GENDER EQUALITY or EQUITY
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? Stand UP! and be
counted!!! Nigeria is the only place in the world where most
people lay on their backs, yet want to be counted!!! how
does that work
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Until we all accept that the essence of true
gender equity is not what we debate on the floor legislative
assemblies but a colossus of deliberate everyday effort in
our relationships where we all realize that our place in any
relationship(platonic or otherwise) is almost automatically
determined by what we individually bring to the table, the
value u directly/indirectly add to such a relationship...I
attended a colloquium in a premier university recently and a
professor before presenting his paper took almost 10mins
to eulogize his dear wife and at a point, the entire crowd of
people on seat were looking into each other's faces as if to
say 'why the epistle?', ' who that one epp?' Until the
esteemed professor made us all quiver in our seats with the
touching story of how the woman in question(his wife)
practically carried him on 'her back' and single handedly
paid for his education through the university to
postgraduate and up until he got his PhD!!!! The entire hall
could not bottle their emotions, a solemn purgation of
emotions followed as we all helplessly and almost
subconsciously echoed 'awwwwwwww!!!!' , very touching!!!
( u needed to be there)...Am not sure that woman needs to
demand/fight/ struggle for equality/equity/ respect in that
relationship... She EARNED it all and much more!!! It is not
until u sponsor someone through a university degree n
beyond, but until you realize u will never be treated with
fairness or better yet respect if u set out into any
relationship scheming on the things you will get out of it
rather than the value you will ultimately contribute and by
the way, SEX!(which for heaven's sake does not have to be
presented as a one way benefit!!! It takes two to tangle!!!)
CANNOT be the only thing you bring to the plate in the name
of contributions and expect so much in return; after all,
simple psychology explains how disadvantaged and
subdued you already are when you owe anyone a gratitude,
even so much when you are at the receiving end of gestures,
mall-time, money, gifts, recharge card e.t.c. without anything
commensurate in return, to truly deserve such gesture and
yet be respected; give and take makes it better by far! These
nice things and more are almost naturally deserved if only u
have contributed and still adds value to the relationship...Let
us seek first to add real substance to our relationships and
just like the proverbial saying, 'every other thing shall be
added onto u', first of which is that feel of fairness, love and
deep respect which truly exemplifies in very simple terms
the essence of equity as u may like...Let us raise a
generation of children who will grow up,strive, and add
value, who will be more concerned about contributions and
less about gratifications, who rather than lay down and be
trampled, will STAND UP!!!! and be counted; never again will
equity be a discourse of contention...Never!
#StandUp4GenderEquity
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