BlackAfrican:
He waited for six month. That night you guys had sex, something turned him off totally. Your ex could bear it for three years but this guy did not want to waste your time like your ex. So ask yourself what happened during the sex. That's where your answer lies. As for bellanaija, I pity people swallowing your advice. What a feminist you are.

Thank you. Exactly what i am thinking ! She needs to check herself.

czarr:
6months....that's wickedness!!!
Haba!!for a red blooded man?...when she is not a virgin?...and doesn't look like Kim kardashian?


That guy just wanted to make a statement, and I stand behind him ,she just want make him sperm turn powdery.

Really

BlackAfrican:
He waited for six month. That night you guys had sex, something turned him off totally. Your ex could bear it for three years but this guy did not want to waste your time like your ex. So ask yourself what happened during the sex. That's where your answer lies. As for bellanaija, I pity people swallowing your advice. What a feminist you are.

So he changed apartment and also lied about hi work place cos of puna

Talk2Bella:

Cos of the way he disappeared right?

yea

BensonOkere:
You might be a graduate but you need to go back to school. This time ,choose BEDMATICS as a course. Even if he doesn't love you, so far you have the formular to solve BEDMATIC EQUATIONS , he'll keep returning visits for more lessons.
To be Frank, he left because you ain't what he builded in his imagination. You have to apologize to him for making him build on wrong imagination. Lolz

He changed apartment and lied about work cos of bedmatics

Talk2Bella:


t wasn't the sex, those kind of people just prey on innocent women, the sex made him change address too? or lie about his place of work?

What makes u think this very lady is innocent?


I don't why women epitomise "them having sex with a guy"

Talk2Bella:


So he changed apartment and also lied about hi work place cos of puna

Maybe he is a ghost after all.

lol..he pulled a vanishing ninja on her

that's a good point, he probably realized she wasn't worth it with so much time and money spent

truthsayer007:


Learn from her mistake? So you mean she should wait next 1 year in a relationship before she has any sexual relations with a guy, so it can assure her that it won't be hit and run.

There is more to the story that meets the eye, I don't see myself running from a girl i just hit, that i waited 6 months for. Believe me he must have seen something that made him run. I would continually hit her.

The guy was spending money and his time, and doing romantic dates. Spending both time and money for a girl is really a big sacrifice.
Do you know what it means to wait for a lady EACH EVENING just to pick her up from work for 6 months, and they are working at separate places ?

Can you that if you were a guy?

This is clearly not a Hit and Run story. Something someone is not saying.

EFCCnig:
if i bite your strong yansh

how do you know My yansh is strong? Have you felt it?

Talk2Bella:


He changed apartment and lied about work cos of bedmatics

your so funny....

I can't believe people still have energy to have sex in this period of recession we be say to feed well na war

ULSHERLAN:
And we have some ladies who have sex on their first date and are married today. Only when ladies realise its not by how long you get a niqqa waiting. What will happen will still happen whether you keep him off the coochie for a year or ten. If he will drop your ass, he sure will

Nigg.a you are so fuckin.g right on this! Women fail to understand this secret.

CrazyQuinn:
She was so stupid to have sex with him, anyways the deed is done, there's nothing she can do about it now, all she have to do is to move on and learn from her mistakes, I hope she learns from her mistake this time. I don't blame the man either

Lol what was stupid about it?

CrazyQuinn:
She was so stupid to have sex with him, anyways the deed is done, there's nothing she can do about it now, all she have to do is to move on and learn from her mistakes, I hope she learns from her mistake this time. I don't blame the man either

Dis one just said "She was so stupid to av sex with him"
see our very Own SAINT... waited for 6 Month and u still call Her Stupid.. I wonder if u can even wait till the Next Date...
#UnSence

chigoizie7:


What makes u think this very lady is innocent?


I don't why women epitomise "them having sex with a guy"

Why will the man disappear like that

tosyne2much:
I can't believe people still have energy to have sex in this period of recession we be say to feed well na war

Hollawayn05:


Dis one just said "She was so stupid to av sex with him"
see our very Own SAINT... waited for 6 Month and u still call Her Stupid.. I wonder if u can even wait till the Next Date...
#UnSence

I can wait till I die

No matter how mean,smart and mischievous you think you are as a man one that which goes around comes around period.if you don't love her let her be instead of hurting the person, some of us here are busy making ourselves judge over her but when it cones to our turn the reverse is the case.

JerryTemi:
No matter how mean,smart and mischievous you think you are as a man one that which goes around comes around period.if you don't love her let her be instead of hurting the person, some of us here are busy making ourselves judge over her but when it cones to our turn the reverse is the case.

God bless you

BensonOkere:
You might be a graduate but you need to go back to school. This time ,choose BEDMATICS as a course. Even if he doesn't love you, so far you have the formular to solve BEDMATIC EQUATIONS , he'll keep returning visits for more lessons.
To be Frank, he left because you ain't what he builded in his imagination. You have to apologize to him for making him build on wrong imagination. Lolz

Apologize indeed Datz trash abeg

Talk2Bella:


Why will the man disappear like that

Na ghost him be nah

e be like say na me she dey talk about o

Chai...dis bae find me reach NL


I'm outta here

Chimaobikalu:
I want to say something, but l don't know what to say....

Full

The guy got disappointed and bounced.
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Am speechless.
I thoughts its only in Odunlade Adekola movies such stuffs happens.

thesicilian:


If it wasn't the girl's fault, then that's just not good enough from the guy. As in, I don't really understand why a guy would spend months and months wasting his time, energy and money on a lady, just to have one fleeting moment of sex (hit and run as you call it). Wouldn't it have been much more practical to just seek the services of a "professional"? That would not have hurt anybody.

. some guys will want to prove a point that they are smarter... They wouldn't mind waiting patiently for a whole year just to have sexx wit a lady.... They will spend, show u more care u av never seen, just to spread those lovely thighs...... It all come down to the fact that ladies, or should I say *NIGERIA* ladies should stop using sex as a kind tool to control a guy.... Sex is mutual.... U cannot use sex to tie a man... Whoever will stay, will definitely stay....

Talk2Bella:


So he changed apartment and also lied about hi work place cos of puna

That's what she told you. Do you know if the guy even used to work there? Let's assume he did. Did she tell you how long it took for her to go check on him at home and work place? The nigerian ladies I know have egos as tall as a coconut tree. It may have taken three months or more for her to visit those places in search of the guy. And her argument will be "he hasn't been calling me so he can go to hell" Trust me, initially she'll be angry if the guy didn't call and if he refused to pick her call. Hence she'll just pretend like he doesn't exist anymore FOR SOME PERIOD until something kicks her emotion to remind her why she likes him. Within that period, what if the guy got a better job elsewhere and decided to move on? After all something has already turned him off about her already. The guy may even be dead or may have left the country

So sister it's not like he slept with her today then tomorrow he left his work place and packed from his house. Your advice made it seem like that is what happened. You are ignoring important dynamics and any lady who reads your advice will fall into the same mess again and again without realising where they are making mistakes.

I'm not a psychologist but I understand human behaviour and I understand women

Most ladies re deceitful when u know u wl still give in 2 sex later why wastin d guys time for 6 mths nd beside after d guy waited nd discover dt the tin u re doin " shakara for" up nd down re worn out I bet u he wl run for his dear life b4 he enter one chance I once dated a lady after she had proof had 2 get for me later she agreed d 1 st tym we romance d way I saw her 2 balls up dia make me run till 2 day shes still pestering me say y I wl just look for 1 excuse for her pls ladies be wise if u re goin to giv dnt stress him 6 mth is dam 2 far

BlackAfrican:


That's what she told you. Do you know if the guy even used to work there? Let's assume he did. Did she tell you how long it took for her to go check on him at home and work place? The nigerian ladies I know have egos as tall as a coconut tree. It may have taken three months or more for her to visit those places in search of the guy. And her argument will be "he hasn't been calling me so he can go to hell" Trust me, initially she'll be angry if the guy didn't call and if he refused to pick her call. Hence she'll just pretend like he doesn't exist anymore FOR SOME PERIOD until something kicks her emotion to remind her why she likes him. Within that period, what if the guy got a better job elsewhere and decided to move on? After all something has already turned him off about her already. The guy may even be dead or may have left the country

So sister it's not like he slept with her today then tomorrow he left his work place and packed from his house. Your advice made it seem like that is what happened. You are ignoring important dynamics and any lady who reads your advice will fall into the same mess again and again without realising where they are making mistakes.



I'm not a psychologist but I understand human behaviour and I understand women

He never really worked there, and from the email we can both agree that she was in love with him, and the apartment was rented for a limited period

Talk2Bella:
Bella, I am done for, this guy spent almost 6 months asking me out, promising me he loved me and wanted to marry me, I had just gotten out of a relationship, I was hurt so bad so I took my time with this one.


He would come to my place of work each evening to pick me up, take me on romantic dates, he made me feel special.


Whenever he dropped me at home, he would just give me a light peck on the cheek and that was it. I was proud of him; I thought I had found the right man for me.


Three months after he began asking me out, the demand for sex started, I told him I wasn’t ready, besides I didn’t want sex before marriage anymore, I had wasted 3 years of my life doing that with someone who I thought wanted to marry me.


He was kind and patient, I was so in love, he never asked for sex again, fast-forward six months later, we were at my place, having dinner, he began talking about it, truth be told, I was in the mood that day, so we had more wine and talked some more and before I knew it we were on my bed making passionate love.


It’s been two months after that day, he hasn’t called me back or picked my call, or come pick me from work, I haven’t seen him, it’s like he disappeared, I have been to his house, office, no one’s seen or heard of him, turned out the house was rented for a duration of some months, and the office, well he doesn’t even work there.


Bella, I am scared, did I sleep with a ghost? Because it seems strange that someone who’s been patient for a long time can just disappear after we had sex, I am so ashamed of myself and it’s been making me doubt myself.


What do I do?



Talk2Bella

Honey, we call that a one timer, a one nighter, a hit and run and also a psychopath.


They are prey/leeches who prey on helpless women, twist their emotions, make them fall in love with them and disappear.


Be the strong woman you are and move on, don’t call him anymore, invest time in yourself and work, and for your sake I hope you used protection.


My guess is, he’s married somewhere else with kids, living a normal life, there’s nothing I will say to you that will alleviate the hurt you’re feeling, but I’m going to try, sweetheart you need to let him go!


Love will find you, and when it does do not use this experience to judge someone who might truly love you.


http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/he-asked-me-out-for-6-months-we-had-sex.html

chop and clean mouth

ULSHERLAN:
And we have some ladies who have sex on their first date and are married today. Only when ladies realise its not by how long you get a niqqa waiting. What will happen will still happen whether you keep him off the coochie for a year or ten. If he will drop your ass, he sure will

I shall do feel bad about talks or issues like this.. Dude your right I agree.. our ladies should use there sense of good judgement to work out each relationship and approach by we guys.. It may work fine to keep a guy waiting for years and still after acceptance you let lose of yourself, and he does the unexpected.. same way I have seen a lady who within weeks says yes to a guy, and all through she made him know that thou the acceptance came too quick, but she didn't let lose of herself easily.