In a situation whereby the man and the woman love each other but the man has no money for dowry, is there anything wrong for the woman to foot the dowry if she has the money?











P S: For me there is nothing wrong in it as far as they love themselves. But what i'm afraid of, is that sometimes woman are like a river. You may cross over it in the morning when it is dried and the same river would drown you in the evening when it over-flows its bank. She may later becomes the dictator of the house and the head of the family and she may wants to controls the man, this is my opinion.


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No, women should not pay their own dowries/bride prices.

If the guy is low on funds, he should save until he has more than enough or he should negotiate with bride's family or not marry from hungry/greedy family.

You want her to pay her own dowry??

Tufiakwa

I don't support a woman paying her own dowry. It would cause low self esteem on the husband and the woman may not give maximum respect to the man. Worst of it, they girl's family would treat the husband like a broke nigga

Thts is wrong.

Totally wrong, an abuse to marriage and traditional rites, this is not a matter of marriage, a woman paying her dowry Just got married to herself.

Instead, the man can rally around his family and friends to raise money to pay dowry.
No matter the love, it remains the man's responsibility and not the lady.

No.

Paying her dowry is the first sign of responsibility. It shows that he is man enough to take care of her even if she has a lot of money. If she pays her own dowry, then she's the man.

We know that life is not easy but he should work hard to at least pay her dowry.

The woman can assist him later with other things.

Very⁴ WRONG! He should rather borrow from another person without disclosing the dowry part. It's honorary to the man to pay.

No Where I come from they tell u it has a spiritual backing. It the man responsibility.

BeastAmbition:
But what i'm afraid of, is that sometimes woman are like a river. You may cross over it in the morning when it is dried and the same river would drown you in the evening when it over-flows its bank. She may later becomes the dictator of the house and the head of the family and she may wants to controls the man, this is my opinion.


Feel free to add yours


lalasticlala

You have the most perfect answer to ur question already bro. So which other opinion do you need

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RadicallyBlunt:

You have the most perfect answer to ur question already bro. So which other opinion do you need

A counter opinion

My place it's nt right, it's a bad omen u will automatically bc her slave

The woman is placing a curse on her new marriage..
It never ends well...

They can go for registry.. Then when he has Money after some years in marriage, then good he can pay her dowry with his hard earned money.. Anything short of that is not good on the long run.
.God forbid, he might even insult her one fateful day, that she paid her own dowry with her own money, can't she see how worthless she is? Men say all sorts when they are angry with spouse. Only a wise man tame his tongue when provoked.. And only a wise woman also tame hers too in heated arguments
And such man will never be the head of his home.. No. Matter how hard and refrequent he reminds her : but am the head of this house o..!

I know this situation is becoming increasingly rampant nowadays BUT make sure as a man you settle that bill yourself even if you have to get help from YOUR OWN family members. Abeg to avoid stories that touch later on

Everything is wrong! He wont no ur what.

Noloss:
Everything is wrong! He wont no ur what.

I'm sure you meant to type "He won't know your worth"

Lol thank dear thats exactly. What i meant.

Artistree:

I'm sure you meant to type "He won't know your worth"

No, its just sooooo wrong..... He just failed in carrying out his first responsibility, let him stay away from marriage till he's ready biko

I think she owns the man if she pays 'his' dowry.

LynnPetra:
I think she owns the man if she pays 'his' dowry.

choi!! welcome. you chop ban abi na holiday you go?

I don't know why people keep mistaking bride price for dowry. Women bring in dowry, men pay bride price.

Dowry is different from bride price but people mistake one for the other, so much so that it is almost overshadowing the correct term.

For example, a woman's dowry are her mother's sewing machine, cooking pots and culinary, curtains, cloth, glass ware etc

To the topic, it is very wrong for a woman to give her man money pay her own bride price. By extension it means she is marrying herself by paying the man to marry her. That woman will eventually 'own' that marriage.

Even if the man is a poor as a rat, that bride price has to come from his own pocket because he is marrying the woman, not vice versa. If he can't afford it then he should wait until he can.

Ishilove:
I don't know why people keep mistaking bride price for dowry. Women bring in dowry, men pay bride price.

The word is relative, it goes both ways. It's can literally mean what the wife brings in or what the husband pays to the bride family

So gender equality advocates no see anything wrong in a man paying for a woman?

Nothing wrong at all o.
Go and ask MERCY JOHNSON-OKOJIE!
How many men can AFFORD to pay dowry in this day and age?
No pay na.
Anoda woman go PAY DOUBLE.

You will get a free SPERM BANK to born all your children, then WAKA left am for im old age if he does NOT measure up.

A smart woman makes investments.
A FOOLISH WOMAN FALLS IN LOVE.
Simple!

raumdeuter:
So gender equality advocates no see anything wrong in a man paying for a woman?

The alternative where a woman will be the one paying for a man does not sound good to them, is why.