At this present point in time, it is unnerving finding
women who do not know what to do with their
lives in the society. Some women actually lack focus
and need proper orientation in order for them to
start exploring their potentials. Quite a considerable number of women have been
able to contribute to remarkable changes in the
society; they are starting to handle projects that
are big and are gaining recognition at different
levels. It is bewildering seeing some women in
Nigeria waste away because they do not know they have potentials embedded in them; skills
waiting to be harnessed. In Nigeria, many of the women do not know their
worth; most of them are not ready to move out of
their comfort zones or do things that are tasking.
They would rather settle for smaller things in life
and be praying and hoping a man would come out
of nowhere and change their lives. A few women in this part of the world rely more on
luck than in striving to make something out of their
lives and situations. They are too sentimental with
many of them dwelling on the primitive thought
that women should be relegated to the kitchen and
should only function as household keepers.

Find below some of the things Nigerian women
need to stop doing now:

1. Dependency While marriage is a wonderful institution that
promotes co-habitation and sharing, being totally
dependent on your spouse is not healthy. While
some women love the idea of sharing everything
with their husbands, the union would suffer a great
deal when they do not support their husbands in any way. Men of this generation avoid marrying women who
are liabilities; women that would make them spend
more than they would ordinarily. Many women in
Nigeria love the concept of being full housewives.
No matter how small the business is, start
something and put an end to this dependency.

2. Suffering in silence Many women in Nigeria believe in putting up with
all manners and forms of abuse in their
relationships. They have been programmed to think
they must not leave their marriages no matter
what. While their resilience is something to be
appreciated, this issue also calls for wisdom. Many women endure scorn and hardship in
marriages; some are being beaten physically and
bashed with words. This would have an impact on
their self-esteem and may cause them to suffer long
bouts of depression.

3. Living fake lives So many women in Nigeria just want attention; this
is a country where you would meet women who
has never seen the inside of a plane with British
accent. Eloquence has suddenly become a way of branding
to most of these women; they feel speaking with
accent would make people think they are wealthy
and classy. Nigerian women should stop doing this
and embrace a hardworking lifestyle.

4. Believing they could only become rich by
marrying a wealthy man Many women in Nigeria would rather spend their
money on creams and beauty products in order to
attract men who would change their status in life. Most women in Nigeria want men who are already
made; men whose wealth could change their living
standards. They no longer believe in humble
beginnings and would rather choose a wealthy man
over the struggling young men asking them out.
Nigerian women should focus on getting a life and stop using men as financial ladders.

5. Taking friends along when going on a date Nigerian ladies could be greedy at times. They
would rather go with a group of girls when they
have dates. When they do this, they basically want
to spend the man’s money. They order all sorts of
foods they cannot afford on a normal day and
expect the poor and innocent men who take them out on dates to foot the bills. It is good that some of the men are starting to
know this and avoid footing crazy bills. Women
should not wait till they get embarrassed before
they develop the right attitude.

6. Trying to impress people Many Nigerian women spend a fortune on their
clothes, makeup and accessories. They believe this
is the only way they get to ‘rep’ in the society.
It is quite laughable knowing some of these women
do these things in order to impress people. Most times, their bank accounts are always blinking
red. There is no point trying to impress anyone;
everyone is running a different race.

7.When they air all of their issues on social media Some Nigerian women totally lack self-control;
many of them cannot help putting up every of their
life achievement on social medias. When they are
heart broken, everyone gets to know, when they
want to go to the market, they would put it up. These things make them look vain and should be
stopped. Putting your personal affairs on social
media is not ideal. Please stop flooding people’s
timelines with your problems.

Cc _ Farano