posakosa:

How old are you ?

nawtiichic:

wots dat got to do with the topic?

nawtiichic:

Im a pretty laidback person with not much confidence. i have a lot of boy mates that think im beautiful but weneva i ask them wot they look for in a lady somehow they mention a lady with a lot of confidence.
That confuses me coz with my chilled out attitude a lotta guys try to holla (not tryna brag here) but yet most of them like confident ladies.
so NL guys, wot is your take on dis.

Confidence or Humility?

posakosa:

your question reflects a certain level of immaturity.

LuvAfrican:

Hello,


        I don’t believe the other posters meant insult by inquiring age its necessary to better advise you.  However, your confidence is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.  Most guys, (assuming he is a well matured man)… like women with confidence because she doesn’t have to be continually reassured all the time. (In most cases, such women that lack confidence wants a man to always remind her of her self worth), on the contrary, a women with confidence already knows this without doubt….She also know how to spark of a conversation, how to take control and handle a situation and can pretty much light up a room, fit in anywhere,  ECT,  Let's stop here as I believe you heed my point.

TheSeeker:

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you being confident of yourself, who you're, what you're all about and your general personality. One advantageous fact about it all is that, it makes matured guys hover around you; but, insecure guys will never feel comfortable around a confident woman.

scottN:

@Ebonyeyes
Not in this present dispensation girlfriend! The no of guys who appreciate women in this class is increasing day by day!

Ebonyeyes:

My man I know what im talking about matterfact I see it on the daily, The higher women are on the career ladder, the chances are they are single,

scottN:

Only if the woman places career b4 her marriage. It's all abt [size=8pt]management of priorities[/size]. Besides a lot with slimmer chances of getting married usually have a past.

Ebonyeyes:

No most of these women are quite ready to settle and juggle married life with their career,  Everybody has a past even Men. 

Ebonyeyes:

Personally I think guys are intimidated by confident women especially if she has her job, car and house to boot. They want a simple-minded lady who they can impress with their money.  

TheSeeker:

And what if the guy doesn't have money to impress women?Maybe those are the kind of men you're looking out for. How about you look at the number of men who boast in confident women?Do you know what it means sometimes when some people use the terminology "career woman" for some women? Well, I'm not saying these women aren't ready to settle down, but where on earth do you live? And also, are these men from the caves or simply have chosen to live in the 12th century?

Ebonyeyes:

;DIm not talking about me silly , Just from some of my older friends around,

TheSeeker:

Maybe those are the kind of men you're looking out for. How about you look at the number of men who boast in confident women?Do you know what it means sometimes when some people use the terminology "career woman" for some women? Well, I'm not saying these women aren't ready to settle down, but where on earth do you live? And also, are these men from the caves or simply have chosen to live in the 12th century?

Ebonyeyes:

I thought that all referred to me, Anyway it doesnt matter , I know some guys tend to be a little intimidated,

TheSeeker:

Oh I meant if those are the sect of guys you're watching. Besides, a lady with job, a house, a fat bank account, assets and cars doesn't connote a confident lady. There are lots of things that make up a confident lady and the obvious one is 'confidence' and the vehement determination to break through any barrier.

Ebonyeyes:

I agree with your last statement, But What I said was that some guys are intimidated by confident women especially if she has a great job, nice car and a house to boot

nawtiichic:

Im a pretty laidback person with not much confidence. i have a lot of boy mates that think im beautiful but weneva i ask them wot they look for in a lady somehow they mention a lady with a lot of confidence.
That confuses me coz with my chilled out attitude a lotta guys try to holla (not tryna brag here) but yet most of them like confident ladies.
so NL guys, wot is your take on dis.

Confidence or Humility?