UjSizzle:
Thank you, Yazz

ireneony:
I doubt if there's anyone in a relationship without having sex.
i have never met a guy that doesn't want sex in a relationship.

This happened one time..a guy asked me out and i told him i only do relationships without sex.
he was very blunt. .he said" for this town ..for Nigeria. .this kind tin still de happen"
here i was thinking he's the kind of person that does believe in a "without sex relationships" because of his innocent face.

The only time i see or hear WTHOUT SEX RELATIONSHIP is online stories and how ladies turned down men that practice without relationship, I'm like wowwww. Sometimes I'm like how come i don't see this kind of men.

This brings me to my question, how many of you are strictly in a relationship without sex, and how do you cope with the temptations?


Share your experience! !!

Whomiblac:



How do u knw ur life partner when you av nt stayed 2gethr to c how his lifestyle is? U say its working out bcus its distance! 6yrs, u dnt c eachothr dat much, and u say u 'believe'. My sister, no offence, u are decieving urself big time...

kaeforum:
I know this chick at my business place , she asked me to give her a lift and we chat, anytime I close from biz, she always shows up to ask for a lift, its gotten to the extent that she has monopolized my front passenger seat, we talk and that's it. No sex.

i am not interested in sleeping with her neither is she, we just enjoy our talk.

Relationships don't always have to be about sex, we just want someone to talk to and relate to.

Style007:
lol. after reading all the comments I couldn't help but laugh. YES, it is very possible. I have been in a no sex relationship with bae or 5 years now and we are both in university '300 level'. though it is not easy but i believe the stress worth it. I just have great respect for bae, she is very very close to perfect. we both started at young age though. if am to get married today I wouldn't think twice to marry her. yes, she is very very beautiful. I mean very pretty to the core with banging body *smiles*. though I don't tell people we are in no sex relationship because of the bad advice I know I will receive from them. she is classy, yes and she do not ask for any material thing. all the gift I have given her so far are just out of my own will.

And don't tell me 'another guy out there will be giving it to her daily' cos I will never take it. bae can do whatever I ask her to do without thinking twice, I mean anything. she do tell me how her friends are telling her how I can be getting 'it' from another lady that she should not trust me bla bla bla. i just laughed it off cos I know its normal thing for them to say..

And don't tell me I will later regret if we break up cos I don't think I will. I see it that am not doing it only for her but for myself also . yes for myself.. am not too religious but I have choice and I know what I want...

lol. a lot of people that knows me won't ever believe this because as am trendy,good looking, yes stylish, athletic shape, have a lot of friends around me... lol. is not a boast because is just the truth. ehn don't go checking my nairaland profile cos that pic there is an old pic when I was still seeking for admission..

And don't think that am not a man or impotent cos I know my thing can make your girlfriend leave you forever...hehehhehe yes it's B.I.G lol

And lastly it is just my decision and she is just the perfect type of girl that I want hence me been faithing and not doing the fu..cking.

I know she receives A LOT of advances from dem boys but i know she manage them well, so am not bothered. she is free to do almost everything she wants but to an extent
I love her very much and also proud of her and as she reciprocate makes it a wonderful thing for me....

LASTLY. am not weak because if I want it from her today she can NEVER say no to me. besides I have great confident in myself. yes I have pride,ego,things that my mates dont have, swag that people admire.name it. and above all I can get any woman of my dream if I want to .. but that's now what I want for now

And 'NO TELL ME MAKE I GO CARRY CUP' because its not your business

And 'don't ask ask me why I sharing it then' because the ireneony ask me

above all it is not easy but with determination even a 'DOG' can do it

runs to tell bae to follow this topic and appreciate me

AdexOmoby:



We are both waiting...we have been waiting for 7 years now. Hahahahha, strange right? I know right! Its what we both decided to do from the onset. Before I started a relationship with him, I desired a man who would exercise self control on himself as well and not think it is only a woman's duty to keep herself...it is one of the major reasons why I decided to give my consent to start a relationship with him because I found out that we are on the same sexual wavelength. It makes a whole lot of things easy. For instance, we are able to keep check of eachother. We are open with eachother and we remain accountable to eachother.

We understand that this is against the norm. We know this. We are not seeking to please anyone but ourselves and God. Doing things against the norm is something we made up our minds to do from the very beginning. The world thinks it silly to reserve your body for Marriage, we think it is actually the best thing. One, we are not bothered about the chances of getting pregnant. Two, we are not traumatized by the choice of having to commit abortion and or raise a child when we are not financially nor emotionally ready to raise one. Three, it helps us to focus and concentrate on our careers. Four, it builds trust within both of us. Neither of us is concerned about the possibility of sleeping with another partner when one partner is away o long distance or not...and trust me, we have both had causes to be far away in our relationships. At several points, we have both worked and schooled abroad, with one of us left in Nigeria. For instance, while I was schooling in England, He was in Nigeria...while he was schooling in Ghana, I was in Nigeria. This long distance has helped reinforce trust in our relationship because we know the fundamental values that define both of us.

Dont get me right, we do both have sexual urges. Me I do o! Hahahhaha, I feel them down there. Beneath. I hardly used to feel them when I was much younger, but 7 years down the line says a different story...However, the good news is that our sexual urges are under control and with both of us on the same wavelegth, it really helps us. We remain accountable to eachother. We are open about our struggles and urges with eachother. We verbalize our feelings rather than hide or act on them. We say things like... 'oh I do feel like kissing you now o, you know, lol!

We know that this may sound strange or unbelievable to somehow read this. It is alright. We understand your fears and doubts. Like I mentioned earlier, we are committed to going against the norm in our relationship. The world says its okay to taste the puddy, we say, we can actually wait to taste it...when we will feel no guilt, no shame, nothing! Just absolute joy for waiting for the right moment and time! The world says it is not possible to court for 7 years and not have any kind of sexual relations. Well, it is possible, that is because I am one. We are one!

I really cant wait to get married. Dont get me wrong, Sex is not the major reason why i want to get married, but it is something we both look forward to. Ha! 7 years no easy o! We suppose get award sef, lol! We should be married in few months...and I cant wait jooh.

Should you be reading this and you are on the verge of losing yours to a manipulative partner, society's pressure or for some other reason, I want you to know that you are not alone. Please dont. Keep your body. Keep your body because it is the right thing to do. Keep your body because it prevents you from unnecessary stress and headaches. You are not going to be bothered about abortion, the mathematical headaches of calculating your safe periods and you have a very clear head to pursue your dreams. You are not going to be bothered about fathering a child when you are not ready for such. I must tell you that raising a child when you are not ready brings more stress than joy and the trauma of abortion leaves you with lots of guilt. Dont you think that abstinence is indeed the best afterall?

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lahit14:
@op, thr's no doubt u'll certainly find people in that kind of relationship but its been abused as it is misapplied, people now hide behind it to coverup a lot, from impotency to lack of sexual urge and many other sexual incapabilities, even to hiding some kind of diseases. personal as being a christian, I'm certainly not for sex be4 marriage but neither do I disagree wit those that indulge. I tink if one wants to go into such, one should pray and ask God for the right person so that one won't regret ones actions. button line, every1 should get to choose especially when it comes to some tin like marriage.

lahit14:
@op, thr's no doubt u'll certainly find people in that kind of relationship but its been abused as it is misapplied, people now hide behind it to coverup a lot, from impotency to lack of sexual urge and many other sexual incapabilities, even to hiding some kind of diseases. personal as being a christian, I'm certainly not for sex be4 marriage but neither do I disagree wit those that indulge. I tink if one wants to go into such, one should pray and ask God for the right person so that one won't regret ones actions. button line, every1 should get to choose especially when it comes to some tin like marriage.

Theophinio:

Did you even listen to yourself
This Generation
God help us

dam007:
LOL... well, I've been in one! For 8 years now! But here's the kick, is she a virgin?? Heck yeah! Am I?? Your guess is as good as mine! Frankly, every guy has a lady who's his cryptonite!! For me, she's safe because I respect her wish and equally want her happiness... do I love her? You bet.. plans on taking her home?? Check!! It's not the ability to abstain that's scarce these days... it's the patience that's only found in real love! Me o, I'm dating a "verified" V.. and I love her... but I smash away occasionally if need be if you get me!

dam007:
LOL... well, I've been in one! For 8 years now! But here's the kick, is she a virgin?? Heck yeah! Am I?? Your guess is as good as mine! Frankly, every guy has a lady who's his cryptonite!! For me, she's safe because I respect her wish and equally want her happiness... do I love her? You bet.. plans on taking her home?? Check!! It's not the ability to abstain that's scarce these days... it's the patience that's only found in real love! Me o, I'm dating a "verified" V.. and I love her... but I smash away occasionally if need be if you get me!

Mememan:

If you're not a virgin then,

[size=28pt]YOUR BOYFRIEND IS A FOOL [/size]

segcymoor:

One of the few things to happened to me is to meet u! Are u in Lagos.abeg I am toooo busy for all those social network chat.....Do check my WhatsApp line below to .



Note:I am practising Architect (married with a cute girl)
Talk is cheap girl. If u really practice what u preach........then d day u met will be memorable one for u. .....Trust me!

lahit14:
@op, thr's no doubt u'll certainly find people in that kind of relationship but its been abused as it is misapplied, people now hide behind it to coverup a lot, from impotency to lack of sexual urge and many other sexual incapabilities, even to hiding some kind of diseases. personal as being a christian, I'm certainly not for sex be4 marriage but neither do I disagree wit those that indulge. I tink if one wants to go into such, one should pray and ask God for the right person so that one won't regret ones actions. button line, every1 should get to choose especially when it comes to some tin like marriage.

ILAB:

Wen ever he comes around we spend quality time togeda,i know him to an extent

shadeyinka:


You are very wrong my dear! I have been married for years now and I didn't even suggest to my fiancee once in the two and a half years of our courtship to have sex with her.

Your premise is extremely wrong. I didn't abstain for lack of sexual performance inadequacy! No. I abstained because of Honour and Respect for Gods Words and Will. Minus these two points, I would have done what you are advocating.. Fornication!

When did formication become acceptable among Gods children? I advocate that you Repent, Love and Trust God (Be Born Again) and hence forth, practice secondary virginity/abstinence.

How many marriage where abstinence was practiced during courtship had resulted in divorce due to sexual problems relative to those who had sex in their courtship?

firstking01:
Nope, to invert the question, how many girls can be in a relationship with a guy without asking for money, because most times that's where most guys get the inspiration to demand for sex since that's what "most" of you girls have to offer@ ireneony

segcymoor:

Well, u will agreed with me that God will surpassing fornication.u are expected to respect ur body and that of wife even after wedding. To ve sex at her will and above all being keep our heart pure
I




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I.ve been following u even outside this threads. U seem to be a good thinker. Tell me:what's ur profession?

shadeyinka:


I used to be a teacher at one of our higher institutions.
By spiritual callin/giftings also a teacher.

God has been faithful to me in giving me insights to deep spiritual issues. I wish all Christians would ask questions about the foundation of their faith and thus learn that faith is NOT blind.

segcymoor:

Good! Tell me: Have u ever come across this book.
The Human machine and Students companions?

shadeyinka:

No! I have not. Is the electronic version available

shadeyinka:

No! I have not. Is the electronic version available