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How Important Is His Past? by NightDoc: 1:38am On Aug 30, 2009 |
So I have been dating this guy for about 2months, Things are wonderful between us, we really 'click', I truly love him, and I can feel/see he loves me too Problem: His past. He has done some pretty bad things Things that if i had known about in the beginning I wld not have taken us this far. Some of the things are not completely dealt with, he is still clearing off his record. He wants me to stand by him while he does. Questions: I appreciate his honesty. Does that absolve his crimes? Should I judge him based on that? If I was advising someone else, I'd say let go, But this guy is all I have ever wanted, except for his luggage, which he does seem to be dealing with, Am I being stupid if I still risk my heart on this guy? Or am I being stupid if I let my soulmate go because I was judgmentaland self righteous?? Please Advise |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by kellorah: 2:18am On Aug 30, 2009 |
It would help to know the kind of life he had lived. Did he commit crime? How serious? Sounds to me like he's a changed man. You should probably stick with him. . . . unless his past is something u can't look past. |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by C2H5OH(f): 2:26am On Aug 30, 2009 |
Don't go fishing in the dark sea if you are not prepared to unravel its darkest secrets o, it might give you heart-attack. Thumbs up @ kellorah. The past does usually define who someone is. By the way, you won't know me, but long time he don tey wey you bring leg come naira. |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by kellorah: 2:29am On Aug 30, 2009 |
Thanks. Your ID looked very familiar when I saw some of your posts a few days ago. It's mostly "newbies" on here now, didn't think oldies would be remembered. |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by C2H5OH(f): 2:40am On Aug 30, 2009 |
Did you just call yourself an old fart. Quit being modest. Imagine pretty yellow paw-paw beyonce look-alike like yourself saying you be old fart? Wetin we go call the other girls then @poster, I think it really depends. Are his crimes forgivable and can you quickly move past them? This happens to be one of the reasons why I would prefer to know about the woman's past before we actually start dating; it can get very sketchy. |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by kellorah: 2:57am On Aug 30, 2009 |
You DO remember me. , This is why people should be friends, get to know eachother a bit before dating. All that "we'll know eachother when we start dating" ish doesn't always help. Would be interesting to know how long you've actually known him for (before u two got together). You might wanna put urself in his shoes to see if he would still stay with u, considering ur past. |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by stilletos: 3:31am On Aug 30, 2009 |
Whatever you do is your business.Have you ever heard somebody say"karma is a bitch?" It don't matter whether it was his past or previous life it will still come back to hunt him at some point.If i were you, I'll tell the dude that I love him but I love me more. I can't fit shout. 4 this post modern era love get 3 eyes oh.Shine them well well. |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by C2H5OH(f): 3:35am On Aug 30, 2009 |
Na only 3 eyes? I been think say love get at least 10,000 eyes. If you no play am sharp, o boy go bring hin wahala come your side. kellorah:Yes I do. I'm not good with names but I'm good with faces |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by stilletos: 3:53am On Aug 30, 2009 |
C2H5OH: |
Re: How Important Is His Past? by iice(f): 11:28am On Aug 30, 2009 |
Depends on the gravity and how much you are willing to take |
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