Hello family,
am an active member here on nl but have to change my username cause of the taunting and perhaps abusive words I might receive here

pls I really need the advice of the family am at that point in life where u feel like taking ur own life cause of the troubles of life , I was orphaned at a very young age of 10 and growing up without the love, care of a mother or father is really depressing , I was brought up by an uncle who only trained me in high school


ever since I wrote waec in 2013 he has never asked me what I want to do in life , I did menial jobs so I can gather fund to sponsor myself in the university I've taken jamb and post utme twice since then and each time I won't gain admission even though I had a very good score which should have merited me a slot on the admission list ,


I've even tried to see if I can get a job bt finding a job in the eastern part of the country is very hard, now am considering on moving to lagos to see if i can find something that will keep me busy while I still pursue my dream of going to the university

pls family I need your advice on what to do am like a lost sheep with nobody to direct me u guys are the only family I know that will give the advice that I need so I won't make a mistake , am an only son and a lot of things are expected from me

sorry for the long epistle
pls I need ur kindest advice

guy, first u need to understand that ur uncle owe u nothing,peroid!!!! ... he's just ur uncle and by the way ..maybe he's going thru tough times himself
- u need to find something doing,don't wait for ur uncle to ask u wat u want n life ...atleast ur thru wt sec school ... try something , let him see u do something i bet u he'll assist u if need be
- relocation is ok, but don't just jump into it ...plan properly ask ur self some fundamental questions like - shelter, feeding ... don't just carry ur bag to Lagos.

continue wt ur savings - menial jobs, don't bother admission will come wen it will come,just keep trying .
try different schools - but go read something gud, not just anything in the name entering uni

Do you have somewhere to stay in Lagos?

Ok! The good thing now is that you have good jamb scores. And JAMB scores are now valid for 3years. So no need retaking it for now.

I wouldn't advice going to Lagos just like that to hustle. As tempting as it is, I don't think you will get to even finish your university if you go to Lagos! Your hometown may be hard, but it is a lot cheaper than Lagos where you will lack emotional and financial support.

I suggest you find a church where a responsible member of society can take you under their wing and mentor you. Observe the family you choose carefully, and then introduce yourself and the challenges you are having. Please don't approach someone that cannot help your future o.

Sit down and decide which school you want to go to, and target a reputable lecturer on that school as a mentor. The person will put you through your admission challenges, as the issue of a good score is not even there. On the side please think of something to do that you can support yourself with.

Everyone in this life at some point has one challenge or the other! The hand that life has dealt you is so that you can become stronger and more self reliant. Is there a skill you think you can acquire while looking for a mentor? Look around your environment and try to see where opportunities are needed. What do people need that you can provide? Let us know.

My personal Advice: As an orphan, never ever disappoint those who truly help you along your journey. As you don't have a lot of close family, you need your network of trusted friends. This doesn't mean you should trust everyone. Trust those who genuinely want to help you, without trying to make you pay for it in obscene ways. And never bite those fingers that selflessly fed you. Including your uncle, he has tried in his own little way. It's now up to you to plan carefully and properly. Always keep your eyes on your goal and do not get carried away by quick fixes or quick money. God will see you through. Always believe that.

My friend you better go and learn a skill .habdwork forget school....... Do u knw how many graduates are jobless look within nd look for a good skill

Op you can come to Lagos and hustle, if and only if you have where to stay.. And also think about the kind of menial jobs want to do in Lagos, then retake jamb again in Lagos, also search for a very good church too in Lagos.. And u will see how things will change for the better..
It's good to leave ones familiar zone and take the bulls by the horn by starting up somewherelse in a different environment.
It's a huge step to free you from anything that could be holding you back.
Best of luck as u think deeply about it.
Cheers