Now I saw a thread today about abstaining from sex, whether it is realistic or not, which in my opinion is very much realistic and achievable but it depends on the individuals involved..

The thread is not the issue but a comment I saw by a popular nairaland'er that nobody is practicing abstinence, and that those that claim they do, if you investigate well, you will find out that they do other things like kissing, etc expect penetration...

To say that I am highly disappointed by that comment is an understatement. For God's sake, how can you make such outrageous generalisation about something like that. There are millions even not billions of adults in the world, how can you say all of them engage in one sexual activity or the other. FYI, not everyone are the same. Let me use myself as an example:I have never had sex or kissed any girl in my life and I intend to stay that way till I marry.. The closest sexual activity I have had with any girl was a peck on the cheek and maybe some cuddling but that was a long time ago.

Sometimes, I am even surprised how I am able to hold on till now considering all the temptations all around me and also considering the kind of friends I keep(because most of them are players) and when I discuss my belief with them about abstaining till marriage, they laugh at me and say.
"Dey there dey form virgin till Marriage when another guy is busy giving your wife doggy style"
Mehn when I hear that I will just become weak but I will always say that I must marry a Virgin or nothing else. Oh mehn my friends always laugh at me on hearing this(Virgin in this..) But I am comforted by the fact that not everyone is having sex and they are people who think like me about abstaining from sex and insinuating that no one is abstaining just because you and the people you have met can't is unacceptable and lame. Me myself and I have Decided that it is

#teamvirgintillmarriage..

It is not easy to be a virgin as a guy. So many ladies wants to get fvcked, you just have to ignore because you are trying to protect your sanctity. Sheee na the one wey go open pant for you? abi the one wey go come your house without wearing bra? How many we wan count? Nor be say we nor get libido, we just know how to control it.



#teamweddingnight.

Not fukcing or choosing not to get fukced is a choice you make that doesn't make you any better than others IMO. Be honest, faithful, peaceful and kind, that's all you need a be to be godly (IMO)

Why does it have to come to this? Abstinence or the lack of it is not wrong. There's nothing of pride in abstinence, neither is there a thing of pride in having intercourse.

In fact, having the urge/actually having sex is a natural occurrence, why should anyone feel less than they actually are because society believes it's demeaning to have sex before marriage?

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Hahahahaha. Nothing I no go see for NL

Proud of these guys.
I know you are not trying to be sanctimonious and this is well received by me.
Nothing beats being morally upright and respectful of your own body.

I'm virgin too.

Parpor:

Hahahahaha. Nothing I no go see for NL

abi o

@ OP, hope you won't be the type to let loose on your wedding day?

Don't mind me joking, I do appreciate your principle

But as regards marriage, what if you don't see what you want in that virgin you met? Having a life with sum1 goes beyond virginity, it's building a home with some1 who complements you & brings out the best in you

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@ OP, hope you won't be the type to let loose on your wedding day?

Don't mind me joking, I do appreciate your principle

But as regards marriage, what if you don't see what you want in that virgin you met? Having a life with sum1 goes beyond virginity, it's building a home with some1 who complements you & brings out the best in you

Man, that banger ain got no chill. It's been denied digging for too long than necessary