Kakamorufu:
am so sure about this bae. Even make d guy go add join his d!ck, she won't leave the guy

onetouch04:
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Did she grow up in PH? Just asking ooo. Cos that is a norm in that city.

frisky2good:


Your wife has been handled outside and so I think you should just face reality. It's over! She will do it over and over again. Once a woman cheats, she can never stop. Send her away while tempers are still controllable. She will soon start showing you imported attitude. Just close your eyes and do what you have to do. It is God that takes care of children. You can try to get her chat history with the guy. It could help during custody hearing. I don tell you my own.

loveisblind:
yes...10years but not on cheating level....I just discovered this extramarital stuff some weeks ago

OneManLegion:



Your comment lacks common sense. Someone says he found incontrovertible evidence of his wife's infidelity you're there yapping about spark. What nonsense spark?

Loveisblind, get a lawyer and speak to him. Intimate him on your stance.

Adultery is one of the factors that can qualify a person to dissolution of marriage.

If you waste time, when the matter gets to court eventually, she'll raise a defense of "condoning" on your part. This will defeat your prayers.

Act fast and send the unfaithful _bitch out of your house.

SSAINTSAMURAI:
hello

loveisblind:
Greetings to all NLs.....i think solution to my problem will come from good people of this forum and such will safe me from doing the wrong thing.

It all started wen i was dating my wife of which my fam did not want her as they want me to marry someone else, though they could not tell me to my face why.....Also my wife families did not want her to marry me base on xtian vs Muslim stuff, but we both insisted....after some years we have kids and later we did our wedding witot any assistance from both families i.e. we shoulder it alone......recently, in the night, while she was in her room, PHCN brought light and i was helping her to charge her fon and i saw a guy's number whom they ve been calling each other almost on daily basis, on a normal ground i dont check her fon and she doesnt check mine....but wen i noticed this number, i went straight to chat with d guy, only for the guy to be responding romantically, i pretended as if its my wife behold....d guy was saying ........If i handle you again......I cant belief myself reading such, i quietly dropped the fon, and went to bed, the next morning I confronted her and she said the guy is her friend that nothing attached.....I did not want to escalate the matter for children's record, i went to work, wen i came back i asked her younger one staying with us if she is aware of the guy, she said yes is just a friend to her elder sister......I called my wife again and she was so bold and bragging that whats the big deal in having male friend.........

I noticed he had called the guy wen i was away to work, i dont know what they discussed anyway. I told her not to cook for me anymore and nothing like sex in between us....for some weeks now it has been like this......Now my pains are these:-

I cant report to my family
I cant report to her family too cos the father never attended our wedding he only sent delegates
I dont want to take laws into my own hand cos i feel like pulling down mountain
We married legally and I feel like filing for divorce cos have told her in the beginning that such act is what i cannot forgive in my life
If i divorce, what about my little kids, who will take kia of them cos I know she doesnt have what it take to ?
before i discovered this she told me if she does such i can never find out and i told her if she try it i will surely know

Am totally fed up with the marriage cos there are lots have been enduring, believing its subject to change but for the past 10years no changes.

Please what do you think?

Kimoni:


Why naa? Women forgive their cheating partners everyday so it's really not a big deal

MicroBox:
@OP if you can't easily forgive her please let her go away. I can't withstand cheating wife I can forgive you for anything but not cheating what a mess. the mistake you made was marrying her with her bad characters and hoping she will change afterwards. you make the rule and she don't have any right to cheat on you even though you are having spinal cord problem( God forbid), else she will seek for divorce and let you marry who can tolerate your sexual ability (I know you don't have sexual challenge). it's not every woman that take sex like one big race you must be able to win, for some women if you can impregnate them. they are okay without cheating on you, don't let her make you feel like as if you are not doing enough in bed, she's there eating and watching movies waiting for you to come and be satisfying her after daily stress of trying to make your family happy.
Please friend you don't need to beg her to desist from her wrongs make the rules and give conditions, it's your house especially now that she decided to find solace in another man's arm. Not eating or having sex as a married man in your own house is not lt atall.
it's a total disrespect for a married woman to cheat on her husband. I repeat don't try to persuade her to tell the truth, to promise you to stop adultery, to be of good behaviour or try to work on cementing a better relationship with your family, make the rules and give the order it's your house especially now that she rubbished herself with nonsense.

ciwi:
OP, I'm a bit confused. I don't see any where you wrote that you confirmed she is cheating. She only said there's nothing wrong with having a male friend. Is that the basis for your conclusion that she is cheating?

loveisblind:
i pretended as if its my wife behold....d guy was saying ........If i handle you again......I cant belief myself reading such, i quietly dropped the fon, and went to bed,

loveisblind:
i pretended as if its my wife behold....d guy was saying ........If i handle you again......I cant belief myself reading such, i quietly dropped the fon, and went to bed,

loveisblind:
Greetings to all NLs.....i think solution to my problem will come from good people of this forum and such will safe me from doing the wrong thing.

It all started wen i was dating my wife of which my fam did not want her as they want me to marry someone else, though they could not tell me to my face why.....Also my wife families did not want her to marry me base on xtian vs Muslim stuff, but we both insisted....after some years we have kids and later we did our wedding witot any assistance from both families i.e. we shoulder it alone......recently, in the night, while she was in her room, PHCN brought light and i was helping her to charge her fon and i saw a guy's number whom they ve been calling each other almost on daily basis, on a normal ground i dont check her fon and she doesnt check mine....but wen i noticed this number, i went straight to chat with d guy, only for the guy to be responding romantically, i pretended as if its my wife behold....d guy was saying ........If i handle you again......I cant belief myself reading such, i quietly dropped the fon, and went to bed, the next morning I confronted her and she said the guy is her friend that nothing attached.....I did not want to escalate the matter for children's record, i went to work, wen i came back i asked her younger one staying with us if she is aware of the guy, she said yes is just a friend to her elder sister......I called my wife again and she was so bold and bragging that whats the big deal in having male friend.........

I noticed he had called the guy wen i was away to work, i dont know what they discussed anyway. I told her not to cook for me anymore and nothing like sex in between us....for some weeks now it has been like this......Now my pains are these:-

I cant report to my family
I cant report to her family too cos the father never attended our wedding he only sent delegates
I dont want to take laws into my own hand cos i feel like pulling down mountain
We married legally and I feel like filing for divorce cos have told her in the beginning that such act is what i cannot forgive in my life
If i divorce, what about my little kids, who will take kia of them cos I know she doesnt have what it take to ?
before i discovered this she told me if she does such i can never find out and i told her if she try it i will surely know

Am totally fed up with the marriage cos there are lots have been enduring, believing its subject to change but for the past 10years no changes.

Please what do you think?

ciwi:
OP, I'm a bit confused. I don't see any where you wrote that you confirmed she is cheating. She only said there's nothing wrong with having a male friend. Is that the basis for your conclusion that she is cheating?

Taryur3:
I can overlook any other sin she might be committing...but in the aspect of cheating on me....Hell Noo.OP it's up to you if the guy persist,thunderbolt might help.lol. No be my talk am o.I hate cheating seriously.

sbabimbola:


I smell rats ooo. Are you the supposed concubine?

Don't make a seemingly bad situation worse pls.

LaurelP:
Op does your wife have someone she holds in high regard, like a clergy? Does she have elderly ones, like an elder brother or sister?
You might consider talking to the person about it.

Do you pray together? Believe me this is one of the easiest ways of enjoying marital bliss.