Most of us thinks that sleeping with someone who isn't your spouse can only be defined as cheating. The reason why most relationships breakup today is when both parties cheat on each other without actually sleeping with other people.

Usually, this starts with dozens of mini betrayals. Things that occur in your relationship that slowly but surely crack the relationship’s foundation.

Some of these are obvious — lying to your partner, openly flirting with a co-worker, talking to your old high school flame on Facebook way too much. But some betrayals aren’t so overt. And those acts quietly open the door to major acts of betrayal that can lead to divorce.

So, what exactly are these mini betrayals?

1. You have secret relationships.
Almost everyone has a relationship outside of their main relationship. Exes we’re still friends with, co-workers we laugh with, best friends we share our deepest thoughts with. That’s all fine and healthy. But problems arise when you use those relationships to fulfill emotional needs not being met in your marriage.

How do you know if you’re doing this? It’s easy. Ask yourself one simple question: “Would I act the same with this other person if my significant other was watching?”

If you answer “No,” you’re likely crossing boundaries that lead into dangerous territory.

2. You hide money.
If you ask a thousand couples what they argue about most: 70 percent will tell you money! The way a betrayal happens in this area is pretty obvious: you hide a spending problem, you have a building project you cannot tell your spouse about, you are always in debt and can't tell your spouse about it, etc

If you’re engaging in any of these acts, take action and tell your spouse exactly what’s going on.

But the damage doesn’t stop there. Only allowing friends to hear bad things about your spouse prevents them from seeing the good, even when it’s right there.

4. You undermine your partner in public.
You know what I mean: That roll of your eyes, that sarcastic remark, the cheap shot you take when they piss you off — these are small, but deeply hurtful betrayals. By doing this, you’re telling your spouse that your marriage isn’t sacred and that you’re fine violating their privacy by airing your dirty emotional laundry in public.

5. You’re emotionally dishonest.
Emotional dishonesty comes in all shapes and sizes. From committing to something you don’t really want to do, to saying that you’re “fine” (when you’re actually boiling with disdain), all the way to faking an orgasm. But emotional dishonesty is often most dangerous when you use it to justify your actions.

If you’re doing something that, deep down, you know is wrong, you’ll try to convince yourself (and your partner) that it’s right. Sometimes, you’ll exaggerate or downplay the situation, so that whatever you’re doing seems innocent. You know it’s not.

6. You’re straight up selfish.
You show it in a million different ways — with your time, during sexx, with the attention you give (or don’t). Being selfish on occasion isn’t a problem — it has its own benefits. But being selfish constantly tells your spouse that you’re better off flying solo.

One particularly destructive way selfishness creeps into relationships is by invalidating your spouse’s feelings.

Your spouse’s feeling are never wrong (whether you agree with those feelings or not). Invalidating your partner breeds anger and creates a division between the two of you. It clearly shows that you don’t respect their experiences and that they shouldn’t trust their own emotions. This is a form of manipulation.

Abiiiiii,,,,,,,,, almost everyone is a cheat then

Are all these sins punishable by The Supreme Spirit?

How about watching porn movies?

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Most of us thinks that sleeping with someone who isn't your spouse can only be defined as cheating. The reason why most relationships breakup today is when both parties cheat on each other without actually sleeping with other people.

Usually, this starts with dozens of mini betrayals. Things that occur in your relationship that slowly but surely crack the relationship’s foundation.

Some of these are obvious — lying to your partner, openly flirting with a co-worker, talking to your old high school flame on Facebook way too much. But some betrayals aren’t so overt. And those acts quietly open the door to major acts of betrayal that can lead to divorce.

So, what exactly are these mini betrayals?

1. You have secret relationships.
Almost everyone has a relationship outside of their main relationship. Exes we’re still friends with, co-workers we laugh with, best friends we share our deepest thoughts with. That’s all fine and healthy. But problems arise when you use those relationships to fulfill emotional needs not being met in your marriage.

How do you know if you’re doing this? It’s easy. Ask yourself one simple question: “Would I act the same with this other person if my significant other was watching?”

If you answer “No,” you’re likely crossing boundaries that lead into dangerous territory.

2. You hide money.
If you ask a thousand couples what they argue about most: 70 percent will tell you money! The way a betrayal happens in this area is pretty obvious: you hide a spending problem, you have a building project you cannot tell your spouse about, you are always in debt and can't tell your spouse about it, etc

If you’re engaging in any of these acts, take action and tell your spouse exactly what’s going on.

But the damage doesn’t stop there. Only allowing friends to hear bad things about your spouse prevents them from seeing the good, even when it’s right there.

4. You undermine your partner in public.
You know what I mean: That roll of your eyes, that sarcastic remark, the cheap shot you take when they piss you off — these are small, but deeply hurtful betrayals. By doing this, you’re telling your spouse that your marriage isn’t sacred and that you’re fine violating their privacy by airing your dirty emotional laundry in public.

5. You’re emotionally dishonest.
Emotional dishonesty comes in all shapes and sizes. From committing to something you don’t really want to do, to saying that you’re “fine” (when you’re actually boiling with disdain), all the way to faking an orgasm. But emotional dishonesty is often most dangerous when you use it to justify your actions.

If you’re doing something that, deep down, you know is wrong, you’ll try to convince yourself (and your partner) that it’s right. Sometimes, you’ll exaggerate or downplay the situation, so that whatever you’re doing seems innocent. You know it’s not.

6. You’re straight up selfish.
You show it in a million different ways — with your time, during sexx, with the attention you give (or don’t). Being selfish on occasion isn’t a problem — it has its own benefits. But being selfish constantly tells your spouse that you’re better off flying solo.

One particularly destructive way selfishness creeps into relationships is by invalidating your spouse’s feelings.

Your spouse’s feeling are never wrong (whether you agree with those feelings or not). Invalidating your partner breeds anger and creates a division between the two of you. It clearly shows that you don’t respect their experiences and that they shouldn’t trust their own emotions. This is a form of manipulation.

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