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I'm Curious! by yemivictor: 1:49pm On Dec 02, 2006 |
people! i'd really like to know what the scriptural implications are for a lawfully wedded christian couple, to watch pornography strictly between themselves. thank you |
Re: I'm Curious! by mamaput(f): 1:55pm On Dec 02, 2006 |
Are the people in the film Married or not? May be they should make a movie with themselves and watch. ![]() |
Re: I'm Curious! by Consultant(f): 5:50pm On Dec 05, 2006 |
I will respond to this question first by quoting 1 Thessalonians 4: 3-8 It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4that each of you should learn to control his own body[a] in a way that is holy and honorable, 5not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. 7For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit. When this couple watch other people having sex , the likelihood is for them (especially the man) to replay these pictures over and over in their minds. You need to realize that when these images come back to mind, it is a picture of someone else engaged in sex and not your spouse, so any lustful feelings that emerge from these replays will be towards someone else. And Jesus goes on to say that if you even think about having sex with someone, it is the same as committing the act. Sex can be a powerful tool in the devil's hand. I don't think any christian should open the door to the devil in this area of their lives for any reason. As a woman i think you should be particularly protective over your husband and his spiritual development. Men struggle so much in this area already, the wife shouldn't make it even more difficult for him. You also need to note that pornograghy is demonic and addictive. Like someone said before, the people in that movie are not married and are in fact sinning against God. By patronizing them, you are therefore encouraging them in their sin. My final word is from Paul in 1 Corinthians 6:12 "Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything." |
Re: I'm Curious! by Bolarge(m): 2:46pm On Dec 06, 2006 |
@Consultant Y'spoke my very mind.God bless you my sister. @Topic This article might be a little more illuminating: Pornography in Marriage Written by Lee Wilson. Concept by Joe Beam. It's quite common for couples to ask my opinion on whether or not they are Biblically free to use pornography to help them get ready for sex or to enhance their lovemaking. I have three thoughts to share concerning this issue: 1. The average female porn star retires by the age of 28 and the average male porn star retires by the age of 32. The reason for this is that the porn industry sees the human body as being at its physical peak between the ages of 18 and 28 for females; 21-32 for males. Her breasts are firmer and other areas of both the male and female bodies are without age spots or wrinkles. The person in a pornography video will never grow a day older or lose that "perfection," yet your wife or husband naturally will. Here's the warning: If you choose to use pornography as a means to sexually arouse yourself, you are forfeiting the ability to become aroused by your spouse. Over time, it will become more and more difficult to be sexually aroused by your lifemate because he or she will age while the porn star forever remains youthful in pictures and videos. Losing the ability to be sexually aroused by your spouse is a very bad thing! Not only are you putting yourself at risk for the temptation of an affair, but you are killing what should be a beautiful experience shared by you and your spouse. Furthermore, which is really the better body? Is the better body the one whose breasts nursed your children and held you close when you were scared or sad? The body that sleeps by your side at night? The world might see the young porn star's body as being the best, but which is really the best? Why would you want to give up the ability to be aroused by the best? 2. The use of pornography will inevitably destroy the self esteem of your spouse. Porn stars are selected because they are not normal. The females they select are usually far above average in breast size and in the appearance of other features. The males are usually far above average in terms of penis size and in the appearance of other features. As your spouse is constantly exposed to the "perfection" of the people having sex in the video, he or she usually begins to feel ugly, inadequate and unwanted. In time it becomes painfully obvious to your spouse that a substitute is required to sexually excite you. Can you see how that would destroy self esteem? And trust me, it doesn't get better with time--it only gets worse as each of you experience the normal aging process while at the same time watching porn stars who are permanently young. 3. If you are using another person--even a picture of another person--to sexually excite and arouse yourself, you are commiting adultery according to Jesus. Jesus said, "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:27-28). I certainly don't want to judge another person. Nor do I want to involve myself in another's sex life. Each person is obviously free to make independent choices, yet I feel that it is important for you to have all the facts and viewpoints at your access so that you can make an informed decision. This question has been asked so often by couples around the world that we felt it necessary to provide an answer as a resource for individuals who want to please God in every area of their lives and to act in the best interest of their marriage and spouse. Written by Lee Wilson Director of Web Media and Literature Family Dynamics Institute © 2005 Lee Wilson. All rights reserved. |
Re: I'm Curious! by yemivictor: 4:17pm On Dec 07, 2006 |
dear mamaput, if i get u right, it is wrong for them to watch porn, but ok for them to watch porn of themselves right! |
Re: I'm Curious! by ThoniaSlim(f): 10:36pm On Dec 10, 2006 |
Bolarge:this is a nice one ![]() |
Re: I'm Curious! by marriagema(m): 9:12pm On Feb 03, 2011 |
It took me a second to grasp what was going on when I saw the article use the word "indecency" but then I found the original article at http://www.marriagehelper.com/using_pornography_in_marriage.php and it uses another word that starts with a "p" and refers to watching people without clothes on, but the "bad word" filter of the forum changed it. Anyway, it's a very good article. Thanks for posting it. |
Re: I'm Curious! by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jul 22, 2011 |
good read |
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