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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Btruth: 7:42am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Eeyah! So sorry for the way she treated you. I'm pleading on her behalf. But, ..... Would you remember when things started going sour between the 2 of you? You never mention if you guys have a child yet or not? As a man, you need to know the root of the uprising in the home. Thank God, it's not as if your wife was having an affair, but there must be something deep eating her up that you need to find out. If she hasn't have a child yet, that could be a serious factor in her aggressiveness. And if she did have a child, then something is seriously wrong somewhere that you need to find out diligently. Please sir, don't send her back because she spat on you. I knew she had done very very wrong, but you see sometimes, anger could make the meek go gaga. But cutting the head will never solve the problem of headache. So, please take it very easy and learn to overlook her action. The strength of a wise and intelligent man is measure at this particular situation and time. I will advice you not to listen to most of the advice of sending her back or beaten her up. If you reject your wife or send her back, it could be the beginning of unhappiness in your life (especially that you've confessed that you love her very much), and it will make you loose focus in other things in life. And besides, what's the guarantee that you will find love in the next lady. I know you are angry now, but please try and calm down. You could just be silent towards her for sometime, and that will let her be remote. Then, use your love to bring senses back to her head. Happy Salah! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by mizlovette(f): 7:42am On Sep 13, 2016 |
I respect u, for d fact that u walked away without hitting her ur man. Am a lady and must confess that where am from women are taught to respect and pamper their men, how can a woman u married with ur money call u names and then spit on u? Oh dear send her home else she makes u do things u never imagined. Let her go home while u have ur peace of mind to concentrate on ur work else u loose ur job too. Let her go first then u can figure out if u still want her or not cos believe me that lady no longer loves u |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by cyrilamx(m): 7:45am On Sep 13, 2016 |
It really amazing how someone's post can turn an arena where matured nairalanders throw punches at one another. The young man sought for advice, we use it as opportunity to unleash our pent up anger against ourselves. Everyone seems to be right. Walking away can b the best in some situation, beating up the erring woman can reset her brain as some women need this to reason like humans as some have advocated. Op, you hv to study your wife to ascertain which of these treatments will make her to be remorseful. It not easy to deal with misbehaving wives. Most guys support the physical but extreme treatment while the ladies want the emotional treatment: walking away, calling her and giving her a piece of your mind. It true that women are difficult to study, but with the wave of extreme feminism spreading, and especially in foreign lands, where women are pampered to stupidity, some ladies/wives are curse onto men. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by freshvine(f): 7:45am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Op, she's domineering and already had you on lock down. She is aware you love and can't do shit. She'll do even more and expect you to apologize to her... That's the much power she now controls. SOLUTION : Stop treating her too nice. Become a whacko of some sort but never beat her cos if she's a feminist she might be pushed to drive a knife into your neck at your vulnerable state. See her as thrash and argue against her views. Stop talking to her too often and wear long face always in a a few months time if she don't come begging suing for peace, please divorce her. She'll make your life a living hell if you fail to control her and be in charge |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by misscall247: 7:48am On Sep 13, 2016 |
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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Fourwinds: 7:51am On Sep 13, 2016 |
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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by BumbleBee2ice(f): 7:51am On Sep 13, 2016 |
I feel all ur wife needed from u was jst ur undivided attention, pls try givin her dat for jst a week nd see where dat leads. As for her spitting on u i dnt tink dats any sign of her hating u bt i take it to be an impulsive act triggered by u turning a blind eye to her 'come on' advances (4 her to start hiding tins in her privates indicates alot) nd dat also pushed out those vile utterances as dat wasn't d reaction she was expecting, bcs u neva stated in ur write up dat she has eva uttered such @ u b4 nor spat @ u. N.B Pls try igniting dat spark in ur marriage again nd pls work nd ur gaming addiction too, sending her back isn't d best bro 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Chinaka2014(m): 7:52am On Sep 13, 2016 |
A Woman hiding a remote under her pant has Spelled to you what She needed. you Seems not to be romantic. women Can go extreme when they need sex however you mentioned that she left you sometime for another man 2X her age all this are sign that you are not doing your job.Try hitting her up and you will See her apologising for spatting on your face.Good luck 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Liferace: 7:53am On Sep 13, 2016 |
OP, I pray you get to read my response as I will be talking from 1)I have lived in that region before and 2)I have been married for more than 5 years. When we got married,I resigned my job(working in a bank) and followed my husband to one of the gulf countries..Number one thing I quickly notice was my inability to express myself,I could not got out as I want,I'll need my husband every time, no friends arround and to cap it I don't have a job!.My husband on the other hand,goes to work,come back tired and all he wants is to eat and play some games(he sees it as a way to relax) .Well,I kept quiet for some time,but I could not do it for long,then I became hostile,aggressive.. Any little thing gets on my nerve..At a point I hated my husband so much because I thought he knew what he got me into and yet he couldn't console me..So,I said to myself just get pregnant and forget about him..I couldn't get pregnant on time,problem compounded!. Op,I said all just so you can get the picture.. My solution,find out what exactly is making her angry..I know that region could be very boring..She might need to be coming home as often as you can afford..Give her more attention(heavens knows she needs it now more than ever!). Your woman might sure have her issues,but I bet its compounded with circumstances around her..And lastly,are you guys trying for babies,if yes,you need to let her know you are in this together... And do not forget to pray for your marriage. Wish you all the best!. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:53am On Sep 13, 2016 |
vecman22: What I meant by that is if it was a reasonable investment you contacted me about, not betting |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by unmask: 7:54am On Sep 13, 2016 |
sllay:if it sounds gay then it's gay...you have to say "no homo" |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by yeyelaafin: 7:55am On Sep 13, 2016 |
thank you for holding your temper,but I will still beg you to give a second chance.it does not decrease your ego but it will be on your conscience that you tried your best, good luck brother. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Midecuc(m): 7:56am On Sep 13, 2016 |
nameerfhtennek:, I believe you have been accommodating too much from her in the past. Please think and rethink, don't get lost all in the name of Love, what if she doesn't love you the way you do? This world is very big that you can always find all what you need and comfort you if you search well with sense. You can only enjoy life if you married a woman that love you. Don't frustrate yourself by attaching too much love to a woman ,you are in Saudi not in Nigeria, over there a woman can put you into serious mess, you only love her don't forget a woman can pretend to love you when they don't, maybe just to have a partner. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Liferace: 7:57am On Sep 13, 2016 |
OP, I pray you get to read my response as I will be talking from 1)I have lived in that region before and 2)I have been married for more than 5 years. When we got married,I resigned my job(working in a bank) and followed my husband to one of the gulf countries..Number one thing I quickly notice was my inability to express myself,I could not got out as I wanted,I'll need my husband every time, no friends arround and to cap it I don't have a job!.My husband on the other hand,goes to work,comes back tired and all he wants is to eat and play some games(he sees it as a way to relax) .Well,I kept quiet for some time,but I could not do it for long,then I became hostile,aggressive.. Any little thing gets on my nerve..At a point I hated my husband so much because I thought he knew what he got me into and yet he couldn't console me..So,I said to myself just get pregnant and forget about him(what a solution!)..I couldn't get pregnant on time,problem compounded!.And I am usually a very calm person. Op,I said all just so you can get the picture.. My solution,find out what exactly is making her angry..I know that region could be very boring..She might need to be coming home (Nigeria)as often as you can afford..Give her more attention(heavens knows she needs it now more than ever!). Your woman might sure have her issues,but I bet its compounded with circumstances around her..And lastly,are you guys trying for babies,?if yes,you need to let her know you are in this together... And do not forget to pray for your marriage. Wish you all the best!. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Sunglow: 7:57am On Sep 13, 2016 |
SirWere:No you don't. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Prince16: 7:57am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by unmask: 7:58am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Op the only problem is that your wife doesn't like you playing FIFA....in fact she hates it Bros in addition to all other qualities a woman should possess for marriage....she must like video games...it is an essential 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by millhouse: 7:58am On Sep 13, 2016 |
all ya ladies just shouting forgive forgive, that kinda woman can send a man to an early grave. Guy know your limits and what you can take oo.. Give a woman a meter and she will take a mile. I bet you today she spat abi.. Forgive na... Tomorrow it will be hot pepper water she will pour on you. A word is enuf for the wise. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by cyrilamx(m): 7:59am On Sep 13, 2016 |
It really shows you matured, well-cultured African lady. As you pointed out that you from a place where ladies' respect for men is paramount, I can see you have really imbibed this trait. To be candid, you can keep a home with such attitude. I concur with you to some extent, that the man should send her home. Wouldn't that be another extreme? Out of frying pan to fire? Remember the Op said when he first travelled to Saudi while they were still courting, this lady now his wife started going out with a man twice her age. Don't you think she can still do this while back in Nigeria? For me the man should seek for best way to handle this to forestall another reoccurrence or misbehaviour of part of his wife, since he claimed he so much love his wife. mizlovette: |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by rahdadaruyahoocom(m): 7:59am On Sep 13, 2016 |
u dont have to return her to naija. what u need is communication. go talk to ur wife man. and continue been patient... u'll definitely conquer. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by timunstopable: 8:01am On Sep 13, 2016 |
There are two sides to a story. .A woman wont just be acting up like this for no reason. Op you didn't do something before now she is still holding on to |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by tivta(m): 8:02am On Sep 13, 2016 |
onatisi: Nice, kindly input on the this thread https://www.nairaland.com/3343908/benefits-marriage-men |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by laidthrice(m): 8:03am On Sep 13, 2016 |
nameerfhtennek I had to qoute you cos I want you to get this, it's true what she did is intolerable, but I have to say you were wrong from a particular point of view, pls Google the 90/10 principle, it would have helped as you already knew she was gearing for battle. You would have just answered her from the start. The issue was ur preparation for marriage, not her being bad or you being good. We all have our flaws and love is not always enough to help us accept this flaws in our spouses. My advice to you is get her and urself books to read as this will take you from ur present level to another, m recommended books are: attitude is everything, five love languages, things I wish I knew before I got married. Thank me later |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by decub: 8:05am On Sep 13, 2016 |
nameerfhtennek:I love one thing u did; keeping cool. I think you know this lady more than any other person, having been with her back then in school, off school and off the country so u can explain HER better. I don't know what may have been going on before the recent incident but if I can read her, she easily jumps into conclusion, just like an average woman. The moment you kept calm immediately she asked of the router sent a signal to her; he doesn't wanna give me. And you know, a lot of women always feel cheated. Of course hers has expired, you've not renewed and yet, you wanna deny her online presence. Hiding the console/remote was her own best way to make you feel same way she felt and just like a typical woman, retaliate. I don't know if I'm wrong but I think she loves you too. Just look for the best of time, sit her down, remind her of old times and how far you've come, tell her you don't wanna fight again and reassure your love to her. I believe it will be rekindled. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Sunglow: 8:06am On Sep 13, 2016 |
femlex:Precisely! For her to hide the remote in her panties, is an indication of attention. @Op, its time you sit her down and talk, real talk, no FIFA no games. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by sllay(m): 8:07am On Sep 13, 2016 |
SirWere: Dyslexic beaver! It's "intensely", not "intesely". You need psychiatric evaluation for standing up for a brute who advocates violence against women. May all the females in your lineage date and marry guys like him so they'd be brutalized. I hope you'd stand up for those men too 'cause if you don't you're the world's biggest hypocrite. SirWere - Knight of the order of mad men. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by obeuno(m): 8:08am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Its unfortunate, however , do not let her know whatever plans you have, .I.e plans of sending her home. let it be a surprise. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by gregor1: 8:09am On Sep 13, 2016 |
U need to find out why your wife's character suddenly changed.. it could be something small that u think doesn't matter. Husband and wife affairs are better handle on the bed. |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by AngelAhnie(f): 8:09am On Sep 13, 2016 |
sllay:You no get work. You are TSOM and so? Are you the owner of Nairaland? Go get a life and quit all this nonsense |
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by greatermax77(m): 8:10am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Brother, I read through your story. I commend u for not beating her up, Marriage is not for kids, so do not take action base on advices u got from this forum because, many that klick likes in suport of sending her back may be students/ young guys who view marriage like ordinary relationship. Something has gone wronge in the union, find out what it is & ur marriage will fall into place. calm down, try and talk to her & see if she will not regret her action. women are like computer, what u cabage in them, they will cabage out to u. The power to resolve the issue lies on u. |
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