who is who, who is secretly rejoicing. I also don't like the idea of people pitying woman A and her family, and having so much access to their personal life - woman A family is an open book.

Or am I wrong?

I just feel that the way she went about this is not the best, why should she tell everyone? NO it is not nothing to be ashamed about and it is not a secret, but it is good for in situations like this just tell close family and close friends, I don't like the family to become a pity party or open book.

The people she have told have all been so supportive, cooking/helping/praying/giving her lots and lots of money - but I just feel it degrades her and she has now become a charity case.

Or am I wrong? Please I am young and willing to take correction.

If a girl goes to a night vigil someone will think that is good, but if woman A daughter goes to night vigil people will look at her like "aw poor girl she is going to prayer for her mother" they now will just associate this family with sickness and pity.

Or am I wrong?

sometimes it very good people know about your struggle battling a terminal disease like cancer,HIV for support and care

imaging people that died from illnesses that ordinarily would have been taking care of because mrB must not know

that was how I lost a close friend.

WE ARE HUMANS NOT ROBOTS

that is true.

her disease is not terminal

But, why should you tell everyone - an estate agent, your new next door neighbour, every single person.

you dont know who is secretly happy..
and the thing is, i think things like this is personal and private only discuss with family and close friends.

people will pity the family and think of them as a charity case.

qoura123:
sometimes it very good people know about your struggle battling a terminal disease like cancer,HIV for support and care

imaging people that died from illnesses that ordinarily would have been taking care of because mrB must not know

that was how I lost a close friend.

WE ARE HUMANS NOT ROBOTS

She's dying. I believe she needs all the help she can get.

back to sender.
she is not dying IJN

Jolsnow:
She's dying. I believe she needs all the help she can get.

Obiageli1993:
that is true.

her disease is not terminal

But, why should you tell everyone - an estate agent, your new next door neighbour, every single person.

you dont know who is secretly happy..
and the thing is, i think things like this is personal and private only discuss with family and close friends.

people will pity the family and think of them as a charity case.

princess different strokes for different folk maybe that's what rocks her boat
or probably she is afraid of death, you never can tell,
lastly could be a psychological boost to her that she would get well.
pity people who matter don't care and people who care don't matter who pity EPP?