Blaqsmith:

Thanks. But I just wanted to be free. I've been a prisoner of my own conscience deceiving her all along. She deserves to know the truth.

But why can't you date an atheist?
Why do you think dating theist is a better choice?
Where is your God when I lost my brother after fervent prayers?
What is your God doing to help the homeless and hungry children on the streets?

Hello this is nt a thread about God it is abt ur girlfriend so dnt derail...errm since she believe there is God leave her to follow her hrt dnt force her to b wt u...do u believe in the existence of LUCIFER?

OSESUNATE:
WELL, DO YOU BELIEVE THE DEVIL EXIST?

When I said I don't believe in god and u expect me to believe in devil

pass please.

I was in you shoes few time ago. Just fvck the girl, let her go cuz she doesnt deserve you. Man all you need is money and you can even date the bigest pastors daughter! That your girl friedn would gladly marry dangotes son evn if he is a harbalist. So man. Be wise and dontlet dem fool you.

Blaqsmith:

Part of it. But most importantly that there isn't evidence for his existence. Even if he exists, I still maintain he won't have my worship.

Forget the girl and look for someone with similar mindset and belief as you.

Your view will always be a problem between youself and this lady. She believe in God, you don't. She would want to read the bible, go to church and pray. You don't believe in those.

your relationship with her might get very serious with the possibility of marriage, she might want a church wedding and later would like to go to church with the kids, you don't believe in those.

Let this girl be. Find a girl who think like you and build your relationship.

freecocoa:
Instead asking me to search, why not show me since you know it, the right path that is.

the right path is just to believe in Jesus, is as simple as ABC

Blaqsmith:

When I said I don't believe in god and u expect me to believe in devil

pass please.

I need to understand you better before commenting further. You mentioned you believe in the existence of God ("Though I raised questions which theists always fail to convincingly answer, I still agree with them that there is god".) and now you are saying you don't believe in God? Is there a reason why you chose to be an atheist? Were you always one?

Regardless, I will advice you to be completely sincere with her. Don't lie. Don't try to deceive her. Give her time and let her decide. If she says no then you would have to respect her decision and move on.

prinsam30:




the right path is just to believe in Jesus, is as simple as ABC

Who is Jesus and why do I need to believe in him before god can show himself?

Vikky014:
Hello this is nt a thread about God it is abt ur girlfriend so dnt derail...errm since she believe there is God leave her to follow her hrt dnt force her to b wt u...do u believe in the existence of LUCIFER?

pls don't mind the OP, he is a confused fellow, he believes so much in LOVE but doesn't believe who the LOVE really is...


He has forgotten that God Is LOVE

Blaqsmith:


I'm losing her and I don't ever wanna lose her. If for anything, not because I don't believe there is God who looks by while toddlers die.

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lols... is that at least one of your reasons for being an atheist...
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God is not in charge of the earth... in the beginning there's Heaven and Earth and Adam was in charge of Earth...
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He lost that power to a very wicked person... and wickedness entered earth...
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US and Russia have enough stockpiles of nuclear weapons to destroy this planet 5 times... without the help of God or the devil
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the toddlers you talk about... weren't they supposedly somewhere before somebody made a CHOICE to sleep with someone and give birth to them?
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we are in a world ruled by choices
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God reigns in Heaven... but Earth is ruled by choices... we even have the power to change climate and weather! yes...
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that's why a popular prayer says..
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Thy will be done on earth...
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say hi to your girlfriend
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enjoy

prinsam30:



pls don't mind the OP, he is a confused fellow, he believes so much in LOVE but doesn't believe who the LOVE really is...


He has forgotten that God Is LOVE

lol. dnt mind him

Likewise He has revealed himself to millions of people worldwide; did you believe them?

freecocoa:
Like a gazillion people haven't and he is still no where to be found?

freecocoa:
Who is Jesus and why do I need to believe in him before god can show himself?

Jesus is the Savior of the world, if believe in him then you've known God himself

Nenejeje:




God bless you for this reply

Amen

allanphash7:
Tell your girlfriend to get out but before you do so ask her one question which is.........








What is that thing that is above love ?

Thia is one atheist I like even though we dont share d same belief but we go d same way in doing our belief. U will hardly see him insulting others religions or d religious ones. He is not obsessed about d religious ones. U wont even know he is one. Allanpash baba notin do u

@ Blaqsmith, If I may ask what do you really believe? For if you don't believe in the existence of God, then what do you stand on and the basis of your existence.

You were wrong from the beginning,theres no way there wont be problems like this,you shouyld have married your likes,thats why theres internet dating sites,note,am not trying to judge you thogh.

Blaqsmith:
I am bringing up this issue here because I don't trust the environment I live and the people I co-habit with. They would open up the bible for me than tell me some truth I need to hear or advise me to go for brain evaluation. I am well ok.

I've been an atheist for some years now, but due to beliefs of people around, I make it a closed affair. Though I raised questions which theists always fail to convincingly answer, I still agree with them that there is god.

I live in this denial of who I am just to satisfy my loved ones and make them happy. They see atheist as a mad man.

All these years, this is what I battle inside of me, but what choice do I have than just to play along? I don't wanna lose loved ones 'cause of my belief.

I muster some courage and decided to reveal my real self to my girlfriend who is also religious. She's told me her love for me is unconditional and I tried to believe her.

She went berserk when I told her am an atheist... She wouldn't just believe it. Since then, she's been looking at me like I'm under some spell.

I'm losing her and I don't ever wanna lose her. If for anything, not because I don't believe there is God who looks by while toddlers die.

Blaqsmith:
I am bringing up this issue here because I don't trust the environment I live and the people I co-habit with. They would open up the bible for me than tell me some truth I need to hear or advise me to go for brain evaluation. I am well ok.

I've been an atheist for some years now, but due to beliefs of people around, I make it a closed affair. Though I raised questions which theists always fail to convincingly answer, I still agree with them that there is god.

I live in this denial of who I am just to satisfy my loved ones and make them happy. They see atheist as a mad man.

All these years, this is what I battle inside of me, but what choice do I have than just to play along? I don't wanna lose loved ones 'cause of my belief.

I muster some courage and decided to reveal my real self to my girlfriend who is also religious. She's told me her love for me is unconditional and I tried to believe her.

She went berserk when I told her am an atheist... She wouldn't just believe it. Since then, she's been looking at me like I'm under some spell.

I'm losing her and I don't ever wanna lose her. If for anything, not because I don't believe there is God who looks by while toddlers die.

I was once like you until one day. Please can we relate on This topic? Let's approach it objectively... chat me up on WhatsApp 08188008300. I will bare it all and hopefully you can see beyond atheism.

OracleMxNelson:

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lols... is that at least one of your reasons for being an atheist...
.
God is not in charge of the earth... in the beginning there's Heaven and Earth and Adam was in charge of Earth...
.
He lost that power to a very wicked person... and wickedness entered earth...
.
US and Russia have enough stockpiles of nuclear weapons to destroy this planet 5 times... without the help of God or the devil
.
the toddlers you talk about... weren't they supposedly somewhere before somebody made a CHOICE to sleep with someone and give birth to them?
.
we are in a world ruled by choices
.
God reigns in Heaven... but Earth is ruled by choices... we even have the power to change climate and weather! yes...
.
that's why a popular prayer says..
.
Thy will be done on earth...
.
say hi to your girlfriend
.
enjoy

You are just like your god...
WICKED!

You can't get along with somebody you are not on the same frequency.She is delusional while you are realistic.If you are not able to convince her to see things your way,then let her go,she might find somebody on on the same frequency with her.While you keep searching for the reasonable one that sees the world rationally.

Contact17:


I need to understand you better before commenting further. You mentioned you believe in the existence of God ("Though I raised questions which theists always fail to convincingly answer, I still agree with them that there is god".) and now you are saying you don't believe in God? Is there a reason why you chose to be an atheist? Were you always one?

Regardless, I will advice you to be completely sincere with her. Don't lie. Don't try to deceive her. Give her time and let her decide. If she says no then you would have to respect her decision and move on.

Few guys would do what I've done in this instance. I had an option of deceiving but I could. You know why? I have conscience and not any god.

pass please!

Blaqsmith:

Thanks. But I just wanted to be free. I've been a prisoner of my own conscience deceiving her all along. She deserves to know the truth.

But why can't you date an atheist?
Why do you think dating theist is a better choice?
Where is your God when I lost my brother after fervent prayers?
What is your God doing to help the homeless and hungry children on the streets?

My dear friend, matters of religion are personal choices. Choices can make or mar. The reasons for choices could be objective or subjective. Why questioning the rationale for our choices may amount to irrational encroachment of personal space, it is pertinent we at times evaluate our choices in the light of truth.

From your original post and replies to comments, one can infer that circumstances made of you an atheist. "Where was God when your brother died?", you asked. Perhaps, this is but one of many questions you have had to ask to question the existence of God. I live the answers to your many questions to God himself. He has been answering your questions, he will keep answering them even if you fail to acknowledge. He cares so much for his creation.
The existence of God has been debatable over the years. The very fact that man questions the existence of a divine being is a testament to the power of choice God have endowed man with. Man as a free moral agent is the most intelligent of all creation. If indeed there be a God who created man in his image and likeness. It is not irrational to say that man is a god. And as such possesses though to a lesser degree same power/qualities of God, his creator.
Look within and around you. You see orderliness in nature. Think of the intricate functioning of your body systems. Observe the sun. Gaze at the distant horizon. Appreciate the beauty in faces, colors and shapes of humanity. Be awed by the distant stars. Let the vastness of the ever expanding universe instill but humility and gratitude.

Good and evil befalls all of God's creation. Should the prey curse God cause he made him vulnerable to a predator? Nay! For in his vulnerability lies his strength. Herein lies the infallible law of adaptation. The laws of nature are set. They are impartial. He who understands them benefits by them. The ignorant is inexcusable and thus suffers for breaking them.

A case for the existence of God is too 'delicate' for me to thread. But be reassured that when your beloved brother died. When toddlers die. When natural and man made disasters strike. Nature always acts to correct such ills. The law of compensation,which many commonly know as karma, cause and effect etc entails that an equilibrium is always achieved in nature. This precision in nature could in all sanity be attributed to a greater power.

A life of denial is too tortuous to life. The emotional pain is unbearable. Life in my opinion is brief and such should be lived to the fullest. If your convinced that been an atheist is best for you. Own up! Stand for what you believe. The friends you loose, nature shall replace. Better ones, tolerant of your views she shall bring your part. This includes in all sincerity your girlfriend.

But should you reconsider your beliefs in the light of truth. Should you in your quiet moments reflect on the beauty of nature. Should you in your thoughts ask God to prove his existence to you. Be reassured that God has all the answers to your limited questions. He created you. He knows more than you know yourself. He loves you. For his very nature is Love. Thanks.

Hmm.


You naively told your girl, whose's IQ is likely less than 75, that you're an atheist? That makes you a dwindling atheist. You're more confused than a fawn who lost his mother. You know fully well Africa is a highly religious continent, and people would discriminate against atheism, yet you took a chance disclosing your belief to your girl, who has a low sense of understanding.


Some secrets are meant to die with you.

stop blaming God for every misfortunes millions of pple die every second nd ure still living.God is not a magician can you cut your leg and expect God to heal it dat second .No there are lot of mysteries taking place in d human body even scientists fail to decipher a new born baby can die nd that doesnt mean you should lose your faith everything in life has a reason.its better to worship God than believing in nothing because you will lose many things in life wen u become an atheist your family,girlfrnds even your offsprings would detest u.

Opinions are like assholees, everybody has one.

There are too many comments to read through and there's a possibility what I am about to say has been said already.

First of all, what you did was lie about who you are. Trust is very easy to break but hard to build. I take all forms of lies/deception very strongly. I find it difficult to ever fully trust someone who has lied to me once. At the back of my head, there's always going to be that little voice that asks me if the person has told other lies that I am yet to find out

I personally believe there's more to being with someone than loving that person.

Are both of you in the same place? I know someone who is very religious and was happy to date anyone of any belief as he knew he was not yet in a position to get married. When he chooses to get married, the person would have to go to church with him and their kids would be brought up religious.

So where are you in life now? Is your girlfriend the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? How do you feel about your children being brought up with a belief system that contradicts yours? If there was a church event would you be willing to go with her?

You alone can answer whether or not your girlfriend is worth fighting for

I hope this helps

Blaqsmith:
I am bringing up this issue here because I don't trust the environment I live and the people I co-habit with. They would open up the bible for me than tell me some truth I need to hear or advise me to go for brain evaluation. I am well ok.

I've been an atheist for some years now, but due to beliefs of people around, I make it a closed affair. Though I raised questions which theists always fail to convincingly answer, I still agree with them that there is god.

I live in this denial of who I am just to satisfy my loved ones and make them happy. They see atheist as a mad man.

All these years, this is what I battle inside of me, but what choice do I have than just to play along? I don't wanna lose loved ones 'cause of my belief.

I muster some courage and decided to reveal my real self to my girlfriend who is also religious. She's told me her love for me is unconditional and I tried to believe her.

She went berserk when I told her am an atheist... She wouldn't just believe it. Since then, she's been looking at me like I'm under some spell.

I'm losing her and I don't ever wanna lose her. If for anything, not because I don't believe there is God who looks by while toddlers die.

uplawal:
You were wrong from the beginning,theres no way there wont be problems like this,you shouyld have married your likes,thats why theres internet dating sites,note,am not trying to judge you thogh.

I was wrong from the beginning but you aren't trying to judge me?

I can see.

Blaqsmith:

You are just like your god...
WICKED!

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lols... you are attacking me now.
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if you take a gun and shoot a fella... is that God being wicked or you being wicked?
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earth was given to man...
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open your brain...
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we run things here...

I'm wondering though, how do you cope and would co-exist with her or any religious zombies? For an awaken soul and someone who has emancipated himself from the shackles of organized religion and their zombie magic sky God to commit yourself with a religious woman spells doom in the future and your generally well-being.

How do you handle the idiosyncrasies gist and their senseless talks that always shifts every problem and occurrence to their god.

As a freethinker myself, I can't date a religious lady for a long time. My association with them is just a brief thing. They're too boring, slow and unintelligent for me to brainstorm with. But I think it's easier for me and other atheist who resides in the West, where atheism is common, unlike Nigeria where majority still revels in religious fallacy.

prinsam30:



pls don't mind the OP, he is a confused fellow, he believes so much in LOVE but doesn't believe who the LOVE really is...


He has forgotten that God Is LOVE

which of the gods? you mean the one that ordered killings of children? or the one dat raped Mary?

Psalm 137 vs 9..
Deuteronomy 21 vs 18.

Your god doesn't know any love ogbeni. he's just a freaking wicked dude! deal with that.

Blaqsmith:

Not all atheist ladies are good. She might be religious, Buh she is very kind-hearted. I just think she's playing her dogmas here. When his pastors say atheists are devils and wicked people and he believed them? How would she look at me?
thanks for ur advice anyway.

You know what?... Open the Bible verse that says anyone that doesn't believe in God is a fool, read the next verse... is that true?..

Ask your girlfriend if that next verse describes you in any way.. . if she says no, tell her then it's wrong..

Go on from there,leave hints and traces of doubt for her to understand that her belief isn't pure gold and cherry.

I've made my Christian girlfriend understand that the Bible is deeply flawed.. she may not want to quit it out of peer pressure but it's a start, when you're living together you can now start re-education her.

Timmi:
@ Blaqsmith, If I may ask what do you really believe? For if you don't believe in the existence of God, then what do you stand on and the basis of your existence.

I believe in humanity.
I believe in Love.
I believe in myself.
I believe in my friends.
I believe in you Timmi

I know you won't send me to hell because I masturbate.
I know you won't burn me with fire because I say a lie.
I know Timmi, that you won't live peacefully in heaven while many of your frends screams of pain in hell.

I don't believe in god. he's too wicked a man to have my worship. I would rather go to hell.