My friend (a married man) had a fight with his wife simply because he (the husband) refused to pay the school fees of the wife's siblings. This happened some months ago but i just wan know if its also the responsibility of the man to take care of his spouses' FAMILY,
He confided in me but unknown to him, his wife already told me about it long before he told me, *chuckles*

Which sibling's dirty school fees thats not his duty, Tell him to tell his wife ,that he's not goin to pay jack!!Let her pack her load and go jor!! btw, why cant she pay the fees??

^^ and i guess the man is a playah just like u based in lagos cityyyyyy

His responsibility should be his wife and kids if he has any. It isn't his responsibility to take care of his wife's siblings school fees. If he does it would be a gift. But the children have parents, that is their responsibility. Not her husband's.

If he has the money to do it why not ? If he doesnt then thats a whole other issue.

if he has the money he can pay their school fees.

If he doesnt, then he shouldnt.

yeah he has the money, the guy is rich, i mean really rich but i think there is something i am not being told,
maybe he already had a fight with his wife and decided to show his anger by not assisting her familia, idk

playah P:

yeah he has the money, the guy is rich, i mean really rich but i think there is something i am not being told,
maybe he already had a fight with his wife and decided to show his anger by not assisting her familia, idk

Most likely the case

blah, d/k

I think we are talking about reponsibility here; is it or is it not, I think it is not. We should stop talking about if he has money or not. If he has the money and he feels he should then he can, but it is not his responsibility.

it's bad if d man have money and refused 2 take care  of his children because of conflicts.(IF HE REALLY CARES,HE WILL TAKE CARE OF D PROBLEM)
fights r inevitable in a relationship,but it's not justifiable 4 punishing d children. . .it could lead 2  long- term psychological damage 2 their children. . .to protect d children, couples should accept that conflict is normal but avoid hostility when they argued or fight.

playah P:

yeah he has the money, the guy is rich, i mean really rich but i think there is something i am not being told,
maybe he already had a fight with his wife and decided to show his anger by not assisting her familia, idk

I'm sure thats it.

millionaire or not,he should pay 4 d damn school fees at least. . .e dey take style run away from his responsibilities.
if d marriage don tire him,let him be a man and flog d issue. . .d guy sound like pusssy.he's not even matured or fit 2 be call a father.stupid man. . .d guy no dey think well well.

no1madman:

it's bad if d man have money and refused 2 take care  of his children because of conflicts.(IF HE REALLY CARES,HE WILL TAKE CARE OF D PROBLEM)
fights r inevitable in a relationship,but it's not justifiable 4 punishing d children. . .it could lead 2  long- term psychological damage 2 their children. . .to protect d children, couples should accept that conflict is normal but avoid hostility when they argued or fight.

Are u sure u read and understand the topic? We are talking abt his  wife's siblings not the man's children.

boy1:

millionaire or not,he should pay 4 d damn school fees at least. . .e dey take style run away from his responsibilities.
if d marriage don tire him,let him be a man and flog d issue. . .d guy sound like pusssy.he's not even matured or fit 2 be call a father.stupid man. . .d guy no dey think well well.

Off topic, its not his children we are talking abt here, we are talking abt wife's siblings. His responsibilities?

@Op,

If him wants to help fine but it shouldn't be forced on him.

Which bloody responsibility? He is under no obligation to take care/provide financially for his wife's siblings. That he has the money to do so is not the issue. The fact is,it's not his responsibility. Of course if,he chooses to do so,no probs,but it's not his responsibility,shikena! As for the woman,i feel sorry for her. This kind of thing destroys marriages. Even if she wants to take it up with her husband,fighting with him is not the way to go about it.

Are the parents of these children dead? If yes, ís the wife the eldest among them.
This ís wat deters most men frm marriage. First u are given a long list 4 introduction, then a 60 leaf note book filled up 4 marriage plus brideprice afta all this u're stil xpected to take kia of her family. No wonda our men get wrinkles quik? And d woman might just b sittin at home all this while.

Typical nigerian women and their nonsense. If the guy didnt pay his own siblings fees would she quarrel with him? Thats why i can never have any of my wife's relatives stay with us

playah P:

My friend (a married man) had a fight with his wife simply because he (the husband) refused to pay the school fees of the wife's siblings. This happened some months ago but i just wan know if its also the responsibility of the man to take care of his spouses' FAMILY,
He confided in me but unknown to him, his wife already told me about it long before he told me, *chuckles*

Well if she is working why doesnt she just pay for her sibling?I mean the man should have to worry about paying his bills and his inlaw bills as well. But you said the guy is rich, i guess he is selfish or a little egotistical. If he loves his wife he should do it to please her. I mean how would it look if you have a mansion and your inlaw is unemployed on the streets because he/she has no money to pay their school fees. have a heart people.

if he is capable therez nathing wrong at all, let him do it if he can buh if otherwise the wife shuld understand

justwise:

Are u sure u read and understand the topic? We are talking abt his wife's siblings not the man's children.

wife's siblings as in step-siblings--does it really matter. . .as long as they r still dependent,it'll be wise if d man take care of them--he should love them as much as he loves his own.

the parents of the wife are not dead but quite old.
I personally don't think is the responsibility of the man to take care of the wife's sibling though

How old r d siblings?

Plain and simple, its not his responsibility.

He can choose to do so, but its not by force.

His wife should behave herself and stop making it look like thats what her marriage was all about in the first place. . . No husband is a cash-cow, does he not have a mother and siblings to also take care of?

Tufiakwa!

the youngest of the siblings is bout 12-15 *not sure*

I say this is not a question of responsibility but one of ability. Can the man afford it? If he can and he is willing let he do it. There is no legal obligation only a moral one.

well taking care of his wife's siblings may disrupt the plans he has constructed for the future, another thing is may be he is nat capable at the moment, shes meant to plead with him nat fight !

Never will i take that from my wife ,y should it be my responsibility ?

Rooneyboy:

Never will i take that from my wife ,y should it be my responsibility ?

truly it is not buh its ok to help others for the sake of future

Yes, it's his responsibility to feed his wife's entire village as well. Nonsense.

HIO4:

Yes, it's his responsibility to feed his wife's entire village as well. Nonsense.

haba that's absurd