Marvel1206:


amen


but on a serious note... She said she is in italy, aren't you concerned about how she got there?

She told me she paid for it. That she used air. Moreso she has friends who are there. My concern now is to know where the baby is.just as u said how funny I am now to be tied to a baby I once asked her to abort. The truth is, I have invested my all saving on that baby. so, it's natural I became fond of the baby.
Some said she can't take the baby long and people told me the baby is in Benin probably with her sister or close family friends but she has repeatedly told me since on Friday that she took the baby long.

mickool:

She told me she paid for it. That she used air. Moreso she has friends who are there. My concern now is to know where the baby is.just as u said how funny I am now to be tied to a baby I once asked her to abort. The truth is, I have invested my all saving on that baby. so, it's natural I became fond of the baby.
Some said she can't take the baby long and people told me the baby is in Benin probably with her sister or close family friends but she has repeatedly told me since on Friday that she took the baby long.

Do you love the girl?
Can you marry her?

Marvel1206:


Do you love the girl?
Can you marry her?

Love her, no
Marry her, no
Why? Bcoz she is rude, boastful,love living a fake and wasteful life and not ready to be educated.

mickool:

Love her, no
Marry her, no
Why? Bcoz she is rude, boastful,love living a fake and wasteful life and not ready to be educated.

she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantage... You have to think of a way to get her back to nigeria even if you have to lie that you'll marry her.. Then when she returns, act! She's probably being influenced by her friends..

But wait, you have to be damn sure the baby is with her cos i don't buy the excuse that she only sees her every two days..

TAKE YOUR TIME TO PLAN

ChemicalReaction:
OP, where are you? Let the part two be 'THE RETURN OF THE PRODIGAL FATHER'.

I don't know if you can go to her village and take it up with the elders there. I don't think they will allow her travel to Italy with the baby, especially as she will still be owing them money for her trip and has to work it off. So carry your family and trace her people in Delta and ask for your child. If all else fails, leave it to God. Girl that wants to misplace must misplace. Benin and this wahala eh!
And OP, you have k-leg. If you had been faithful to your gf, none of this would have happened.

Dem dey carry pikin go do OKPO work??
The baby is certainly around. Inasmuch as its hard, just forget about this girl. Stop d chatting with her. Tell her when u see d baby, then u can continue ur chat with her.
Guy u must do that DNA o. compulsory

Marvel1206:


she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantage... You have to think of a way to get her back to nigeria even if you have to lie that you'll marry her.. Then when she returns, act! She's probably being influenced by her friends..

But wait, you have to be damn sure the baby is with her cos i don't buy the excuse that she only sees her every two days..

TAKE YOUR TIME TO PLAN

"she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantage ". U r very correct. Because each time I asked of the baby, she get pissed up."Na only mimi u always dey buy things and care for or first asked of. What about the mama? Abi the mama no be person? Or mimi fall from heaven"?. She quarrelled.. Initially, when she brought the idea of traveling she told me she will give me the baby. Suddenly, she just changed.
Am told that I can collect the baby from her since am not married to her. And she has been boasting that she will change the baby name to her father's name. I don't really know the legal implications of it. I intend discussing with a lawyer friend who is my customer and he knows the baby but not aware of the circumstance.
Thank u so much for the advises.

Marvel1206:


she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantage... You have to think of a way to get her back to nigeria even if you have to lie that you'll marry her.. Then when she returns, act! She's probably being influenced by her friends..

But wait, you have to be damn sure the baby is with her cos i don't buy the excuse that she only sees her every two days..

TAKE YOUR TIME TO PLAN

"she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantavge ". U r very correct. Because each time I asked after the baby, she get pissed up."Na only mimi u always dey buy things and care for or first asked of. What about the mama? Abi the mama no be person? Or mimi fall from heaven"?. She quarrelled.. Initially, when she brought the idea of traveling she told me she will give me the baby. Suddenly, she just changed.
Am told that I can't collect the baby from her since am not married to her. And she has been boasting that she will change the baby name to her father's name. I don't really know the legal implications of it. I intend discussing with a lawyer friend who is my customer and he knows the baby but not aware of the circumstances
Thank u so much for the advises.

[quote author=Onegai post=49345860]I don't know if you can go to her village and take it up with the elders there. I don't think they will allow her travel to Italy with the baby, especially as she will still be owing them money for her trip and has to work it off. So carry your family and trace her people in Delta and ask for your child. If all else fails, leave it to God. Girl that wants to misplace must misplace. Benin and this wahala eh!
And OP, you have k-leg. If you had been faithful to your gf, none of this would have happened.[/qu
Hmmmm..they hardly go to they village.they have been living Benin for a very long time. She lost her father when she was a kid.am told when they father died, the family neglected them. That is why they don't go home. And her mum, hmmmm.. She is something else. Troublesome woman. She seems to be in support of her travelling.
All faults are mine.i don't really know what happened to me oooo... I was not faithful. I really regret my actions now. Thanks for the wonderful advises.

thelish:
Dem dey carry pikin go do OKPO work??
The baby is certainly around. Inasmuch as its hard, just forget about this girl. Stop d chatting with her. Tell her when u see d baby, then u can continue ur chat with her.
Guy u must do that DNA o. compulsory

OK thank u

ChemicalReaction:
OP, where are you? Let the part two be 'THE RETURN OF THE PRODIGAL FATHER'.

When I saw this, I was almost giving up in continuing the write up. Don't worry, the conclusion parts will be. "The returned of the prodigal baby mother ".thanks
The likes of FameG, world richest, never quit, and marvel 1206, ur advises and comments were really helpful. Thanks

mickool:

"she noticed the love you have for your daughter and quickly used it to her advantavge ". U r very correct. Because each time I asked after the baby, she get pissed up."Na only mimi u always dey buy things and care for or first asked of. What about the mama? Abi the mama no be person? Or mimi fall from heaven"?. She quarrelled.. Initially, when she brought the idea of traveling she told me she will give me the baby. Suddenly, she just changed.
Am told that I can't collect the baby from her since am not married to her. And she has been boasting that she will change the baby name to her father's name. I don't really know the legal implications of it. I intend discussing with a lawyer friend who is my customer and he knows the baby but not aware of the circumstances
Thank u so much for the advises.

you're welcome bro.. Humans are prone to mistakes so what has happened has happened.. You have to face the reality now..

Like i said, find a way to get her back here.. Consult that your lawyer friend, and weigh your chances of winning or loosing the case

please keep us updated sir as time goes on...

Marvel1206:


you're welcome bro.. Humans are prone to mistakes so what has happened has happened.. You have to face the reality now..

Like i said, find a way to get her back here.. Consult that your lawyer friend, and weigh your chances of winning or loosing the case

please keep us updated sir as time goes on...

OK.I will. Thanks

After reading your story I felt for you. I want to say somethings
If the telephone numbers she called you with doesn't start with +39 or 0039 then she is not in Italy

Secondly they don't separate children from there mother in camp rather they attend to them faster by providing temporary accommodation until there application is finalize

Is either the baby is in Nigeria or the worst may have happened

Which city or camp is she in italy

You sound like you are a really nice guy and someone is just taking advantage of that, I'm sure your baby is in Nigeria and her mom knows more than she's telling you. Wait till Thursday, see if she'll really send the pictures. Don't promise her marriage and make her come back; if you give her that kind of hope and she falls for it, you may not like the way everything will turn out.

I believe your baby is still in Nigeria, Sir. The thread is really informative as I find myself in a similar dilemma, though she is my gf and we have a son. We lived together for a time before militants conflict in ikorodu created a separation and she has to go back home to her parents. Now, the mother who is also from somewhere in Delta said I must come and pay her bride price before she comes back home. Although I have plans of such I can't afford it at the moment. What runs through my mind now is whether to move on with my life and forget about baby and mama (while sending some form of child support) or persevere (single parenting is tough on both child and mother).

mrsmith11:
After reading your story I felt for you. I want to say somethings
If the telephone numbers she called you with doesn't start with +39 or 0039 then she is not in Italy

Secondly they don't separate children from there mother in camp rather they attend to them faster by providing temporary accommodation until there application is finalize

Is either the baby is in Nigeria or the worst may have happened

Which city or camp is she in italy

The phone numbers which called me started with +2891------ and +28944----- do u have an idea which country numbers?
I will find out the camp or city she claimed they are when we chatted or call.
Thank u

southernbelle:
You sound like you are a really nice guy and someone is just taking advantage of that, I'm sure your baby is in Nigeria and her mom knows more than she's telling you. Wait till Thursday, see if she'll really send the pictures. Don't promise her marriage and make her come back; if you give her that kind of hope and she falls for it, you may not like the way everything will turn out.

Hmmmm.... OK. Thanks for the advises

Quincyolarks:
I believe your baby is still in Nigeria, Sir. The thread is really informative as I find myself in a similar dilemma, though she is my gf and we have a son. We lived together for a time before militants conflict in ikorodu created a separation and she has to go back home to her parents. Now, the mother who is also from somewhere in Delta said I must come and pay her bride price before she comes back home. Although I have plans of such I can't afford it at the moment. What runs through my mind now is whether to move on with my life and forget about baby and mama (while sending some form of child support) or persevere (single parenting is tough on both child and mother).

Wow!!!

ifyalways:
I just hope she has not sold the baby to facilitate her travel plans

abi. This one they are talking about camp and all sorts of shady. Sounds like one of those kinds of trips.

It's the baby I pity in all of this. Poor child is going to face an unstable life because of the parents' immaturity. Especially the mom's.

mickool:

The phone numbers which called me started with +2891------ and +28944----- do u have an idea which country numbers?
I will find out the camp or city she claimed they are when we chatted or call.
Thank u

Go to
https://countrycode.org/


i can't find the +289 there.. Maybe you can check through

mickool:

The phone numbers which called me started with +2891------ and +28944----- do u have an idea which country numbers?
I will find out the camp or city she claimed they are when we chatted or call.
Thank u

The code is not Italian code. I think is one those scam number they buy online to avoid ones exact location or for fraudulent activities

She is either in Nigeria or Libya using this number but not in Europe

mickool:

When I saw this, I was almost giving up in continuing the write up. Don't worry, the conclusion parts will be. "The returned of the prodigal baby mother ".thanks
The likes of FameG, world richest, never quit, and marvel 1206, ur advises and comments were really helpful. Thanks

For what it's worth, I'm glued to ur write up.

checkengine:

My runaway hubby! Whr've you been?! Trust you've found your significant other..

Quincyolarks:
I believe your baby is still in Nigeria, Sir. The thread is really informative as I find myself in a similar dilemma, though she is my gf and we have a son. We lived together for a time before militants conflict in ikorodu created a separation and she has to go back home to her parents. Now, the mother who is also from somewhere in Delta said I must come and pay her bride price before she comes back home. Although I have plans of such I can't afford it at the moment. What runs through my mind now is whether to move on with my life and forget about baby and mama (while sending some form of child support) or persevere (single parenting is tough on both child and mother).

Do you want to marry her? If you do, go and pay her bride price, it is not necessary to do a lavish ceremony. Explain to her parents, all you need so do is bring the bride price and pay for her people. Ask them if they prefer to keep their daughter in their home as a single mother waiting for a lavish ceremony or will they prefer their daughter be made a wife in a quiet manner. But this one that your mind has already gone to moving on with your life without making an effort, so easily, na wa for our young men...

Onegai:


Do you want to marry her? If you do, go and pay her bride price, it is not necessary to do a lavish ceremony. Explain to her parents, all you need so do is bring the bride price and pay for her people. Ask them if they prefer to keep their daughter in their home as a single mother waiting for a lavish ceremony or will they prefer their daughter be made a wife in a quiet manner. But this one that your mind has already gone to moving on with your life without making an effort, so easily, na wa for our young men...

I'm actually making an effort Ma, thanks for your advice I'll work on it.

Quincyolarks:

I'm actually making an effort Ma, thanks for your advice I'll work on it.

Don't blame her mother, if my daughter had a baby with a guy and they were living together with no seeming sign of commitment, I'd do the same in her shoes. At least let us know where he stands so she can make plans for her life with or without him. Speak to them, get a few family members and pay the bride price and carry small money for the family and take some drinks. Take her to Registry afterwards. If you can afford upkeep, then there is enough to wed her. If you don't want to wed her, let her know. Saves both of you stress and bitter fights in the long run.

Onegai:


Don't blame her mother, if my daughter had a baby with a guy and they were living together with no seeming sign of commitment, I'd do the same in her shoes. At least let us know where he stands so she can make plans for her life with or without him. Speak to them, get a few family members and pay the bride price and carry small money for the family and take some drinks. Take her to Registry afterwards. If you can afford upkeep, then there is enough to wed her. If you don't want to wed her, let her know. Saves both of you stress and bitter fights in the long run.

You are heaven sent Ma'am, You've just opened my eyes. I really appreciate.

Onegai:

Sent.

mrsmith11:


The code is not Italian code. I think is one those scam number they buy online to avoid ones exact location or for fraudulent activities

She is either in Nigeria or Libya using this number but not in Europe

Really? Hmmmm... Thank u so much for the info.
I will keep u guys updated about the happenings.

ChemicalReaction:
For what it's worth, I'm glued to ur write up.

Thanks. Despite the tapo. errors here and there.