TheSeeker:

And if you think Nigerian women are bad at these? Try Asian women. Go to California, UK and see how these Asian women flock to get married to American and British men at all cost just so they can get passport, and trust me, they don't marry averagely pocket-sized men, they go for the rich guys. In my opinion, Asian women are worse gold diggers than Nigerian's.

What you will find common in Asia is a woman who's had two or more kids in her home country, all of a sudden she finds a way to get to the States, then she plays some games and finds fault in a husband that never was doing wrong, she files for divorce from the States to her home country, she goes back there and get her kids and they live in the States. How many men have been left by their wives because of the supposed juiciness of America? Lots and lots of men, go to Asia and figure.

I don't understand you. Basically these Asian women are transporting their culture to the US. they are not imitating american culture.
In their culture, probably the idea of marriage is for sustainment rather than strictly for love. I have an asian friend who told me this too. they try to marry a guy who is well off so that they can have a good life in the future. I don't see any bad thing in that. I mean men also select women who they find most attractive so why can't women seek out men they find most successful?
I think the idea of "love love and love only" is mostly american. 

Moral of the post; make sure your wife is matured enough b4 you decide to travel abroad with her.

There is a reason why God said "WOMEN BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR HUSBANDS" (Let me play the religious card here. . . lol).I'll do my best not to be "sexist" (all these new oyibo names wey dey glorify woman-ism sef).Women leaving their husbands as soon as they hit greener pastures is very common.It's not a new thing.Women are naturally selfish in nature (make we talk small truth).They care only about their comfort (kids maybe) and nothing else.When a woman knows she can do something and get away with it, she doesn't look back and consider sentiments (for those who think they are the weaker vessels, na only for physicality that one end).

My people have a proverb.It goes like this :


When a man is moving up the ladder in life, he looks left,right,back and center before moving forward.When a woman is moving forward in life, she develops wings and flies away (not minding who's oz gets gored).America has successfully killed the marriage institution (no thanks to the Rockefeller family who pull the strings in keeping the world's population from exploding).It's very easy, you kill the family system, you reduce the amount of children per year.That is why they are legalizing gay marriages, supporting feminism to outrageous heights and much more.Think about it, a man and woman have their place in society.That's the way it was intended but the way it is now is : woman want both their rights as women and still want the rights of men.They want to work where men work and they still want to be treated like the ladies they are.Talk about injustice.Women currently have more rights than men (if the truth will be told) and the freaking bit**hes are still screaming "women's rights".In the US, if you marry a woman and cheat on her during the marriage, she sues your ass and gets at least half of your life's struggle (excluding child support).If you are in the US and you marry a woman who cheats on you, you sue her ass and she still gets half of your life's struggle (excluding child support).Tell me, where is the justice in that?It's outrageous.Who is crying out for rights of men?

This is why a lot of white guys aren't keen on marriage anymore.It's hard to see a marriage within the last 15 years that has lasted up to 10. Divorce is the in thing.Very common.A woman gets tired of your ass, all she needs do is cook up some silly stories about "neglect" and that's it.You lose everything while she lives lavida loca.You see a lot of single white women telling you their occupation is "stay at home mom".Imagine that?Who is paying the bills?Definitely some sucker somewhere and the woman lives her life stress free until the next sucker comes along.So when our 9ja woman go out there and see this in the land where women reign supreme, what do you expect?McCain knew what he was doing when he selected Governor-Dumb-Ass-Palin.It wasn't for her intelligence (for someone who claims to have vast knowledge of international relations and yet not know that Africa is a continent.Are they so many continents that she can't remember which is which?).He did it to earn "woman power".

I intend to take my woman abroad after marriage on honey moon but the highest i will do is Dubai.If she wan run away with Aboki for there, dat one no "consign" me.

Nuff said!

oyinda.:

I don't understand you. Basically these Asian women are transporting their culture to the US. they are not imitating american culture.
In their culture, probably the idea of marriage is for sustainment rather than strictly for love. I have an asian friend who told me this too. they try to marry a guy who is well off so that they can have a good life in the future. I don't see any bad thing in that. I mean men also select women who they find most attractive so why can't women seek out men they find most successful?
I think the idea of "love love and love only" is mostly american. 

I'm not sure of what to say about the emboldened part but I sure hope you're joking. Love is universal thing and not limited to some race or set of people. If you ask me, not most american women fall in love for the sake of love itself - if you get down to the true meaning of love, it cuts across a lot of areas than people can ever anticipate. A woman that tells you she loves you in the morning and all of a sudden in the evening something else happens and she starts to say stuff like she doesn't know if she loves you anymore and you call that love? If that's love, I'm going to pass and be a player.

There's nothing wrong in seeking comfort - everyone does - but not where you have to make it a priority. You only need to witness what I'm saying and you can see how disgustingly unappealing these Asian women are when it comes to getting married. I mean, I throw lots of respect at Nigerian women in some aspects when compared to Asian women. One thing I know for sure is it'll never happen in Nigeria that a woman will have kids for her husband and go abroad to get married to another man, seek divorce with the husband at home and want to run away with the kids, unless the man is a permanent and unrepentant dunce.

Nigerian women are saints when compared to Asian women in gold digging; at least we do it better and wiser than them and sometimes we do have feelings for these people. Come to California and see what these women are up to, but unfortunately for them, UK men are wiser now and know better hence, their decrement in population in England, but check out their population in California and Texas - especially California - you will be amazed.

GBAM, you hit the nail on the head

I have been to europe on several occasions and i must confess there are funny stories here and there, last time i was in plumstead London, there was this pot belly landlord who was on his kneels appealling to his wife because the wife threatened to lock him out of the house. I cant go into details of the story but what actually happened could never have taken place in Nigeria.

I am a bit disturbed about marrying a Nigerian based lady and taking her abroad though i believe in the equality of both sexes but we cannot forget our culture at thesame time, trust me a lady can easily open eye and allow this independent thing enter her head,  i can only pray mine doesnt do that in the negative way.

@meine

Thanks for your input.At least, we know the Europeans are "catching up" to the "fever".You mentioned "equality of sexes".What's with this equality thing anyways.I never heard of such in the bible (playing my religious card again. . . lol).Does this mean the women in the bible were unfairly treated?Was God wrong to tell them to be submissive to their husbands?

It's not about equality.It's about stripping men of their rights as men.In the US, there is a popular slang amongst women ( especially feminists).Maybe you heard of it :

"Girls rule, Boys drool"

That's the New World Order for you.This is the real meaning of "equality of sexes for you"

insults in laws, and make a home cleaning roaster for hussy!

This one na serious matter

lol @seeker. you seem to really have an agenda against asian women. I'm sorry but i'm forced to think that your pissed off at them because they refuse your advances. jk I mean I don't see any problem in the way they do their things. They are not forcing the men to marry them are they?
same with white women or black women. whatever motive they have to being with a guy, I don't think they force the men to the altar.

but I do agree that women who place the most priority on the material aspect of a relationship are just  


but to be honest though, I wouldn't stereotype asian women as "gold-diggers" I think it's just part of their culture for the family to prefer their daughters to marry up. Trust me i'm a girl and am very close friends with a few and understand the pressure their parents put on them to marry a relatively well off guy. I have a friend who is currently fighting with her mom right now because her mom doesn't like her boyfriend. the reason being that he is not as smart or well to do as her.  so, It's really a cultural thing to be fair.


anyways on a sidenote, this world is so sexist. nothing wrong with a man going after a woman with big booty and pretty face but there is something wrong with women going after a man with a relatively solid financial status. what a double standard. lollol

i feel u poster jare. it happens mostly amongst naija women thats why you see them with 1kid and no hsband single mothers. and the men are reduced to mumu that if the woman says jump they will say how high. i know these because my dad married a naija woman in london who already has a son who is life 17 or so, and anytime he wants something done he has to call me to do it for hime which i find very annonying and i voice it out to him. i have stopped visitig him in fact last time i saw him was 2yrs ago and coming to 3yrs now he lives in london and i in manchester. anytime i go to the house the way my dad runs aaround the woman is sooooooooooo annonying and this is a man of 60yrs old ooo. lol

all i am saying its not only wifes that are brought from naija misbehave even the ones you marry here in uk also misbehave and has bad attitude because the country gives woman a higher regards than men.

oyinda.:

lol @seeker. you seem to really have an agenda against asian women. I'm sorry but i'm forced to think that your pissed off at them because they refuse your advances. jk  I mean I don't see any problem in the way they do their things. They are not forcing the men to marry them are they?
same with white women or black women. whatever motive they have to being with a guy, I don't think they force the men to the altar.

but I do agree that women who place the most priority on the material aspect of a relationship are just  


but to be honest though, I wouldn't stereotype asian women as "gold-diggers" I think it's just part of their culture for the family to prefer their daughters to marry up. Trust me i'm a girl and am very close friends with a few and understand the pressure their parents put on them to marry a relatively well off guy. I have a friend who is currently fighting with her mom right now because her mom doesn't like her boyfriend. the reason being that he is not as smart or well to do as her.  so, It's really a cultural thing to be fair.


anyways on a sidenote, this world is so sexist. nothing wrong with a man going after a woman with big booty and pretty face but there is something wrong with women going after a man with a relatively solid financial status. what a double standard. lollol

I don't have issues with them, seriously. I think you're missing my point - I'm trying to state that Nigerian girls shouldn't be stereotyped as the kinds that mess up or always want to hang out with rich folks only, in fact, it's moderate with Nigerian girls. I made the Asian example because theirs is just worse, I mean very very worse. I know they aren't forcing the men to the altar but they got games they play with men's minds. Talk with an Asian girl today, as long as you're an American, the next day she'll claim to love you - I'm not exaggerating, I'm being very serious. I'm talking from things I've seen and experience I've had.

Try women from Philippines, Korea, Japan, China, Singapore (but very few of them here because most women from this place are workaholics), Malaysia (they abound in UK), etc.


Money is hard to come by, big booties are natural. They are two and too different

@Theseeker

Thank you jare.Trust the women.They will always come up with the "Shebi nobody forced the man to marry her" card but they deliberately manipulate the man into committing. A lot of marriages today are either by direct or indirect manipulation by the so called "weaker vessels". They will never see any fault in that.All they do is come up with obscene "reasoning"

Thank God we don't have a female president.She go just declare Friday nights as "daddy-backs-baby-night".Imagine make all man dey enter club on Friday nite with baby for back.That na the kind laws wey women go love to "shit" put inside constitution! ! !

@seeker


I don't think women should be stereotyped as gold diggers by nationality. Just women in general tend to look for a secure man period. some women are better at it than others and others are secure by themselves and don't need the extra security ( most american women)
you will notice that women from the poorer countries are the ones more likely to be labelled as "gold diggers"

and do you think the nigerian tradition of polygamy is based on love? lol  the guy look for a pretty girl and the girl look for a rich guy. simpe as that.

Money is hard to come by, big booties are natural. They are two and too different

rotflmao. true but i don't see how they are "too different" lol


lol @ mccloud.
what I mean is that the american men that are marrying these girls know that asian girls have reputation of looking for more wealthy guys. so what I mean is that they don't mind or don't care for the stereotype. I seriously don't think the girls are forcing marriage down their throats. they are not babies.

The poster and his friend are obviously not very smart

oyinda.:

lol @seeker. you seem to really have an agenda against asian women. I'm sorry but i'm forced to think that your pissed off at them because they refuse your advances. jk I mean I don't see any problem in the way they do their things. They are not forcing the men to marry them are they?
same with white women or black women. whatever motive they have to being with a guy, I don't think they force the men to the altar.

but I do agree that women who place the most priority on the material aspect of a relationship are just  


but to be honest though, I wouldn't stereotype asian women as "gold-diggers" I think it's just part of their culture for the family to prefer their daughters to marry up. Trust me i'm a girl and am very close friends with a few and understand the pressure their parents put on them to marry a relatively well off guy. I have a friend who is currently fighting with her mom right now because her mom doesn't like her boyfriend. the reason being that he is not as smart or well to do as her.  so, It's really a cultural thing to be fair.


anyways on a sidenote, this world is so sexist. nothing wrong with a man going after a woman with big booty and pretty face but there is something wrong with women going after a man with a relatively solid financial status. what a double standard. lollol

Women also seek physical qualities in men as well as money. Having a big booty and a pretty face are immutable traits and that which stays with you; money, on the other hand, can be acquired anytime during a relationship and can be lost. So, if a woman seeks out and marries a rich guy, what will this woman do when the guy loses his job or becomes financially bankrupt? Will she leave him and find the next rich guy? Money and looks are not the same thing.

People in Nigeria we have a culture (not minding the tribe) of love and respect in marriage ,you cannot not get this anywhere in the world the way it is in Nigeria,so if the dance changes direction,the on-lookers also will change direction.

@ poster

preach preacher!

kaypinchi:

Moral of the post; make sure your wife is matured enough b4 you decide to travel abroad with her.

and i suppose you'd marry a kid who needs to be trained (never mind what her parents have been doing for the past 20+ years)

Let's do the math cuz reading all these dumb comments making my eye and brain sore.First if 10 women out of let's say 4 million women commit these act.Won't that be at least like 0.1% which is not feasible for you to go sexist and start regarding all women as opportunist.Waits in uk sef?

Let's do the math cuz reading all these dumb comments making my eye and brain sore.First if 10 women out of let's say 4 million women commit these act.Won't that be at least like 0.1% which is not feasible for you to go sexist and start regarding all women as opportunist.Waits in uk sef?

pc guru:

Let's do the math cuz reading all these dumb comments making my eye and brain sore.First if 10 women out of let's say 4 million women commit these act.Won't that be at least like 0.1% which is not feasible for you to go sexist and start regarding all women as opportunist.Waits in uk sef?

unfortunately, most nigerian girls are opportunist and left to them alone, the stats will be like 99%

lool

anyway I found out some of this girls in abroad (Higher percentage) got this Stubborn and Stupid Ego that they can make it independently,

Rude!! they forgot their culture!! ish!!!! 

At the end of the day, they find them self been a  single mother  Oooorbi:: ela oju kan

@prince4lif, u are nothing but an insecure wimp! (no offence meant sincerely) but if u feel women (especially Nigerian women) should stay as slaves and should be given no freedom, then u definitely have a very serious problem .

A piece of advice for u: when u want to settle down pls go and marry an illiterate woman who will bow and worship your royal majesty!!! Because present day women are liberated and are free from the shackles of slavery, compulsory housewifery and chauvistic insecure wimps!!!!

Some women are different, that is why somebody has to know God.

You know I wanted to ignore this thread, but the more I keep seeing stupid comemnts from the so-called men, the more I get irritated.

How can someone actually think that a grown woman will get wild when exposed to 'freedom'. What the heck does that mean?

I bet if I happen to marry a guy abroad now, people will turn around and say I've grown wings because I saw freedom. Now that is dumb! Maybe I should throw my opinions to the sea because I dont want people to think like that!

African ladies (and men) like copying things, we are never original . . . . that is why we copy anything we see!

^^^^ Please speak for yourself only! Who are the 'we'

Must everyone has a daughter? I think I prefer I don't have. Wahala too much

@axeman85: i feel u poster jare. it happens mostly amongst naija women thats why you see them with 1kid and no hsband single mothers. and the men are reduced to mumu that if the woman says jump they will say how high.

Thats very true. Those london women use mumu control on their men without having to use juju, I HAPPY SAY GOD NO BE WOMAN IF NOT, HUMAN RACE GO SUFFER OHHHHHHHHHHH,

to avoid wahala best to marry a naija woman already staying abroad and is not moved by all these trappings of the west. As for the ones in naija . . . na mess and run

tit_squeez:

to avoid wahala best to marry a naija woman already staying abroad and is not moved by all these trappings of the west. As for the ones in  naija . . . na mess and run 

Hahaha no kill me with laugh oooo   , Na beans to see the one wey never accept that juicy  trappings these days? Even those back home are stepping it up self  .

Ujujoan:

^^^^ Please speak for yourself only! Who are the 'we' 

We = W[/b]omen and [b]E men 

seunbballo:

@axeman85: i feel u poster jare. it happens mostly amongst naija women thats why you see them with 1kid and no hsband single mothers. and the men are reduced to mumu that if the woman says jump they will say how high.

Thats very true. Those london women use mumu control on their men without having to use juju, I HAPPY SAY GOD NO BE WOMAN IF NOT, HUMAN RACE GO SUFFER OHHHHHHHHHHH,

Wetin you think be the solution now