HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many young
girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of
the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this
calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the
time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there
really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,
maybe there were more men than women then, or
there was an adequate corresponding numbers of
both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the
women had values and were prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home. Then, once a
young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a
wife and the woman really appreciates him and
helps him to build a future. What am I really trying
to say? We created what we now see as "Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves.

Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl
to define her dream husband; you get things like "he
has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a
house at least, and be presentable" and then she
adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so
worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you
and the number of men that meet that standard, and
you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I
cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and
start suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you have
everything you want and there is no suffering, and
later in the marriage, the table turns around, then
comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays
for suffering, but it is good to start small and end
big, than start big and end small. The problem is
that the description majority of girls give of their
ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want
the same kind of man and the man that fits what
they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick
one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".

Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to
the face of our economy to find a man who is of
marriage age who possesses all those things these
ladies want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet
fraud is not enough to match all those searching for
already made husbands. If you look around,
majority of the ladies of substance, of good value
and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a
man who has prospects, are married and not
complaining of husband scarcity.

The easiest way to get married now, is to change
your view of who a husband is. A husband is that
man God made and then saw that it may be hard
for him to really actualize his purpose for making
him, without a help mate and then made the woman
and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of
God here on earth. For those who see marriage as
a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage.
Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH
WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be
a route to where God has destined him to be
tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE
ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should
pick anyone that comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I
am saying is that you should stop setting your
standard on material acquisitions or physical
appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT
MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE
OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS
MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is,
most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only
its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which
is not seen is permanent.

Well me didn't read d long note. But in my idea,

Husband scarcity is related to bad economy of nowadays

And;

Wife scarcity is related to civilization or westernization of nowadays.

I didn't not finish reading the post but it's the best sense I have seen today. I like... Sorry, I mean, love this line of yours
....Maybe then, the
women had values and were prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home.....

However, both sides are guilty somehow. Men are no longer men. turnned rapist, fraudster and all that.
Where I agree with this post again is that the ratio of ideal men to women is 9:1

I love your post.
Thumbs up bro

this world isnt what it used to be,those days the men loved their partners and protected their interest.


some men of today ehn..... be showing it to you in black and white.... am cheating what are you gonna do bout it.... i dont think any bae wants to end up with a guy with too many wrong attributes, too much ego problem.





so there are so many guys
not just enough properly trained men
so op is right.... good hubby is scarce

First of all everybody wants the best for themselves, males and females that's why men look for beautiful, well spoken, educated, polite, good cook types of wives. They even look for women with well paying jobs these days rather than marry a woman still in school then training her so that's just the way life is, the men only settle for women with less than these qualities when they have searched hard and failed to find the type they want. Same goes for women.


Secondly, women have wisened up o, they are not naive again like before. They know that men will almost definitely start neglecting them when they get rich and start chasing small younger more attractive girls with the same money the wives supported them to make so they don't bother struggling with the men these days. Better to just marry a ready made man and console yourself with his money if he cheats, which he is very very likely to do because Nigerian men get away with cheating so easily.

Nobody be mumu. I cannot come and go and be building your wealth for you only for you to splash it on one useless hoe somewhere.

so true@fellis.
no woman is ready to settle for less and at the longrun,he will marry another woman and av strings of concubines..who wan be jacky