There’s no question that body language is important. But using it openly and without direction could send the right signal to the wrong person.

Sending a signal with precision is really important and these following steps will help you get started.

The flooding smile

Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone,

If you do, it appears as if anyone in your line of sight would receive that same smile.

Instead, pause and look at the other person’s face for a second, and then let a “big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes.”

Even though the delay is less than a second, it will convince people your smile is sincere and personalized for them. A slower smile can add more richness and depth to how people perceive you.

Sticky eyes

Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation partner’s with sticky warm taffy.

Even after they’ve finished speaking, don’t break eye contact. “When you must look away, do it ever so slowly, reluctantly, stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny string finally breaks.”

You can also try counting your conversation partner’s blinks. In a case study, subjects reported significantly higher feelings of respect and fondness for their colleagues who used this technique.

Expoxy eyes

In a group of people, you should occasionally look at the person you are interested in, no matter who else is talking.

If your attention is drawn to that person even when they are simply listening, you show that you are extremely interested in his or her reactions.

Note: Using full Epoxy Eyes can be a bit overwhelming to the subject and could leave them feeling uncomfortable. You should primarily watch the speaker, but allow your glance to bounce to your target when the speaker finishes interesting points.


The big baby pivot

People are very conscious of how you react to them. When you meet someone new, turn your body fully toward them and give them the same, undivided attention you would give a baby.

Pivoting 100% toward the new person shouts, ‘I think you are very, very special.'

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