JeffreyJamez:
100% correct.

kayo80:


Okay. I would love to hear from other people on here too.

JeffreyJamez:


Only people with sense will agree. But boys who think with their balls won't.

kayo80:


Wait, so you mean a poor man has no rights dating at all?

Laveda:
I agree, that should be his top priority tho it won't be a bad idea if there's a sensible and understanding woman by his side.

JeffreyJamez:


Is that what the quote said?

kayo80:


It might imply that. What do you understand about the quote?

zicoraads:
She is right. If you can't get your woman the basic niceties, your goal should be making money, not chasing after women. Get the money and it'll be them doing the chasing.

Xensity:
To deviate a bit from the premise of this post. I am really not all that comfortable with the way the writer framed her post, where she stated that "every man's aim should be finding money and not women" and the fact that money and women are used comparatively in the same sentence. As if women are a treasure that every rich man should find, after finding another equal treasure, in money.
It sort of dehumanizes women and degrades them to precious objects that men who are financially comfortable seek for.

I believe society sort of has this distorted view on marriage, which is heavily influenced by religion, where women are basically trophies to be won or acquired by powerful and wealthy men, and I am not entirely against this view, but I think in a modern era which we currently exist in, we should try to change our views on marriage. Marriage should be seen as a partnership enterprise between two equal humans, who are affectionately oriented towards each other, not a "strictly men" ultimate search, with a woman as the ultimate treasure.

JeffreyJamez:


What do you mean by "get your woman the basics niceties "?

zicoraads:

Anniversaries...Birthdays...little presents. Surprises...dinner. Outings. Ain't those basics?

Xensity:
To deviate a bit from the premise of this post. I am really not all that comfortable with the way the Bolaji framed her statement, where she stated that "every man's aim should be finding money and not women," and the fact that money and women are used comparatively in the same sentence. As if women are a treasure that every rich man should find, after finding another equal treasure, in money.
It sort of dehumanizes women and degrades them to precious objects that only men who are financially comfortable should seek for.

I believe society sort of has this distorted view on marriage, which is heavily influenced by religion, where women are basically trophies to be won or acquired by powerful and wealthy men, and I am not entirely against this view, but I think in a modern era which we currently exist in, we should try to change our views on marriage. Marriage should be seen as a partnership enterprise between two equal humans, who are affectionately oriented towards each other, not a "strictly men" ultimate search, with a woman as the ultimate treasure.

JeffreyJamez:



....and which rule says only the man can/should initiate this?

zicoraads:

Did I say only he should?

JeffreyJamez:


Your statement implied it

JeffreyJamez:



A female who wants to be seen as a trophy will be seen as such.

Xensity:


The issue of choice is a rather different ball game entirely, and doesn't really feed into this. How we perceive ourselves isn't actually an independent, conscious, well contemplated decision we arrive at, most times, this perception is a precise product of conditioning. Studies have shown that self perception is heavily a product of conditioning. Most females don't decide to see themselves as trophies, they are conditioned by society to see themselves as trophies. And statements like Bolaji's, which usually go unexamined and exciorated, help nourish this negative conditioning.

zicoraads:

Is it then my fault if you inferred wrongly? You need English lessons

zicoraads:

Werin do BBM?

JeffreyJamez:


School me, professor

zicoraads:

School you? Young lad, trust me, you really can't afford my services