stephnkem22:
We have been dating for almost 4 Month Months now, everything has been going fine till last 2 week weeks, he started ignoring my calls and chat chats, wen he calls he will give excuses that his busy or not chanced ,
He doesn't care much again about me,

He is loving,caring,gentle and God fearing guy, and this is d first relationship 4 both of us,

He is after marriage he has taken me to meet his mom and sisters
And he is willing to wait till I finish my studies

I asked him while he is ignoring me now, he said he is scared Dat I might break up with him after spending and waiting for me, dat he has heard many true life story of others relationship relationships
Break up, so please I need advice on Hw to convince him or wat to do,so he wudt think of me like that
I really love him

stephnkem22:
We have been dating for almost 4 Month now, everything has been going fine till last 2 week, he started ignoring my calls and chat, wen he calls he will give excuses that his busy or not chanced,
He doesn't care much again about me,

He is loving,caring,gentle and God fearing guy, and this is d first relationship 4 both of us,

He is after marriage he has taken me to meet his mom and sisters
And he is willing to wait till I finish my studies

I asked him while he is ignoring me now, he said he scared Dat I might break up with him after spending and waiting for me, dat he has heard many true life story of others relationship
Break up, so please I need advice on Hw to convince him or wat to do,so he wudt think of me like that
I really love him

Love Machine:
I like what he is doing to you.If he shower you too much love,you will start doing yanga.

Sexxkillz:
4 months is too early to even go meet his family. You both hardly know each other!

You don't need to convince him. Let him please himself. . . Good riddance.

vlco:
I feel for months is okay to know someone and take them home if you want them in your life. I for one won't mind taking her home in a month cause it's long overdue, I have to be very sure though.

Sexxkillz:

Bro, that amounts to desperation. Marriage is meant to last a lifetime. No need rushing into it.

Sexxkillz:

Bro, that amounts to desperation. Marriage is meant to last a lifetime. No need rushing into it.

vlco:
If both individuals are matured, have focus and direction towards same goals, they can decide to kick start it asap. People do change behaviors due to one factor or the other but like they say "learning in marriage is for a life time".

Richy4:
What we have to convince you will be for you to face your studies...
Yes, he heard stories about girls abandoning the step ladder they used in climbing to the top...
No one knows if you can do the same or not...U can wake up one morning and say u were not feeling the vibe any more.... even people that married for 12 years or more does that.... No one can question the matters of the heart...

But if u want to win him over, and prove to him that u can not do that, It is really simple..stop collecting any kind of gift from him, No recharge card, Nothing...act independent as if u do not want any thing from him...Even if u are in need, do not show him that u were... Do not act so clinging...if he wants to buy u anything, tell him no....let your parent do that for u and live within your means...trust me he will be singing your praise all day long...And no more sex with him except when u feel like it. with u being indepent, he will not ask u to do what u don't want to...he will respect u and he will see a new u...

I just hope i am talking to some one serious...

Florblu:
Has he slept with you?I think he only staged the visitation to his parent.He will even show you his ancestors just to get down with you.
Be focus!Reduce the affection you have for him,divert the time and energy you've been using to nurture the relationship to something else. If he truly wants you he will come back begging.

stephnkem22:


Thanks, this what i need to do.

stephnkem22:


Nope and he is till a virgin

Regya:
My dear sister , if you love him then you really need to convinced him but first are you a true Christian or a flash on the pan? Your way of life can be a contributing factor on convincing him and do not blame for his recent attitude towards you rather help him over come his fears. You need a counseling of a Pastor and both of you need to see a pastor together and one pastor supposed to mentor the two of you. I am a relationship expert and a consultant but not a pastor but I am a child of God. if you need my service then write me at rajoku@yahoo.com or call me on 081 894123 27. But you to see your pastor. God bless you.

stephnkem22:
We have been dating for almost 4 Month now, everything has been going fine till last 2 week, he started ignoring my calls and chat, wen he calls he will give excuses that his busy or not chanced,
He doesn't care much again about me,

He is loving,caring,gentle and God fearing guy, and this is d first relationship 4 both of us,

He is after marriage he has taken me to meet his mom and sisters
And he is willing to wait till I finish my studies

I asked him while he is ignoring me now, he said he scared Dat I might break up with him after spending and waiting for me, dat he has heard many true life story of others relationship
Break up, so please I need advice on Hw to convince him or wat to do,so he wudt think of me like that
I really love him