DO YOU THINK YOU ACTUALLY KNOW WHO A REAL MAN OR A STRONG WOMAN IS?

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I have heard so many definitions of real men and strong women, but I don’t think some of those definitions really depict who a real man or a strong woman really is. I asked one of my female friends that is doing very well for herself ‘who she thinks a strong woman is?’ this is the answer she gave me. She said, ‘a strong woman is a woman who makes her own money and doesn’t depend on a man for anything’.


I was shocked at the last part of her definition that says ‘doesn’t depend on a man for anything’. So I asked her, even in marriage? She said yes, that a strong woman will have to tell her man that she can take care of herself and do anything that makes her happy, whether he is there or not. Really! I said.


Still in shock, I asked her, what is your own definition of a real man? She said, ‘a real man is a man that has his own money and he knows how to treat a woman right’. this time I got angry and I asked her, so you mean for a woman to be strong she has to make her own money and know how to make herself happy, while for a man to be real, he has to make his own money and know how to spend it on a woman, right? She confidently said yes.


I asked her sarcastically this time; ‘don’t you think women are being biased and greedy by expecting men to spend on them while they will not be willing to do the same?’ She quickly cut me short by saying, ‘ that’s how the world is, men that will expect any woman to spend her hard earned money that is supposed to be for her happiness are weak men’. I just could not ask her any more questions because I discovered the image she has created about her own real men and strong women is a biased one.


To her, if the man is not pleasing the woman, he is not a real man. But the woman does not have to please the man, she only has to make her own money and put the man down in order for her to be considered as a strong woman. This is exactly what many women actually think a strong woman is. They think a strong woman is a woman that can stand up to a man and tell him that ‘I don’t need your money or whatever you think you have, I have my own money and I can take care of myself’. This is one of the major reasons why relationships don’t last anymore because both men and women are beginning to think that they don’t need each other anymore.


This is what prompted me to sit down and begin to ponder on who I think a real man or a strong woman is to me. Here are my definitions of who I think a real man or a strong woman is:

WHO IS A REAL MAN?

A real man is a man that knows who he is, what he is and why he is what he is.


A real man is a man that respects himself, his marriage, his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that knows his responsibilities to his wife, his family and his society.


A real man is a man that does not look for the slightest opportunity to abuse his wife and children. He understands that she is prone to make mistakes because she is also human and he corrects her with love and care.


A real man is a man that will never do or engage in acts that will endanger his life, his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that will doggedly defend his wife and family from any negative external influence.


A real man is a man that is not scared to support his wife to achieve her dreams because he knows she will use it to build their home.


A real man is a man that willingly shares ideas with his wife and make her know his plans and intentions because he wants to build a better home.


A real man is a man that is not disturbed by the success of his wife because he understands that it is also for his own good and the good of his family.


A real man is a man that loves himself, his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that always puts in effort to enhance his relationship with his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that doesn’t walk out on his wife and children when they needed him the most.


A real man is a man that understands that every decision he takes whether good or bad will also affect the ones that cares about him.
Etc.

Real men are not identified by their appearances, social status, wealth or fame, they are known by their ACTIONS.


If I should ask you reading this, ‘can you confidently say you are a real man?’


WHO IS A STRONG WOMAN?

A strong woman is a woman that knows who she is, what she is and why she is what she is.


A strong woman is a woman that respects herself, her marriage, her husband and her family.


A strong woman is a woman that understands her responsibilities to her husband, her family and the society.


A strong woman is a woman that will never engage in acts that will endanger her life, her husband and her family.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t look down on her marriage and husband because she earns more than him.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t use her wealth to control her husband because she thinks she contributes more to the home than him.


A strong woman is a woman that understands that her husband is the head of the family and does all she can to support him to make the family stand.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t walk out on her marriage, her husband and her family in the event of difficulties or challenges.


A strong woman is a woman that takes her decision with care because she understands that every decision she takes will either directly or indirectly affect her marriage, her husband and her family.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t talk down on her husband at the slightest opportunity


A strong woman is woman that defends her husband and family from any negative external influence. Etc


Strong women are not identified by their appearance, social status, wealth or fame; they are identified by their ACTIONS.


Just because you earn more than a man doesn’t make you a strong woman; also, just because you claim to be independent, doesn’t still make you a strong woman. The fact that you talk down on men, trample down men or try to put men where you think they belong doesn’t also make you a strong woman. Strong women value themselves, their marriage, their men and their family.


Do you think you have what it takes to be regarded as a strong woman?

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my brother a strong man is a man who is PROVIDER............And a strong woman is a woman who is HELP the man becomes what he should become with no interference.

OP, Nice definition...but it seems the definition is connected to marriage & religion... Going by ur definition, those who are single or divorced/separated are not strong

the poster above me took those words from my mouth, the poster below me though needs brain reset

Cholls:
my brother a strong man is a man who is PROVIDER............And a strong woman is a woman who is HELP the man becomes what he should become with no interference.

from d illustration I gave, many women think they are entitled to whatever a man has, that is exactly what you av also stated that she'll av to support your dream. what about both of you supporting each others dreams for the overall good of the family.

gabinogem:
OP, Nice definition...but it seems the definition is connected to marriage & religion... Going by ur definition, those who are single or divorced/separated are not strong

bro, real men are men taking responsibilities and charting d course of their lives not d ones dat are still sagging, forming fine boys and jumping from one babe to the other. just joking! lol

jadyclem:

bro, real men are men taking responsibilities and charting d course of their lives not d ones dat are still sagging, forming fine boys and jumping from one babe to the other. just joking! lol

I thought u were going to come up with a reasonable response to the question I asked, not some flimsy joke.

Maybe I should rephrase the question for u to come up with a tangible response this time; if a man or woman is single or divorced isn't he/she qualified to be a real man or a strong woman?

gabinogem:
I thought u were going to come up with a reasonable response to the question I asked, not some flimsy joke.
Maybe I should rephrase the question for u to come up with a tangible response this time; if a man or woman is single or divorced isn't he/she qualified to be a real man or a strong woman?

chill bro, I see dat u don't av a sense of humour. ur question is answered in the first definition of who I think a real man or a real woman is. someone that knows who he/she is, has a defined path for his/her life and walks on dat path without any fear. whether married or not, real men are men that don't run away from their responsibilities; they know what they want and they don't leave their life to chance. if shld respond to ur question en, I'll compose another full article again. most of my definitions of real men or strong women above are marriage or relationship related. shay I don try answer ur question small?

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