This is my story, after so much suffering with my husband he married another wife which i accepted her, but b4 dat i gave him all i hv 2 make him responsible man & husband after making it he abandoned me he left me in our home town and live with second wife in lagos my husband opened shop for the wife and normally come home once in a month to see me with 3 children and gave us money (#3000) every mth so he came this month which is 22nd and we make love on that day and go back to Lagos on the following day suddenly on Monday morning he called me on phone say "do you know that after our love making you infected me with GONORRIEAR"(ATOSI) and off the set i called him back ask him again what he said n i said is a big lie that he should ask his wife in Lagos b4 i know it all the familly as aware of what is happening i quikly go to hospital 4 test but doctor said nothing like dat in my body ,i called him n tell him he still claim that i infected him. is like he doesnt love me again pls what do i do cos am thinking of packing out of his house am living in his familly house while he build 2 flat in lagos and said the house is for the new wife that i shuldn'nt burder myself to come that when he hv money he will build my own house for me is that LOVE? pls advise me of what to do.

Somebody help!

Men could be sometimes callous!!!
It's a pity
Something strange is happening to the man, it's beyond physical.
Pls, let your patience continue as you thread the path of PRAYER.
Pray and wrestle against evil forces, With God All Things Are Possible.

tales by moonlight, lol

Esh!!!!!

there are two things happening here.

it's either hes lying about being infected and just want a lame excuse out or the test wasnt accurate and how in the world would he have sex with you and go back to lagos and just go for a test straight way the next day? was he expecting to catch a disease from you? and how can that test be accurate? the sex is just over 48 or 24 hrs how fast can that be? something is definitely fishy here woman.

secondly, supposedly he got infected with it, either through you or his current wife and you went for the test and it gave back negative, it's either you own test result isnt accurate and needs to be done again or he's lying. so for the sake of your kids go and redone the test again.

@ sissy,

you are so right, the guy is probably lying to get her out of the way
Like someone said, this is above the ordinary, u need to pray hard. all the best love

Women should learn to be independent!!
How can you allow urself to be deported to the village while the 2nd wife lives in Lagos.  Infact that underlines your place in his life.   Look for something to do to cater for urself and children and start your life all again.  For me your marriage collasped the day he married the 2nd wife and sent u to the village.

On the 2nd thought, he might not be doing whatever he is doing with clear eyes.  According to Kokolette Rita  Nigerians do demons and jazz, so the second wife might be doing that.   PRAY PRAY AND PRAY!  To get your marriage back fromt the evil woman!

this is above the ordinary, u need to pray hard. all the best love) i thouth as much cos i called him yesterday h's till saying same thing so idecided to call his wife and tell her what is going on and tell her that she is the one that infected him , may be that will scarter them too or what do you think?

How come the Gonorrhea didn't go round

@poster
if you husband is infected with itt and your doctor said you dont , it means that you are infected but it wont show up until much later as the disease needs time to show on tests.

I will take this as a new soap opera to be acted on nigeria TV.
It is either you need some rude awakening, or u have lost ur sense of reasoning.
1. The man left you for another woman - u accepted it.
2. The man gives you 3000N a month for you and the 3 kids - u happy.
3. the man came and slept with you - u called it making love?
4. Now he called u and said u gave him disease and you now asking what to do?
Damn, no wonder some men still dealing with some women in bad ways.

@ poster

I wish you can save up and start your life all over again. That is not a marriage.

Fhemmmy:

I will take this as a new soap opera to be acted on nigeria TV.
It is either you need some rude awakening, or u have lost your sense of reasoning.
1. The man left you for another woman - u accepted it.
2. The man gives you 3000N a month for you and the 3 kids - u happy.
3. the man came and slept with you - u called it making love?
4. Now he called u and said u gave him disease and you now asking what to do?
Damn, no wonder some men still dealing with some women in bad ways.

I weak o!!!

I will take this as a new soap opera to be acted on nigeria TV.
It is either you need some rude awakening, or u have lost your sense of reasoning.
1. The man left you for another woman - u accepted it.
2. The man gives you 3000N a month for you and the 3 kids - u happy.
3. the man came and slept with you - u called it making love?
4. Now he called u and said u gave him disease and you now asking what to do?
Damn, no wonder some men still dealing with some women in bad ways.

man, dont be harsh on the lady, some desperate people have no other options than to accept the situation they are in. . . . . .good or bad.
what else could she have done IF she didnt have any other income? 3000N is better than nothing and since they are still married, the husband is still master of that toto.

What is her family doing about the whole situation?

Fhemmmy:

I will take this as a new soap opera to be acted on nigeria TV.
It is either you need some rude awakening, or u have lost your sense of reasoning.
1. The man left you for another woman - u accepted it.
2. The man gives you 3000N a month for you and the 3 kids - u happy.
3. the man came and slept with you - u called it making love?
4. Now he called u and said u gave him disease and you now asking what to do?
Damn, no wonder some men still dealing with some women in bad ways.

Now that's funny Fhemmy, am sorry OP

I am so sorry if i sound harsh or mean, i dont mean to be like that, but i just kinda imagine, if that was my sister.
So i hope the sister will just wake up and do something about her own life now, upgrade herself, get a job, and change her wardrobe and let the man come back begging

It is possible that he already had the Gonorrhoea before he had sex with you and then slept with you, 'claimed' to have tested himself and push the blame on you, because after all, it's not like you can actually deny that you didn't sleep with him. However, I would still go back and get tested again because he might have by now passed it onto you. Your initial test is likely to have been too soon after 'making love' to him.

All the other dramas that you got going on. . . . well, I think that's a matter for both parties families to be involved, because I know 3,000 is not a lot to live on with 3 kids, but what else do you have. . . go and talk to his family. I am afraid, this is not my definition of love or what a marriage is supposed to be. Fhemmmy is right.

erinmide:

this is above the ordinary, u need to pray hard. all the best love) i thouth as much cos i called him yesterday h's till saying same thing so idecided to call his wife and tell her what is going on and tell her that she is the one that infected him , may be that will scarter them too or what do you think?

could your dumbness be the real reason why he left you for someone smarter, sharper and more intelligent?

erinmide:

this is above the ordinary, u need to pray hard. all the best love) i thouth as much cos i called him yesterday h's till saying same thing so idecided to call his wife and tell her what is going on and tell her that she is the one that infected him , may be that will scarter them too or what do you think?

You called him, he is still saying the same thing - You actually expected him to say somethng else, knowing fully well, with you, he can get away with murder?
you called his wife - That made you to be what? His other woman?
Told her she infected him - You sure worried cos you wanna keep screwing the man?
Maybe that will scatter them too, or what do you think? - It is not for me to think, it is for me to think, u need special prayer, or a big hit in the head and hopefully that will wake you up from your sleep.
I am sorry if i am being harsh, but almost everything out of your mouth is just making me sick and cant hold it back.

Fhemmmy:

You called him, he is still saying the same thing - You actually expected him to say somethng else, knowing fully well, with you, he can get away with murder?
you called his wife - That made you to be what? His other woman?
Told her she infected him - You sure worried cos you wanna keep screwing the man?
Maybe that will scatter them too, or what do you think? - It is not for me to think, it is for me to think, u need special prayer, or a big hit in the head and hopefully that will wake you up from your sleep.
I am sorry if i am being harsh, but almost everything out of your mouth is just making me sick and cant hold it back.

Honestly @phemmy, I don't cherish your sense of mis-judgement for such a woman in such a confuse state of mind.

mogentle:

Honestly @phemmy, I don't cherish your sense of mis-judgement for such a woman in such a confuse state of mind.

@ Fhemmy does not take nonsense when it comes to acting like a fool in your marriage
He would tell you as it is!!

You called him, he is still saying the same thing - You actually expected him to say somethng else, knowing fully well, with you, he can get away with murder?
you called his wife - That made you to be what? His other woman?
Told her she infected him - You sure worried cos you wanna keep screwing the man?
Maybe that will scatter them too, or what do you think? - It is not for me to think, it is for me to think, u need special prayer, or a big hit in the head and hopefully that will wake you up from your sleep.
I am sorry if i am being harsh, but almost everything out of your mouth is just making me sick and cant hold it back.

seconded.for Gods sake wake up and stop acting like a baby,sorry i might sound hash here but you need to start up somewhere,

mogentle:

Honestly @phemmy, I don't cherish your sense of mis-judgement for such a woman in such a confuse state of mind.

i am so disappointed that a man can even talk the way you just did, i have some questions for you though.
1. If the lady in question is your sister, what would you do?
2. If the woman in question is your Mother, would u be so quiet and be nice?
3. If the woman is your best friend, would u just pray and bless her?


Sometimes, people needs to hear the harsh truth.
This woman aint confused, but acting silly and the earlier she wake up, the better for her.
She is still young with just few kids, and not too late for her to brush up and do something and take charge of her life and be what her own kids will be proud to call a "Mother".

aysometin:

@ Fhemmy does not take nonsense when it comes to acting like a fool in your marriage
He would tell you as it is!!

No mind the dude.
I am sure he will get home and eat the woman for dinner in his house and laff at her at her back oh.

chiejik:

You called him, he is still saying the same thing - You actually expected him to say somethng else, knowing fully well, with you, he can get away with murder?
you called his wife - That made you to be what? His other woman?
Told her she infected him - You sure worried cos you wanna keep screwing the man?
Maybe that will scatter them too, or what do you think? - It is not for me to think, it is for me to think, u need special prayer, or a big hit in the head and hopefully that will wake you up from your sleep.
I am sorry if i am being harsh, but almost everything out of your mouth is just making me sick and cant hold it back.

seconded.for Gods sake wake up and stop acting like a baby,sorry i might sound hash here but you need to start up somewhere,

Surely needs to wake up.

I agree 100% with Fhemmy. The truth is bitter, but it is glaring that this is no marriage. Please she/we should not waste prayers. There are better things to pray about.

@ poster. Wake up, get out of this mess and move on with life. The whole issue is sounding like you are begging to remain his wife.

I do not intend to be harsh but this is my opinion.

Dummy, Get on with your life. Stop putting up with being a sxual recepticle for a man's seed.

Get the hint? Stop letting yourself being USED!!!

Get some help

Haba madam, why call d other wife? Polygamy is just lyk politics, u hav to be very smart and always ahead in d game. U ar allowin ur husband use u. Im sure he knw u were too dumb (sorry pls) dats why he had d guts to; 1- marry another wife, 2- send u back to villa, 3- giv u only 3k and 4- build a house 4 ur mate. Men lyk us simple bt not folish. Liberate urself nd take advantage of situation.