[quote author=OlaNiran107 post=47954200][/quote]
In that case, you have done well. Wish you all the best.

OlaNiran107:


My family's against that as it will only raise bad blood betwren me and the family. I ocassionally have people check on the kid. And far as i know, she's doing okay. I just feel she can have a better life than what she already has. The issue with the other girl's a little complicated as my parents like her a lot (dunno why) and i do to but i just got to that point where it stopped making sense anymore. I'm at peace with breaking it off but it's not just easy to get by.

This is (probably/very likely) your child we are talking about here. Do what is right by her. Check to see if she's yours and if she is, the very least you can do is provide her material needs, and if you can, other needs that a father should provide. She doesn't have to come live with you.


Your family seems to be influencing your devisions more than is appropriate, cut the apeon strings, mister. Be a man. Think things through and make your decision, and if you're wrong or it doesn't play out like you envisioned, take responsibility, adjust and move on. Stop all this, "my daddy said,, my mummt said" ish.

LynnPetra:


Good morning .

I applaud the family of that girl like kilode. Very responsible family indeed. Thumbs up to them. Make the guy just forget the pikin, the child is not his by tradition. If I'm the mother of that girl sef I will make sure he NEVER see that child, NEVER !It is highly insulting to get my daughter pregnant and have the guts to say you will take up the responsibility for the child, leaving the mother unmarried. I swear I go pursue the guy with long bamboo reach anywhere wey be him bus stop. I rather take full responsibility for the child. I blame the family for even taking a penny from him in the first place.

Abeg, make we hear word. You want to go to jail? You done hear wetin be contempt of court? You better wake up. The Patience Ozokwors of this world don't stand a chance. You want to go and be eating undercooked iron beans and be cutting grass with your flat breasties?

Timbuktou:


Abeg, make we hear word. You want to go to jail? You done hear wetin be contempt of court? You better wake up. The Patience Ozokwors of this world don't stand a chance. You want to go and be eating undercooked iron beans and be cutting grass with your flat breasties?

Contempt of court Kor?
You think say na every culture dey accept nonsense?

LynnPetra:




Contempt of court Kor?
You think say na every culture dey accept nonsense?

See this one. Your culture get power pass Nigerian constitution? . You're a funny somebody. Dem go lock you and your culture for prison and fling the key into the Pacific.

Timbuktou:


See this one. Your culture get power pass Nigerian constitution? . You're a funny somebody. Dem go lock you and your culture for prison and fling the key into the Pacific.

Shebi na this Same Nigeria wey me and you dey so? Na yawu yawu family go lose for that kind case. Even the one way happen for my family sef, the guy no even know how him son face be like. Court ke? Mtcheww

Him get luck say we no break him leg.

LynnPetra:



Shebi na this Same Nigeria wey me and you dey so? Na yawu yawu family go lose for that kind case. Even the one way happen for my family sef, the guy no even know how him son face be like. Court ke? Mtcheww

Him get luck say we no break him leg.

Hehehe. I love people like you. Brings out the evil in me. However, it would be better to kill someone like me than break leg and let me away alive. . That would be a mistake on your part. You think all these disappearances the media reports are ritual killings?

Timbuktou:



This is (probably/very likely) your child we are talking about here. Do what is right by her. Check to see if she's yours and if she is, the very least you can do is provide her material needs, and if you can, other needs that a father should provide. She doesn't have to come live with you.


Your family seems to be influencing your devisions more than is appropriate, cut the apeon strings, mister. Be a man. Think things through and make your decision, and if you're wrong or it doesn't play out like you envisioned, take responsibility, adjust and move on. Stop all this, "my daddy said,, my mummt said" ish.

Bro, trust me i have. I have tried reaching out to the girl personally and the mother through people. The truth is it's a long story up until here but i'd summarize. It was barely 2 weeks, we had sex, she went missing for 3 weeks, came back to say she was 5 weeks late. I had trust issues with her but i decided the right thing to do was take responsibility regardless of whether or not i was sure of the paternity. from Antenatal till birth to clothing and all, i took care of everything except the blood donation which i couldn't cause i'm B-. I was even the one who took her to the clinic for delivery, made her breakfast and dinner, her family offered to do lunch. My family at that point had encouraged me to marry her but not immediately, the plan was for her to finish school, At that point i'd made my mind up to eventually settle with her. my family met with hers alongside 2 pastors recommended by her family and they agreed we name the child and in time we decide on marriage (myself and the lady ie). but a night before the naming after making preparations, we found out they had gone back on the agreed plan and made up their minds to shame us and not show up during which time if we came over, will request for payment of marriage rites or whatever. It was at this point i said i had had enough and told every one of my family members to back down. first they wanted to talk it through with them but i was done. After all said and done, we still offered to take full responsibility for the child (not custody) regardless of whether or not i get to see the child and they refused. i have met with a couple of lawyers but they tell me the best thing is to wait it out and not start trouble. To be honest, I'm not even looking forward to taking any further actions. I'd rather just pray and hope she turns out great regardless of whether or not she knows me.

Olaniran107, I understand now. I think that's a good course of action.

Per your recent ex. Don't sweat it. Time heals all wounds.

sorry about that..


look we're in the same boat. I grew up without a dad. But when I was 12, I realized that I had something missing in my life. then i started asking my mom about my dad. She told me everything. so now I'm happy.
I spend every weekend with dad.


don't worry, one day your daughter will come look for you when she old enough.

christinnah:
sorry about that..


look we're in the same boat. I grew up without a dad. But when I was 12, I realized that I had something missing in my life. then i started asking my mom about my dad. She told me everything. so now I'm happy.
I spend every weekend with dad.


don't worry, one day your daughter will come look for you when she old enough.

Wow. Wouldn't say the same shoes though but i get your point. Glad you now get to see your dad. No kid should have to to be made to go through that (except death). Thanks for the encouragement too.

OlaNiran107:


Wow. Wouldn't say the same shoes though but i get your point. Glad you now get to see your dad. No kid should have to to be made to go through that (except death). Thanks for the encouragement too.

you welcome!

Timbuktou:


Hehehe. I love people like you. Brings out the evil in me. However, it would be better to kill someone like me than break leg and let me away alive. . That would be a mistake on your part. You think all these disappearances the media reports are ritual killings?

Sad fact man... Lol