Marriage is one factors that is considered in Nigeria when describing who is a responsible member of a society and who is not. More often than not some individuals are denied certain responsibilities, not because they are not qualified or capable of handling such responsibilities but because they are not considered matured enough for that. Not matured in the sense of not been married.

In Nigeria’s north, bachelors who are seen to be capable of been married are not often allowed to lead people who are married in prayers. This does not mean that God does not accept their prayers, but that they lack the credibility of leading such prayers. In family decision-making, people who are married are given more say than does that are not. Some one is respected for the mare fact that he or she is said to be married.

In spite of the above-mentioned advantages of marriage and many others not mentioned, we still have a great deal of divorces in our societies. If you go to any of our local courts, most of the cases you hear are those associated with marriage. One begins to wander what has gone wrong with this most respected social institution. The reason for this ugly phenomenon is not far fetched. Its ranges from economic problems to that of misunderstanding from both parties or rather the activities of some mischievous member of the society in which they leave.


Materialism is one factor that leads to the break down of marriages:
When a man is seeking the hand of a woman in marriage, he pretends a lot. He claims he owns or can do what he knows he is not capable of doing. And the women who are so much inclined to marrying only the well to do individuals hardly investigate the claims by these suitors, there by landing themselves in homes that are far from their imaginations and dreams.

The second factor that leads to failure in marriage is the influence of parents on the lives of their children
Some controversial parents do not seem to understand that married couples have their lives to leave and decision the make concerning what affects their lives.


Another problem that is a stumbling block to a successful marriage life is when the marriage was not concluded base on mutual understanding of both parties.

Some women deceive themselves by thinking that they are too beautiful that even if they are divorced, other suitors will still admire them. The truth here is that even if you are as beautiful as the gold, once you are out of your first matrimonial home you are a ‘second hand woman.’ This is the truth whether we like it or not.

Some men hide under the pretext that they have every right to divorce their wives and marry others. We must make it clear that despite the fact that God has given some people rights to divorce but there is nothing the almighty hates like divorce. It has been reported that the kingdom of the almighty shakes when divorce is mentioned.

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